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Baby shower or No?
ImMe26 posted:
So this was a big discussion on the pregnancy boards when I was there...and another poster kind of touched on it....
For those of us who have more than one baby (or if not just your opinion)...do you think its okay to have a baby shower with each baby or not?
I for one believe that each pregnancy ,you can have one and its completely up to you. JMO.
Others believe that one is all you get and its not to be repeated unless there is a certain amount of time in between or if your having a different sex the next time.
For those of us who have more than one baby (or if not just your opinion)...do you think its okay to have a baby shower with each baby or not?
I for one believe that each pregnancy ,you can have one and its completely up to you. JMO.
Others believe that one is all you get and its not to be repeated unless there is a certain amount of time in between or if your having a different sex the next time.
20 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?So this was a big discussion on the pregnancy boards when I was there...and another poster kind of touched on it....<br /> <br />For those of us who have more than one baby (or if not just your opinion)...do you think its okay to have a baby shower with each baby or not?<br /> <br />I for one believe that each pregnancy ,you can have one and its completely up to you. JMO.<br /> <br />Others believe that one is all you get and its not to be repeated unless there is a certain amount of time in between or if your having a different sex the next time.
jlbelknap35 responded:
I think you should bc its a celebration of having a baby not just to get gifts. I didnt have one when i was pregnant with my DS so I am actually hoping to have one with the next. If anything everyone always needs diapers and wipes and if they are differnt genders than you need differnt cloths too. thats my opionion of it.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?I think you should bc its a celebration of having a baby not just to get gifts. I didnt have one when i was pregnant with my DS so I am actually hoping to have one with the next. If anything everyone always needs diapers and wipes and if they are differnt genders than you need differnt cloths too. thats my opionion of it.
mrslee97658 replied to jlbelknap35's response:
I didn't have a baby shower until my fourth child. My family didn't really celebrate when I was having my first two because of my age at the time 
. But I was supposed to have one for my third and it never came. They only way I even had a shower for #4 was because it was a surprise from my job and they really knew how much I wanted one. I don't think you have to have just one. Heck I even know people that had them after baby was born. Like Jess said its a celebration of baby. I also don't think its fair to have just one if your children aren't from the same father anyway. But even if they are from the same father and they are different genders it is totally acceptable to have a shower then.
. But I was supposed to have one for my third and it never came. They only way I even had a shower for #4 was because it was a surprise from my job and they really knew how much I wanted one. I don't think you have to have just one. Heck I even know people that had them after baby was born. Like Jess said its a celebration of baby. I also don't think its fair to have just one if your children aren't from the same father anyway. But even if they are from the same father and they are different genders it is totally acceptable to have a shower then.Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?I didn't have a baby shower until my fourth child. My family didn't really celebrate when I was having my first two because of my age at the time <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/frown.gif" align="top" border="0">. But I was supposed to have one for my third and it never came. They only way I even had a shower for #4 was because it was a surprise from my job and they really knew how much I wanted one. I don't think you have to have just one. Heck I even know people that had them after baby was born. Like Jess said its a celebration of baby. I also don't think its fair to have just one if your children aren't from the same father anyway. But even if they are from the same father and they are different genders it is totally acceptable to have a shower then.
IslandL responded:
I've always thought the purpose of a baby shower was to help out the new parents with the things they will need for the baby in advance of the baby arriving. So it makes sense for first time parents and those who've spaced out their pregnancies (or been surprised) and perhaps didn't hang on to the baby gear.
If the children are spaced close together though, presumably the parents don't need as many basics. It's always appropriate to give a gift when someone close has a new baby, new clothes, diapers, 2nd. car seat,etc., but I'm not so sure about having a formal shower for each pregnancy. If you had a friend who got married 4 or 5 times within 10 years, do you think you might become less enthused about the expectation of a bridal shower for every marriage?
If the children are spaced close together though, presumably the parents don't need as many basics. It's always appropriate to give a gift when someone close has a new baby, new clothes, diapers, 2nd. car seat,etc., but I'm not so sure about having a formal shower for each pregnancy. If you had a friend who got married 4 or 5 times within 10 years, do you think you might become less enthused about the expectation of a bridal shower for every marriage?
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?I've always thought the purpose of a baby shower was to help out the new parents with the things they will need for the baby in advance of the baby arriving. So it makes sense for first time parents and those who've spaced out their pregnancies (or been surprised) and perhaps didn't hang on to the baby gear.<br /> <br />If the children are spaced close together though, presumably the parents don't need as many basics. It's always appropriate to give a gift when someone close has a new baby, new clothes, diapers, 2nd. car seat,etc., but I'm not so sure about having a formal shower for each pregnancy. If you had a friend who got married 4 or 5 times within 10 years, do you think you might become less enthused about the expectation of a bridal shower for every marriage?
wwilson89 responded:
If someone offers to host a baby shower for me, no matter what kid I was on, I wouldn't turn it down. If I was having baby number 2, 3, 4, what have you, I wouldn't really expect anyone to offer to host one though. I do believe in celebrations of new life however and I would have a welcome to the world type party that I would host; gifts optional of course.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?If someone offers to host a baby shower for me, no matter what kid I was on, I wouldn't turn it down. If I was having baby number 2, 3, 4, what have you, I wouldn't really expect anyone to offer to host one though. I do believe in celebrations of new life however and I would have a welcome to the world type party that I would host; gifts optional of course.
That's the thing though, one doesn't host their own baby shower. It's up to a friend, co-worker, family member to decide if they want to do it and see how many others are willing to participate.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?That's the thing though, one doesn't host their own baby shower. It's up to a friend, co-worker, family member to decide if they want to do it and see how many others are willing to participate.
Not always true. I threw one of my showers. There's not rules that says you cant throw your own....I was asking more about the ettiquette part of this situation.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?Not always true. I threw one of my showers. There's not rules that says you cant throw your own....I was asking more about the ettiquette part of this situation.
I thought that was the ettiquette part. Someone holds a shower - bridal, or baby- with the intent of gifting the bride/new mom with things she needs. If you throw one for yourself, you are essentially coming right out and saying "Gimme stuff!" Which is a breach of ettiquette.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?I thought that was the ettiquette part. Someone holds a shower - bridal, or baby- with the intent of gifting the bride/new mom with things she needs. If you throw one for yourself, you are essentially coming right out and saying "Gimme stuff!" Which is a breach of ettiquette.
BabyLovesPrada replied to IslandL's response:
GIMME GIMME!!!!!!! LOL, sorry nothing valuable to offer, just couldnt resist : D
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?GIMME GIMME!!!!!!! LOL, sorry nothing valuable to offer, just couldnt resist : D
IslandL replied to BabyLovesPrada's response:
Your turn will come. You just be patient!
BabyLovesPrada replied to IslandL's response:
LOL, yes ma'am
IslandL responded:
I just googled baby shower etiquette and the two sites I looked at said it's fine to have a shower for every baby. Reason being that it's to show support for pregnant, soon-to-give birth woman. Also mentioned, was giving smaller gifts (diapers, baby lotion, etc.) since the parents would probably already have the other neccessities, or to down play gift giving altogether and make it a celebration party. Like Wanda suggested. 
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?I just googled baby shower etiquette and the two sites I looked at said it's fine to have a shower for every baby. Reason being that it's to show support for pregnant, soon-to-give birth woman. Also mentioned, was giving smaller gifts (diapers, baby lotion, etc.) since the parents would probably already have the other neccessities, or to down play gift giving altogether and make it a celebration party. Like Wanda suggested. <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0">
We are going to a shower next weekend for some friends and their new baby and I liked how they worded the invitation. It said that while they welcome "presents" for the new baby what they really desire is your "presence". I thought it was cute and tasteful to say that and leave it where you can bring one or not.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?We are going to a shower next weekend for some friends and their new baby and I liked how they worded the invitation. It said that while they welcome "presents" for the new baby what they really desire is your "presence". I thought it was cute and tasteful to say that and leave it where you can bring one or not.
I like that too Jen.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?I like that too Jen. <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0">
I have to agree with Lisa. I do think it's tacky to throw your own party and expect people to bring you presents. Sorry Tori. Not trying to be offensive and if it's any consolation, I'm often tacky and just don't care at all.
Speaking of showers and tackiness, I'm hosting one for a friend of mine, and I was thinking small gathering at her place. I asked her husband for an invite list and he sent me 30 addresses!!!! Sheesh! I'll send them all, but I'm hosting it at a buffet type restaurant and everyone can purchase their own meals. I thought that was a bit tacky, but after further consideration, I can't afford not to be tacky. I can't feed all those people so Ryan's can. Shiiiiid.
Speaking of showers and tackiness, I'm hosting one for a friend of mine, and I was thinking small gathering at her place. I asked her husband for an invite list and he sent me 30 addresses!!!! Sheesh! I'll send them all, but I'm hosting it at a buffet type restaurant and everyone can purchase their own meals. I thought that was a bit tacky, but after further consideration, I can't afford not to be tacky. I can't feed all those people so Ryan's can. Shiiiiid.
Report This| Share this:Baby shower or No?I have to agree with Lisa. I do think it's tacky to throw your own party and expect people to bring you presents. Sorry Tori. Not trying to be offensive and if it's any consolation, I'm often tacky and just don't care at all.<br /> <br />Speaking of showers and tackiness, I'm hosting one for a friend of mine, and I was thinking small gathering at her place. I asked her husband for an invite list and he sent me 30 addresses!!!! Sheesh! I'll send them all, but I'm hosting it at a buffet type restaurant and everyone can purchase their own meals. I thought that was a bit tacky, but after further consideration, I can't afford not to be tacky. I can't feed all those people so Ryan's can. Shiiiiid.
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