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ddnos posted:
After my dad passed away, it was clear that my siblings and I weren't prepared if something were to happen to us.

We as individuals can and should have a say in what we want and how we want it when it comes to end of life concerns; otherwise, no one can legally see to it that it's done. My dad never filled out an advance directive (living will) and so the decisions were left up to us. Some of his wishes were known through various conversations with one or more or us, which made those things easier; but everything else was difficult and put added stress on us kids.

So I am in the process of creating an Advance Directive and in most or all states, you can even register it for free so that if no one is around, the medical team still has access to your wishes.

This link I provided is so that you can access the form for your particular state. Scroll down to the bottom and click on your state. Instructions will follow there, and links to download and print the documents. They will tell you where to send it, etc.

There is also a mental health advance directive, for those who don't know, where you can write out your specific things you will allow or not, such as if there are certain meds you can't take - there's a part where you can fill in that list; or if a certain hospital you want to go to, but not the other, etc. It's very detailed, but it is for those who may find themselves in the hospital psych ward and gives you more control over your own treatment. I am pretty sure the mental health advance directives are also on the site under your state.

I would encourage us all to at least fill out the main one, and then the additional mental health one if desired.

I will put the link here as well:

http://uslwr.com/formslist.shtm

Debbie
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Dyanne48jj responded:
That was smart and kind of you Debbie to share that information. TRIGGER:
Everyone needs to do it, especially when there are children involved. If it bothers you, try not to think of it as 'death', just think of it as business just as doing your banking, mortgage etc, plus if you are anything like me haha YOU want to be in charge up til and even after.
Maybe I am just consumed with it, but I have everything prepared right down the music and final ride. But at a young age, I had to make important decisions for important loved ones. Fortunately I had listened to their wishes and I followed them, whether they were easy for me or not.
Oceans and Stars- Dyanne
 
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susanm62 responded:
Thank you Debbie for bringing this difficult and sometimes painful topic up for discussion.

When I first became really out of control, my parents were able to help me see during one of my clearer moments that I needed to have a living will and a power of attorney over my finances and any other reason I would have to have legal issues done on my behalf.

I mightly agreed with them and made my parents the first ones in charge (I live with them so that was the obvious choice) and then I made my brother and his wife the second ones in charge. I even went so far as to put my daughter and her husband as third in line.

You would have thought I was royalty by having first line, second in line, third in line. I just wanted both documents to last for many years without having to change them.

Thanks again for bringing this up.
It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it. - Lena Horne


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