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    Hello .... want to adopt
    mrsjmsr posted:
    Hi. I have been thinking about adoption for a while. I have not been able to get my husband on board. I wanted to know if any one had some advice? I do not know much about adoption. My husband thinks that we will end up with someone's problem child or a child that ends up having alot of medical problems. Can someone share a story that might convince him otherwise?

    thank you
    fiannakyn responded:
    well his assumption are pretty rare.

    It also depends on what kind of adoption you're interested in.
    International adoption can result in medical and emotionally troubled children, but usualy are also very easily worked through, and you'd know what you were getting into before hand.

    Domestic infant children have just as much chance of medical issues as any other child, and again, you'd mostly know what you were getting into before hand. Just as if you were carrying the child yourself.

    Domestic Foster care adoption has the spotlight a lot, as they are trying to find homes for waiting children, so that may be where he's gotten the idea of a "problem child" because the ones televised have been in the system for a long time, and that does come with problems, plus the neglect or abuse that brought them into care. but again, the horror stories are few and far between. I knew a young man that was adopted at 15 after 10 years of being passed around in the system, plus the 5 years of neglect and abuse before that. You'd think he'd be a surly troubled youth destined for jail. But instead he's now 19 and going to a presigous law school to be a lawyer working with the foster system.

    I dont have access to the list if websites but if you google you'll find plenty of good stories. You might check locally for an information seminar or support group.
    Vicky(33), married 10 years, no children. Fought (and lost) infertility for all 10 years. Moving on to adoption, currently in process of being licensed with DFS of Missouri to foster.

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