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Getting him to stay in our yard
mamatobe08 posted:
DS takes off for the neighbor's yard all the time. The problem is their driveway is on our side of the yard. Not a problem when the 90 year old woman that lives there was by herself. Now her son moved in to help care for her, and he drives. First, he has never had kids and he's clueless in all aspects of the word. He doesn't talk to people, doesn't know how to interact with others, etc.
Tonight he yelled at my mom for letting Charlie into their yard. Ok, yes, it's our responsibility to keep him in our yard. But he was just so harsh and didn't seem to understand that kids take off and no matter what, he should check behind the car before backing up. We're looking into getting a fence for the backyard...
When DB was here this weekend, all he had to do was tell Charlie NO and he would stay in the yard. My mom and I say "no" and Charlie takes off running and giggling. I'm stern, I give him a mean look, I do ALL THE THINGS DB DOES and he doesn't take me seriously! I feel so out of control, I'm the sole parent 2 weeks at a time(3 weeks this time actually), and soon I'm going to have another baby.
Ok, emotional preggo over here...please give me any words of wisdom for how to go from the "funny" parent to one that means business.
Tonight he yelled at my mom for letting Charlie into their yard. Ok, yes, it's our responsibility to keep him in our yard. But he was just so harsh and didn't seem to understand that kids take off and no matter what, he should check behind the car before backing up. We're looking into getting a fence for the backyard...
When DB was here this weekend, all he had to do was tell Charlie NO and he would stay in the yard. My mom and I say "no" and Charlie takes off running and giggling. I'm stern, I give him a mean look, I do ALL THE THINGS DB DOES and he doesn't take me seriously! I feel so out of control, I'm the sole parent 2 weeks at a time(3 weeks this time actually), and soon I'm going to have another baby.
Ok, emotional preggo over here...please give me any words of wisdom for how to go from the "funny" parent to one that means business.
Michelle(24), DB Drew(26), DS Charlie 11/4/08, New Baby Boy EDD 12/1/10! My blog thismamaneeds.blogspot.com
4 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Getting him to stay in our yardDS takes off for the neighbor's yard all the time. The problem is their driveway is on our side of the yard. Not a problem when the 90 year old woman that lives there was by herself. Now her son moved in to help care for her, and he drives. First, he has never had kids and he's clueless in all aspects of the word. He doesn't talk to people, doesn't know how to interact with others, etc. <br /><br />Tonight he yelled at my mom for letting Charlie into their yard. Ok, yes, it's our responsibility to keep him in our yard. But he was just so harsh and didn't seem to understand that kids take off and no matter what, he should check behind the car before backing up. We're looking into getting a fence for the backyard...<br /><br />When DB was here this weekend, all he had to do was tell Charlie NO and he would stay in the yard. My mom and I say "no" and Charlie takes off running and giggling. I'm stern, I give him a mean look, I do ALL THE THINGS DB DOES and he doesn't take me seriously! I feel so out of control, I'm the sole parent 2 weeks at a time(3 weeks this time actually), and soon I'm going to have another baby.<br /><br />Ok, emotional preggo over here...please give me any words of wisdom for how to go from the "funny" parent to one that means business. <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/frown.gif" align="top" border="0">
roni090909 responded:
Electric fence LOL just kidding 
He just needs to learn that you are boss. No means No. He gets two warnings and the third time is time out or whatever you do for punishment. He is going to push you more just because you are with him more. It doesn't mean that he is out of control, its their job as toddlers to push us. Your a great mommy, just keep after him. He will start to listen.
He just needs to learn that you are boss. No means No. He gets two warnings and the third time is time out or whatever you do for punishment. He is going to push you more just because you are with him more. It doesn't mean that he is out of control, its their job as toddlers to push us. Your a great mommy, just keep after him. He will start to listen.
Me (30) DH (37) DS born 10/20/08 New Little Girl due 11/11/10
Report This| Share this:Getting him to stay in our yardElectric fence LOL just kidding <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0"><br /><br />He just needs to learn that you are boss. No means No. He gets two warnings and the third time is time out or whatever you do for punishment. He is going to push you more just because you are with him more. It doesn't mean that he is out of control, its their job as toddlers to push us. Your a great mommy, just keep after him. He will start to listen.
simerlm responded:
Aww...It must be really hard being preggo and caring for Charlie without your DB for a couple of weeks at a time. You are a brave lady!
Is there some sort of boundary line between properties? If not, maybe you could use some of the orange soccer cones or something as a visual reminder that he can't go past. Then, when he tries to cross the boundary, he has to pay the consequences, like time out. Maybe that will help him realize where the stopping point is. I know my kids have all gone through the phase when I say, "stop" that they just run faster. Good Luck!
Is there some sort of boundary line between properties? If not, maybe you could use some of the orange soccer cones or something as a visual reminder that he can't go past. Then, when he tries to cross the boundary, he has to pay the consequences, like time out. Maybe that will help him realize where the stopping point is. I know my kids have all gone through the phase when I say, "stop" that they just run faster. Good Luck!
Misty(30) DH(32) Handsome DS(9)Princess DD1(7)Preemie DD2(21 months)
Report This| Share this:Getting him to stay in our yardAww...It must be really hard being preggo and caring for Charlie without your DB for a couple of weeks at a time. You are a brave lady!<br /> <br />Is there some sort of boundary line between properties? If not, maybe you could use some of the orange soccer cones or something as a visual reminder that he can't go past. Then, when he tries to cross the boundary, he has to pay the consequences, like time out. Maybe that will help him realize where the stopping point is. I know my kids have all gone through the phase when I say, "stop" that they just run faster. Good Luck!
mamatobe08 replied to simerlm's response:
Thanks ladies. Last night I went to the library to get 123 Magic. I read it after DS went to bed and I started using it today after getting more tips from Jamie. It worked great! We didn't have to use it with the driveway because we ran errands most of the day today, but I did do it when he was being a total crab this morning. After the first time out, the second time I counted to 2, he stopped being fussy! I don't know if it's a coincidence, but it seems it worked! I was just feeling way overwhelmed last night, but today I feel more in control.
It worked great! We didn't have to use it with the driveway because we ran errands most of the day today, but I did do it when he was being a total crab this morning. After the first time out, the second time I counted to 2, he stopped being fussy! I don't know if it's a coincidence, but it seems it worked! I was just feeling way overwhelmed last night, but today I feel more in control.Michelle(24), DB Drew(26), DS Charlie 11/4/08, New Baby Boy EDD 12/1/10! My blog thismamaneeds.blogspot.com
Report This| Share this:Getting him to stay in our yardThanks ladies. Last night I went to the library to get 123 Magic. I read it after DS went to bed and I started using it today after getting more tips from Jamie. <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0"> It worked great! We didn't have to use it with the driveway because we ran errands most of the day today, but I did do it when he was being a total crab this morning. After the first time out, the second time I counted to 2, he stopped being fussy! I don't know if it's a coincidence, but it seems it worked! <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0"> I was just feeling way overwhelmed last night, but today I feel more in control.
mommy5kiddos replied to mamatobe08's response:
123 Magic is awesome. Just make sure everyone is on board. It works SO much better when everyone works together.
Mama to five kiddies....DS (4), DD1 (3.5), DD2 (23mos), and newborn twin girls :)
Report This| Share this:Getting him to stay in our yard123 Magic is awesome. Just make sure everyone is on board. It works SO much better when everyone works together.
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