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    PhoenxM81 posted:
    [TRIGGER] I have been in a relationship for about a year with a 24 year-old man who is experiencing something that seems to be bipolar. He has not been officially diagnosed with bipolar disorder, though his mother has been diagnosed. He has told me that his problem is a combination of Social Anxiety Disorder and POIS. I wish I could attest to the validity of these diagnoses. POIS is a very misunderstood condition, which is debilitating and very difficult to discuss. There is no really effective known treatment. He has been prescribed Wellbutrin. Our relationship had been suffering and I had recognized that my ex had withdrawn from his family, and many of his friends. With regard to the POIS I had attempted to research the condition and suggest remedies that would have little or no interference with other meds. Our romantic relationship has ended. I feared for his well-being after the break-up, and notified his sister and others that he needed help. I am close with his family and have been attempting to establish a support network for him. However, this is very difficult. I learned from his family members that he had called a suicide hotline and had mentioned buying a gun. I suffer from Ulcerative Colitis, which led to my own hospitalization this past summer. I believe that my presence is both comforting and exacerbating to his condition. This is why I am writing. I know I have resources at hand to help. However, my closeness and involvement with the situation makes me feel as if I need to act through others. Others do not have the same information I do. Is there anyway anyone can advise me about ways to get him support without totally betraying his trust? He has been reaching out, and I am confused as to how to best handle this situation.
    ibex7 responded:
    Hello, PhoenxM81,
    I am so sorry I feel terribly inadequate to advise you in your circumstance. I have read your post repeatedly and have no doubt of your sincerity. Please accept my support and best wishes. Welcome to BP Support.

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