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    1st Doctor's appointment
    goldenanswer posted:
    I am certain my husband has alzheimer's. I spoke to the nurse when my husband was in seeing the doctor on a different matter. I told her I had not discussed the situation with him. She said she would have the doctor call me. The office called this morning for me to set up an appointment and again I told her I had not told him. She said well tell him and call me back. My husband is a very private person and will be really mad that 1st I even think it and 2 I dared tell someone, even the doctor. This will make it pretty well impossible for me to be his caregiver. We only have a small income and cannot afford any help.
    Anyway, I wondered how you went about informing your loved one that they needed to see a doctor in this situation.
    tanyajohn responded:
    I didn't use the word Alzheimer's with my Mother as she was already to the point that she really wouldn't have understood the diagnosis. I just told her that she was having problems with her memory and we were going to help take care of her. She was young - 68, so I feel too young to have this happen in our family.
    goldenanswer replied to tanyajohn's response:
    Thanks for sharing.
    Judith L London, PhD responded:
    Hi goldenanswer,

    It's good that you set up that doctor's appointment. Physical illness must be ruled out before diagnosing Alzheimer's. The Alzheimer's Assn. has guidelines about how to handle this situation - Tell your husband it's time for a physical, and let the physician handle the rest.

    Hope all goes well,
    goldenanswer replied to Judith L London, PhD's response:
    He just had a physical and I cannot get him back to the Dr. Thanks very much for helping.
    cjh1203 replied to goldenanswer's response:
    Can you tell him that the doctor's office called, and they need to see him again? Maybe tell him that one of the tests has to be re-done, or something?

    I think that Tanyajohn is right -- it's probably best not to bring up the possibility of Alzheimer's right now.

    You might contact your local Alzheimer's Association. Unfortunately, I think a lot of families run into this kind of resistance, and the people at the Alzheimer's Association probably have experience with it, and may be able to give you some advice.


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