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BabyLovesPrada posted:
Ok, so I went shopping for my niece Rachel's Bday gift, the plan was the swimsuit, towel, sandals and sunglasses.

So I went a store and I was pretty shocked at how skanky the bathing suits for little girls were! I mean some of them had PADDING in the bikini cup (yes, I said Padding and bikini) they were wicked low cut on the top and highcut on the bottom ( for the record, I have seen some VERY cute two piece bathing suits, so its not the two piece part that traumatized me LOL)

I think string bikinis are cute, not a 4 year old! Look I am far from a prude and I grew up on the beach, so being in a bathing suit is nothing to me, and frankly if I knew she was going to be at home in her own pool, I guess not a big deal, but to go out in public?

I am sorry, why give Pediphiles more ammunition! When we were younger and taught "good touch/bad touch" it was that no one should touch you in the areas that your bathing suit covered.....Now they cover next to nothing.

I feel like kids are getting oversexed at such a ridiculously young age,

What are your thoughts? Do you think I am being unrealistic? Do you think its because I don't have kids of my own and I am judging?

Oh and BTW, finally found her a really cute tankini that covers like a one piece, but figures it would make going pee easier. To me its stylish, yet age appropriate.

BTW, please respond honestly, (it's ok to disagree with me!!!) no one is going to attack anyone who does not agree with them.......
Jen_FLMom responded:
There was actually just a discussion about this on one of the parenting boards and I was FLOORED to read that one poster actually said (basically) it doesn't matter because if a pedophile wants to look at her kid he/she will do so whether they are in skimpy clothes or not. Well, yes that is true but why add to a potentially dangerous situation?

My DD wears a 1 piece that is adorable! It is more out of necessity than modesty though. We needed a suit that had straps that criss-cross so they wouldn't fall down like a straight strap would.

Next summer she will hopefully be potty trained so we will most likely look for a 2-piece so it's easier to use the potty with but it certainly won't be a little bikini---more like a tankini or little half-shirt type top.

I hate the styles that try to make little kids look older than they are. They are little for such a short, precious time and I see no need to rush them growing up. I know it will be in the blink of an eye that my DD will be choosing her own clothes and trying to get away with dressing older than she is by her own choice. Right now I am perfectly content to dress her comfortably and adorably like the sweet little toddler she is.
stephs_3_kidz responded:
I generally buy my girls' bathing suits at Old Navy, Sears, or Walmart, and I try to buy them something that's not trashy, and I've seen a lot of it out there. I saw a 3/6 month bathing suit at WM the other day that's made like an American flag, and it was very tiny even for a baby that age if you get my drift. Just not appropriate, kwim. You couldn't even FIT a swim diaper under the bottom.

What I generally do is buy a coverup for when they're out of the pool. I don't want some pervert watching them walk around to get his or her jollies. Why invite trouble?
BabyLovesPrada replied to stephs_3_kidz's response:
I agree with you both Jen and Steph, I don't want to be that neurotic over protected mom, but I will never jepordize me (hypothetical) Children's safety!
wwilson89 responded:
I'm not sure how I feel about this. I have a boy (THANK YOU JESUS) and I'm always complaining about the lack of options we have in clothing styles for him. I haven't really looked at swimsuits for little girls to know how skimpy we're talking. I will say I have to agree that if a pedophile is looking at your child, s/he will be turned on regardless, and would even venture to say, they would prefer a child look like a child, and not a sexy vamp in a tiny bikini.

I will say that children are being taught younger and younger what is sexy and that scares me b/c it also leads to ignorant ideas of what you have to do/be/look like to be the ever so evasive "sexy".
wwilson89 replied to stephs_3_kidz's response:
STEPH! So glad you're here!
stephs_3_kidz replied to wwilson89's response:
Hi Wanda!! I was thrilled that I could actually log in today. LOL
stephs_3_kidz replied to wwilson89's response:
I think that Wanda might be right about the "if they're gonna look, they're gonna look" thing. It's true, I really believe that.

But I think some people are oblivious to the dangers of allowing their young daughters to "sex it up" at young ages. KWIM? They think it's cute, "oh, they look like little women"...yeah..they often look like little miniature strippers IMO.

I don't encourage that. I believe in teaching my daughters (and sons!) that their bodies are nothing to be ashamed of but at the same time, that their bodies belong to THEM and they don't need to display themselves for the world to gawk at.
BabyLovesPrada replied to stephs_3_kidz's response:
"I don't encourage that. I believe in teaching my daughters (and sons!) that their bodies are nothing to be ashamed of but at the same time, that their bodies belong to THEM and they don't need to display themselves for the world to gawk at".

Good point Steph.
stephs_3_kidz replied to BabyLovesPrada's response:
One more thing..

If you think about it, a lot of the toddler/young girls who are allowed to/encouraged to dress that way, might have issues as they get older, thinking that their appearance is everything, and that keeping up that "trashy" sort of style is important and is what will get them attention from others. And sort of that attention from others, is the reward for having dressed that way.

I don't know if that made sense. LOL Just makes me wonder what parents are thinking when they put their 5yos in hot pants and halter tops with high heel sandals. KWIM.
ImMe26 replied to BabyLovesPrada's response:
I agree with Wanda, a pedophile probably wants a child to look like a child...I think thats the attraction....but I can see why Id be uncomfortable with lil tiny bikinis on children too..'

I have two girls now 9,10yrs old and they dont wear bikinis at all....they did when they were tiny and I never let them out of my hands....but now they are growing lil girls and I dont need the extra attention, plus they are not really practical- they play hard, dont need tops flying off or my oldest is so shy , she doesnt want any attention anyways...

I agree .
BabyLovesPrada replied to ImMe26's response:
I agree a pedophile is going to look regardless, but I guess I would just want to keep my child as innocent as possible, I just don't want to push them to grow up too fast and miss out on the true innocence of childhood I guess
mrslee97658 replied to BabyLovesPrada's response:
Well since I only have one daughter right now and she is protected by her big brother lol I still have to be careful on my purchases for her. Unfortunately for her she inherited my big butt lol (really not trying to attract attention to it but its a fact) and she is only 7. So what I have done if the suit doesn't fit right is make her wear some cute shorts over it regardless if it is a one piece or two piece. unfortunately around here they don't make "shorts" bathing suits for her size.

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