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kiercey posted:
my 11 yr old daughter was just diagnosed this past week with severe ADHD and a mild case of Major Depression Disorder. the past few years have been very difficult at home and at school. i always thought her issues were due to the fact that im a single mom and its been a rough road for both me and my 2 daughters. i was always making excuses for her behavior until the end of this last school year. her teacher called me for an unexpected visit and we had a long conversation abt ADHD. she explained how her oldest daughter was diagnosed with ADHD and how she sees so many similar behaviors in my own daughter. knowing she does indeed have ADHD has helped me understand whats going on with her and im thankful for that. i know the road is going to be long and hard for us. i joined this community for an even better understanding of ADHD and how to cope with everyday situations. any advice and tips are welcome. hopefully i can add my own insight for others in the future.
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Boyzmomee responded:
Nice to meet you!

Who diagnosed your daughter? A specialist? Has she been prescribed any medication?

I have two sons one w/ ADD and one with ADHD. The oldest is 21 and the youngest will be 14 next week.

I would not only follow the advice of her physician but also obtain therapy for your daughter and joint sessions w/ you if the therapist recommends it. I would also obtain either an IEP or 504 plan at school. Take in paperwork from your daughter's physical documenting her diagnoses. Your daughter needs supports and accommodations to help her succeed in school. She has a very caring teacher, it seems.

I try to highly structure my son's day and provide opportunities for lots of physical activity. You and your daughter can work together on a daily schedule.

I would praise and provide positive reinforcement any time you can, as well as offer lots of hugs and attention.

Check out the CHADD website. They have lots of information and even forums. There are good books on ADHD that you can buy used at Amazon.com. The American Academy of Pediatrics has a good one.

Try woodbinehouse, too. They have a book I'm going to order:

Late, Lost, and Unprepared

A Parents' Guide to Helping Children with Executive Functioning.

Lol.
 
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kiercey replied to Boyzmomee's response:
nice to meet you too! after my daughters teacher talked to me, we went to see the family physician. he then referred her to a therapist who evaluated and tested her. she is currently visiting her father but will be back next week where we will meet again with the family physician to discuss medication. i talked to her the other day and shes taking the news very well. shes been researching ADHD online and talking with other kids who have ADHD. taking the advice of the therapist, i will be seeking a behavior therapist for her after we figure out the medicine and get that all straightened out. hopefully i will find a good family councilor in the area as well to help us all understand each other better. little sister doesnt understand why her big sissy gets mad at her so much and stuff of that nature. thank you for all the advice. its definately something for me to look into
 
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Boyzmomee replied to kiercey's response:
My advice would be to have a child psychiatrist evaluate her and to provide medication if needed, rather than a family physician.

I feel very strongly that since your daughter has ADHD and Major Depression, this would be necessary.

Don't forget the school involvement as your daughter spends a great deal of her day there. I had a typo and meant to say take in paperwork from your daughter's physician documenting her diagnoses.
 
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Patricia Quinn, MD responded:
Kiercey

Welcome! What a very fortunate daughter you have! She is now diagnosed and getting the help she needs. Reading about ADHD and finding ways to gain control and make things better is critical. As I am an expert in ADHD in girls may I offer several additional suggestions and resources. First, our website, www.addvance.com has lots of info and articles on girls with ADHD. Next, our book, Understanding Girls with ADHD (you can find it in the bookstore on the site) for you and her father to read will provide many answers and aha moments. It covers specific issues from preschool through high school so should help with the years ahead.

My favorite book, however, is the one I wrote last year for the girls themselves, Attention, Girls! It has won three awards and is just beautiful! The girls fall in love with it and not only find answers but find friends within its pages. It's perfect for an 11 year old.

Keep up the good work. Things will be difficult at times, but remember you are fortunate that you know what is going on... sure to take time and enjoy the good stuff and there will be lots of that as well!
 
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Gina Pera replied to Patricia Quinn, MD's response:
Hi all,

I second that mention of Dr. Quinn's book, Attention, Girls!


Not only is the information solid and highly readable, but the book itself is very attractive. Nice paper stock. Cute illustrations of the girls who embody the wide range of ADHD symptoms.

In fact, I typically recommend it to women with ADHD, too. It can help them better understand their childhood experiences and even their adult ones as well.

Gina Pera
 
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forthem9634 replied to Boyzmomee's response:
Does chewing the medicine (rinalin) opposed to swallowing it make any significant diffrence or any diffrence? My daughter and I are trying to figure this out (shes 6) im new to this so if anyone can help me that would be great.
 
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Gina Pera responded:
HI Kiercey.

Thank goodness for that teacher eh? I'm glad you took her perspective to heart and looked into an evaluation for your daughter.

The mythology around ADHD can be so harmful, especially the mythology that "teachers are diagnosing ADHD!" and "teachers want to drug the kids so they don't have to teach them!"

Maybe some teachers do speak out of ignorance or the wrong motives. But by far, I hear more stories about teachers noticing the signs and wanting to alert the parents for the child's sake. Often, teachers are more familiar than some parents with the range of "normal' for childhood development. So they will see the signs that the parents miss.

I could see how you would attribute your child's challenges to any trauma or difficulties around divorce and single parenthood. But I wonder what is the likelihood that your ex-husband has unrecognized/untreated ADHD, which might have contributed to the breakup. Or perhaps you have ADHD? ADHD is highly genetic, so there is most likely a familial link somewhere.

I'm glad you've found WebMD's solid source of information about ADHD. Please read through the files.

I would also recommend the book of my fellow expert here, Patricia Quinn, MD. She is a longtime leader in ADHD awareness and information who has written many books. But the one I am thinking of for you and your girl is called Attention Girls. Here is a link to its page on Amazon.com:

http://www.amazon.com/Attention-Girls-Guide-Learn-about/dp/1433804484/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1325358046&sr=1-2

Best of luck to you!
Gina Pera
 
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Gina Pera replied to Patricia Quinn, MD's response:
Gee, I should have seen there were several replies here before I wrote one. I'm working on a small computer with a small screen, and so I missed it.

I see some great responses here from Boysmomee and Dr. Quinn, who is a foremost expert in the field.

You are in good hands, Kiercey!
 
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KAT11211 responded:
although its an older book...check out driven to distraction...written by two doctors one who had ADD himself. I have not finished it yet but i have laughed and cried. My son 7 yo was just diagnosed and I too am a single mother also makign excuses until ne amazing angel of a teacher took an interest.


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