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brandyhansen82 posted:
I appologize ahead of time if this discussion is not the correct place and appreciate guidance on where to go for help if I am in the wrong spot.

I have been living with anxiety and depression for alot of my life. I am able to manage it sucessfully on and off medication. But right now my concern is not for me, it is for my husband. Please read on and then comment with any suggestions, thank you.

My husband recently became VERY obcessed with some videos on YouTube and articles on the web that point to the collapse of our enconomy this year. He is completely convinced that the dollar will hyperinflate and marshal law will be enacted. He wants to invest in precious metals, stock up on food and water, and save every dime we can. The other thing is that he would like to stop our infertility treatments. We are in the throws of starting IVF to have a baby and he wants to stop NOW. He is fearful of bringing of baby into a country in a great depression.
To give you a bit more history, my husband on several ocasions obsessed over the fact that he could lose his job. He would read inbetween the lines when interacting with his boss and was highly convinced he would be fired. This never occurred of course. His other more recent obsession was the Fukushima incident. He watched videos and read articles that convinced him that a radiation cloud was coming over the ocean and would radiate our food sources and eventually kill us all.
He has also been obsessed with his health. Everytime he has a flutter in his chest, he overreacts, thinking he needs medical intervention. Mind you, he has NO history of heart disease and is very healthy overall.

Over the past 5 years, my husband has became increasingly more paranoid about things and I feel he has anxiety. He has been offered medication but refuses to take it. His father suffered through Lewy Body Dementia. I am scared that this could be his future. Is this paranoia, anxiety, and obsession signs of this?

Right now, with his economy fears, he has put a wedge between us. I am VERY angry with him. He has put off our infertility treatments many times before with his paranoia and fears. I had a loss at 15 weeks 3 years ago. I am READY to do this again. It seems as if he is trying to self sabatoge our efforts each time we get close.

My other fear that this may be an unending cycle. If not the radiation, his job, his health, or the economy...then what next?

My own anxiety is starting to act up horribly. My hands are shakey, my legs are weak, and my body is in pain.

I am at a loss as to where to go from here. I am SOOOO very close to starting IVF again. I have put my foot down that we are NOT stopping. But am I making matters worse? I never stand up for myself and I am always caring for others. For once I feel I should make my needs and wants known first.

My friends, his family, and me all feel he needs counseling and medication. But he won't listen.

Any thoughts or advice on anything in this would be greatly appreciated. Cause right now my marriage is on the rocks and I don't think my emotional well being can take much more.
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Patricia Farrell, PhD responded:
This does sound like a rather harrowing experience for you and, I'm sure, your husband who must be under a tremendous amount of stress because of his concerns that appear to be in reaction to a number of things related to the economy and your safety.

Since, as you said, this has been going on for a few years and may be getting worse, I do believe that professional help would be the only thing that would be most helpful to him and, ultimately, to you as a couple. Although his father did have Lewy Body Dementia, from my understanding related to reading several brief items on this type of dementia, it is relatively rare in families and is usually accompanied by visual hallucinations. You did not mention this when you were describing his concerns and, therefore, it appears that he has some type of anxiety disorder. I am not diagnosing, you must understand, but this seems like the most probable cause.

I would caution, however, before any determination of an anxiety disorder is made that he have a thorough medical exam and he may even need to see a specialist of some type. Under the circumstances, I'm wondering if it would be wise for you to continue with your planned IVF since your husband appears to be in a rather fragile state.

You might want to have a discussion with your family physician regarding this matter and seek additional professional help. I know this is a trying time for you and I do hope that it is resolved in a positive manner shortly.


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