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I am sorry this has happened. You deserve better. That being said, you can't control what has happened. But you can choose your response. Sometimes, quiet and controlled anger works better in getting what you want accomplished - him to leave. While this morning this was your knee jerk reaction, think hard on this. Make sure it is indeed what you want. If it means you end up packing his things for him, then so be it. Or it means that he does it himself and goes peacefully on his own, then so be it.

I wish there was more I can offer up other than try to find a calm place and then deal with this. Making yourself sick (and I am the queen of doing this myself, so I know how hard it is to follow this advice) isn't going to help matters any.

Big hugs if you want them. I'll be thinking of you.

Mel

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this on top of everything else you have going on. I hope that you are able to calm down and take care of yourself first to avoid getting sick.

If he doesn't leave it may give you both a chance to talk it out. You know that you cannot take your words back. Sometimes it's best to be a good listener.

Personally, if my hubby did that to me, I can think of at least a dozen ways to retaliate but it would only come back tenfold and fuel the pain and anger.

Hugs,

Mercy

so sorry. if he won't leave, pack his things and put them outside and then change your locks. mwa ha ha ha ha ha ha

Ohhhh honey, Im so so very sorry. I would have reacted the same way as you did, except I would have beaten my hubby with what ever object that was closest, then I would do the same to his slag too. Im a bit on the violent side when it comes to someone cheating on me.

You wont be able to kick him out of the house because the law wont allow it. Since your married and have lived in the same house blah blah blah. What you can do is move his no good cheating ass into one of the spare bedrooms. Put a new lock on YOUR bedroom door. Only cook for yourself, only buy groceries for yourself, only do your laundry, do only your dishes etc. Keep all the groceries in your locked bedroom, buy an ice chest to put the cold stuff in, that way he cant just help himself to your food. Make his life a living Hell. If he wont leave, then make him WANT to leave.

Also, I would start thinking about yanking the money from your banking accounts. I mean, if he is going to spend your money on another woman, then he can start is own account and use that.

Im dont know if your the type of person who can forgive him for doing such a thing, if so, then you both will need marriage counseling. Its going to take a lot of work.Also, he will need to see a Dr. to be checked for STD's and AIDS, its important that he does this, for your safety. If your not the kind to forgive and you want him out of your life forever, then drain the bank accounts. In my two divorces both X's took all the money and most of the belongings. Dont let that happen to you honey.

Take care sweet heart. hugs

My question is where was he getting the money since only I have access to the bank account and with my online banking I can see everything as it goes thru. His check is direct deposited and he doesn't even know about personal account. He likes the casino so I have to watch the money carefully. He is surprised that I cracked the lock on his phone and found his hidden receipts and even I control his phone so I can see when he called, what time he called and for how long. After one cheating husband I am a pretty good sneak. He has his ass in a trap now and don't know what to do or what to say. I called the whore today and left a message with just a few words. All I said was if you want him so bad, you better make room for him...thats it. Oh she called me back and gave me more information then she even new. She thought she was being a bitch but oh words say so much. Anyway I am calm and rational today and I am not a patient woman. He better open his mouth soon or his life is going to a living hell. So far for the last three days I have deprived him of so much sleep it is kinda funny. I yanked him out of bed, sent his daughters dogs in to terrorize him and other stuff. Yest I even locked him outside in his robe when he walked out with the dogs. So I guess who is the bitch now.

sounds to me like you've got it under control. you go girl!!!!

AMEN TO SLIK'S COMMENT!!! If you do not want to forgive and fix.......... then go Straight up Stella on him and throw his crap out the closest window! Pack for him? not me sista. The law as cooks said may be on his side but his shiott can be on the road ! and every word that woman uddered you start your divorce diary. write down everything she said, dates, times etc etc.
You got this, dont put up with it, as Summer and Streisand said' enough is enough...i want him out that door now...good bye mister'''