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An_250172 posted:
Hello, I'm a 20 year old female and I was recently diagnosed by my family doctor with ADHD, and was prescribed adderall, though I have several problems that still plague my everyday life. I mentioned having ADHD to my mother which agreed that I seem to fit the criteria, but she eventually dismissed or forgot about it (she's very similar to me in that respect) and I took the problem into my own hands after a while, which resulted in my doctor making the diagnosis. Unfortunatly, I have two major problems with my current situation.
The first problem I'm encountering is that it's hard to talk about things like this to my family, which has (since about the start of middle school) always just thought of my lack of motivation and forgetful tendencies as laziness or something of that nature which is not true. I was told (when I was tested as a child) that I had an IQ of 147, which is an amazing gift and a constant curse for me. I'm constantly told that I'm "not living up to my potential" in school or other areas of my life and frustrates me even more than I already am with myself. I never had trouble in elementary school, besides me occasionally talking my mom into letting me stay home or my "take home report card" having comments about talking too much to my friends, but it resulted with me doing absolutely great there because my high intelligence compensated.
Although, as I progressed through my schooling my grades steadily dropped, and I became more focused on my social life than school. I had excessive absences and tardies but still slid by, always with my friends saying "I dont understand how you're never here but when the test comes you get an A." I took advantage of that fact, and realized I "didn't have to be there all the time" to do just as well. I maintained consistent A's and B's with the exception of two or three classes. One in particular, a math class my senior year, I almost didn't pass. It was towards the end of my day and I seriously could not make myself pay attention in that class. Either I was daydreaming, talking, or drawing while everyone else was taking notes, and I ended up getting a D in the class. My parents and family immediately jumped all over me about it, and insisted I just wasn't trying hard enough, and would remind me of quickly I can fly through a book, or how great I've done in a class I'm interested in. (also, I've found that I'm more of an inattentive, impulsive, hyper focused type, with very mild hyperactive symptoms through-out the years, which also helped to work against me in the respect of a diagnosis)
This same pattern has not only followed but has become worse, and I'm now a junior in college. I have transferred schools once, changed my major 3 times, and failed 3 classes. How can I get my family to understand I really am trying??? I know I'm an intelligent person, but that is of no help to me if i'm constantly weighed down by all this frustration, which is part of why I still don't make it to class or turn in my assignments even if their finished. I really am trying, i just cant seem to make myself do what I KNOW i need to do, its insanity, and no one wants to believe that I have ADHD or ADD because "I'm just too smart." This really makes me second guess myself, and just feel lazy, and feel like i'm making excuses for myself. Is this really consistant with ADHD?Any suggestions that could help?
Also, I'm wondering if I should see a specialist for adhd, because the medication prescribed to me was working wonderfully at first, and now it seems to have lost effect, and either doesn't work at all, or wears off very quickly. I'm wondering if the XR medications would be more effective? I know that medication alone isnt enough when it comes to this problem, and I plan on seeing a counselor of some sort if I cant get my family to come around and try to help.

Thanks, any input or stories similar to mine would help me a lot!
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Wayne95670 responded:
I and my Daughter have ADD. While my Daughter was in college (UC Davis) she declared that she had a learning disability and the college accommodated her. The college allowed her extra time to take tests and gave her other ways to help her with her studies. She graduated with a degree in anthropology. I have been taking a med known as Straterra. I have been reading that everyone on this site takes aderall, which seems to be old school. You might want to look at declaring the disability, and checking into Straterra. Good Luck.


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