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An_245561 posted:
I am just at a complete loss of direction and just need some direction. I just ... I'm that lost , I still love life and have intentions of harming myself or others but last week i was overcome at work with stress or something and had to go home. once home i wouldn't talk to anyone on the phone and just zoned lost and confused. Mid week after talking to the boss i was told to come back in and today i get a voicemail saying we no longer need you. Work was the only time i could ever depend on myself to do it and do it great no matter how long or hard i had to work to do it and now i just dont know .... This is what i came up with i am a 29 year old man and i broke down crying reading what people wrote about when they just couldn't cope. I now am not only lost but unemployed. I am without the one thing in which i could overcome anything. And my wife who doesn't handle stress well still needs to be told i just feel hopeless and hate this, no one i know would ever even think i have ever felt this way because i am always so happy and outgoing with everyone everywhere else im just so lost
2 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Cannot get to this point againI am just at a complete loss of direction and just need some direction. I just ... I'm that lost , I still love life and have intentions of harming myself or others but last week i was overcome at work with stress or something and had to go home. once home i wouldn't talk to anyone on the phone and just zoned lost and confused. Mid week after talking to the boss i was told to come back in and today i get a voicemail saying we no longer need you. Work was the only time i could ever depend on myself to do it and do it great no matter how long or hard i had to work to do it and now i just dont know .... This is what i came up with i am a 29 year old man and i broke down crying reading what people wrote about when they just couldn't cope. I now am not only lost but unemployed. I am without the one thing in which i could overcome anything. And my wife who doesn't handle stress well still needs to be told i just feel hopeless and hate this, no one i know would ever even think i have ever felt this way because i am always so happy and outgoing with everyone everywhere else im just so lost
An_245561 responded:
So sorry NO intentions of harm to myself or others.
Report This| Share this:Cannot get to this point againSo sorry NO intentions of harm to myself or others.
Patricia Farrell, PhD responded:
It would appear that you are going through a difficult time right now and it may be caused by stress in your life and your perceived need to always appear to be "happy and outgoing with everyone." I can imagine that this has been a very difficult burden for you since everyone has a range of emotions and not everyone can be happy all the time.
The fact that you received a voicemail regarding termination of your employment might mean that there could be an opportunity to return to your job, but that has to be discussed with your employer. You weren't specific, but it might be helpful if they provided some information to you regarding the reason you were terminated.
Right now, the 1st thing that you should be doing is to have a medical exam and to ensure that you are in good health. I am not suggesting that you need any type of medication, but physical problems need to be ruled out. Once this is done, you can then begin to look at the rest of your life and where the problems may lie. It may be that you have not giving yourself any time for personal relaxation and enjoyment, especially something in the way of a hobby or exercise. Life is very much like a diet; it needs a number of things in it in order for it to be complete. If you are missing some of the things that we all need for a normal, happy life, then now is the time to begin to look seriously at where you can make some changes.
As I said, my 1st thought is that you are under stress and this may be the primary thing that needs to be addressed. Your diet, the number of hours of sleep you get each day, how much exercise you do (please don't think I'm recommending that you join a gym or buy equipment), and how much free time you have to just enjoy the day. You and your wife need to take a look at your lives as a couple and see what the 2 of you can do together.
I would also recommend that you look at our Tips column, view the relaxation breathing video we have there and begin to use that exercise multiple times a day. It will help calm you down if you begin to use it when you 1st feel a bit anxious. I hope things do work out for you and that there is an improvement in your life very soon.
Dr. Farrell
The fact that you received a voicemail regarding termination of your employment might mean that there could be an opportunity to return to your job, but that has to be discussed with your employer. You weren't specific, but it might be helpful if they provided some information to you regarding the reason you were terminated.
Right now, the 1st thing that you should be doing is to have a medical exam and to ensure that you are in good health. I am not suggesting that you need any type of medication, but physical problems need to be ruled out. Once this is done, you can then begin to look at the rest of your life and where the problems may lie. It may be that you have not giving yourself any time for personal relaxation and enjoyment, especially something in the way of a hobby or exercise. Life is very much like a diet; it needs a number of things in it in order for it to be complete. If you are missing some of the things that we all need for a normal, happy life, then now is the time to begin to look seriously at where you can make some changes.
As I said, my 1st thought is that you are under stress and this may be the primary thing that needs to be addressed. Your diet, the number of hours of sleep you get each day, how much exercise you do (please don't think I'm recommending that you join a gym or buy equipment), and how much free time you have to just enjoy the day. You and your wife need to take a look at your lives as a couple and see what the 2 of you can do together.
I would also recommend that you look at our Tips column, view the relaxation breathing video we have there and begin to use that exercise multiple times a day. It will help calm you down if you begin to use it when you 1st feel a bit anxious. I hope things do work out for you and that there is an improvement in your life very soon.
Dr. Farrell
Report This| Share this:Cannot get to this point againIt would appear that you are going through a difficult time right now and it may be caused by stress in your life and your perceived need to always appear to be "happy and outgoing with everyone." I can imagine that this has been a very difficult burden for you since everyone has a range of emotions and not everyone can be happy all the time.<br /><br /><br />The fact that you received a voicemail regarding termination of your employment might mean that there could be an opportunity to return to your job, but that has to be discussed with your employer. You weren't specific, but it might be helpful if they provided some information to you regarding the reason you were terminated.<br /><br /><br />Right now, the 1st thing that you should be doing is to have a medical exam and to ensure that you are in good health. I am not suggesting that you need any type of medication, but physical problems need to be ruled out. Once this is done, you can then begin to look at the rest of your life and where the problems may lie. It may be that you have not giving yourself any time for personal relaxation and enjoyment, especially something in the way of a hobby or exercise. Life is very much like a diet; it needs a number of things in it in order for it to be complete. If you are missing some of the things that we all <b>need for a normal, happy life, then now is the time to begin to look seriously at where you can make some changes.</b><br /><b></b><br /><br /><b>As I said, my 1st thought is that you are under stress and this may be the primary thing that needs to be addressed. </b> Your diet, the number of hours of sleep you get each day, how much exercise you do (please don't think I'm recommending that you join a gym or buy equipment), and how much free time you have to just enjoy the day. You and your wife need to <b>take a look at</b> your lives as a couple and see what the 2 of you can do together.<br /><br /><br />I would also recommend that you look at our Tips column, view the relaxation breathing video we have there and begin to use that exercise multiple times a day. It will help calm you down if you begin to use it when you 1st feel a bit anxious. I hope things do work out for you and that there is an improvement in your life very soon.<br /><br /><br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.drfarrell.net">Dr. Farrell</a>
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