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silvertiger76 posted:
I was in a car accident last January. I have had two steroid injections and a facet nerve ablation. I am still in constant pain. The lawyer has told me that the best I can expect is to get the maximum amount of her insurance coverage which may not be enough to cover the bills - let alone the ongoing treatment I will likely need for the rest of my life. Any suggestions on how to accept that and move forward?
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PearlGarden responded:
My boyfriend is going through something similar. If you saw my past he has about 20 discs that are herniated after a car accident we were both in back in February where a woman ran a red light and t-boned our car. He is 25 and was in school to become a pilot. Now that this happened, he is not allowed to fly anymore and his dream career is ruined. Not only is he not allowed to continue school to become a pilot because pilots cannot pass physicals with the problems he has, but he can't even go to school like at all anymore because he is in too much pain. He needs the treatment his whole life as well and is in constant pain still. I doubt he will get enough money in a lawsuit to cover his medical bills for his life. I don't know how you move forward from something like you have, but the anger you have will only make you feel worse. Believe me, if I were in your situation, I would be so angry everyday after the accident, but it will only make you feel worse.Try to stay as positive as you can. I know its probably the hardest thing to do, but I think it will help you move forward. Again I'm sorry about what you were going through because I really have no idea how much pain everyone is in here, I wish I could be more help.
 
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An_189743 responded:
Please understand your circumstance to you is just as real as mine is to me and I am not comparing mine to yours what so ever.I am just giving you some insite in the way my life has been for 30 plus years so that maybe you will understand that anger can be dealth with with help.
I had gone to college 5 years 4 job advancement-it was to be my first night on my new job -Oct 2.1979 @ 3:10 P.M. while I was stopped at a stop light it all changed for ever.I reached to change the radio station when a 17 year old male rear ended me between 55-65 mph?
I woke up in a halo brace-my neck had been broken&all disk in my neck and part of the T-region had been ruptured had to be fused.I was to learn later I should have been killed my brain stem was hanging by a thread.I was paralazed for 5 years but with therpy I am able to walk but sometimes my legs go numb & I fall-no feeling in my arms-hands or from the waist down. Life as I had planned it to be changed forever. I have never had any anger-disappointments yes-but I have never once asked why me- Its always been why not me.Sounds like bull doesn't it-nope honest to god its the truth every bit of it.U name it I have tried it-or have it to use.I also sustained lumbar and sac regions damaged but I am in no danger of dieing like before so no more surgeries just pain. Anger is a waste of time and energy-I don't have room in my head to store it-its all I can do to concentrate to tell my fingers to tap these keys-I have a great head doctor that has been with me from day one & he has helped me so much-please concider one for depression that will set in-but it may have already- emoional and pain feelings mix with one feeding the other one or the other making both area's worse.I can take one or the other but not both at one time if both other wise concenstation is all but gone.I went through anger management classes to learn how to deal with my family and friends that were being so negitive-always saying U need to sue him-I don't know how you do or take this its all negitive-I didn't want or ask for pity just understand me.Once I accepted the way my life is going to be now it was their turn to.I could not go through sueing someone like you are so soon after your surgery more stress with stress comes pain and emional stress.You have a choice such as meself-its either why me - or why not me-its ok to be upset and to vent to let it out but not to let anger take over what you have left of your life your anger will do you in and push loved ones and friends away.Anger is just like hate it eats at you-takes energy from you U need to fight your pain-even some meds will make some -feel mean and angry also-read about side effects. I spent 8 months in my halo another 5 in a hard collar another 3 in a soft collar.With each surgery a person risk more damage&death I needed all 6 of mine and I need more but if you come out at least the way you went in for surgery-this is concidered a success by a doctor and my 5th operation about killed me no more spine surgeries.Being angrey will not not put your life back to the way it was what so ever.Find a good pain management clinic&doctor.They are totally different than a nero doctor.Get into group therepy talking to others in person that r going through the same anger and pain as you r.I found stress can take me over-get rid of as much as you can-it causes more pain because stress is emoional-you need to fight the pain but if your down emionally your pain will be worse-and pain can make you angrey remember stress equals pain-pain equals anger.You need to learn how to relax-tension causes pain-stress-tension-equals pain.Relaxing helps all area's.But you need to relearn how to live-pain management-group therepy-exercising-helps stress.There is no pill to fix anger but some pills make it worse.Please get help & I suggested things-up to you now.Remember everyone is different in dealing with issues as such.I am sad for you and your pain but do not let it or anger control you-Cheers


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