Adoption Support Group

Hello all. Vicki wanted my adoption story and I'm not good at remembering or e-mailing it so...I figured I would share it here!

My husband and I were married in April 2005. I have a family history of fertility problems so we started ttc right away. We never were able to conceive so we saw an RE in Dec 2006 and I was diagnosed with PCOS. I took metformin, clomid and we were considering IVF (my re wanted to skip IUI) but I had to have my gallbladder removed. We took a break from ttc and three months later I was preggo but I m/c very early with a blighted ovum. We really started considering adoption at that time. In December of 2007 I got pregnant again with our son, Jude. We were so excited! I carried him for 23 weeks and 5 days. The doctors never figured out why my water broke or why I went into preterm labor. He was flown to Cardinal Glennon Hospital where he lived for 10 days. He died on May 31, 2008 in my husbands arms. We waited for until December 2008 to start the adoption process. We were afraid at first that people would think that we were trying to forget Jude since we were going through the process so soon after his death. But everyone understood. We wanted to be parents. We happened to apply at the right time b/c no one else had applied. We started our process in December and were done with it in April of 2009. We opted for an open adoption if that is what the birth mother wanted. So we made a profile for the birth mother to see and waited. We were told of a few babies that could possibly be matched up with us but the birth mothers chose other families. Finally on March 2, 2010 we were told that a baby boy was born to a mother that didn't know who the father was and didn't want to choose the parents. She had an emergency c-section and didn't even want to know what the sex of the child was. The ob nurses named him Jason. They asked if we would consider taking him b/c he might have fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS). We said let me think about it YES!!!!! There was no thinking involved. On March 10 we went and had our Placement Ceremony. It was then that the baby was given to us. We changed his name to Gabriel. We are now waiting for our lawyer to call us with a court date b/c our 6 month waiting period is over (we had to wait an additional 45 days due to the birth mother now knowing who the father was). All we have to do now is go to court and finalize the adoption!! We are soooo excited!!! Anyway...that is my story....