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    Do you have Borderline Personality Disorder? This new Exchange has been developed so we can encourage each other, share tips to get through those down days, and/or just vent.
    to all borderlines in this community
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    marysings posted:
    If you have been reading the conflicts in this community between myself and two others, it can be scary. It's not common that things get out of control here. I found this several years ago that I think might be helpful to your own understand of Borderline Personality Disorder...

    "Otto Kernberg, M.D., in his book about Borderline Personality Disorders, observes he never has seen a patient with Antisocial Personality Disorder who did not also have a Borderline Personality Disorder. My clinical experience is the same. Typically, the person with BPD acts and others react. The reaction is usually both reasonable and proportionate to the seriousness of the initial act, but nevertheless the borderline person views the reaction as unpredictable and excessive, which reinforces their underlying attitude of victimization. This leads to escalation when the borderline person rapidly retaliates against the person who he sees as victimizing him. In the act of escalation, there is another proportionate, usually more serious, response which creates in the borderline person's mind anger, helplessness, indignation, and a sense of victimization. The person against whom the borderline is acting usually tries to restore order but is helpless in doing so. It is common that as the inflammatory situation begins to cool off, the borderline person will then add fuel to the fire and reignite the chaotic situation.

    "Dr. Theodore Millon, in Disorders of Personality, states "borderlines will have had rather checkered histories in their personal relationships and in school and work performance. Most will have exhibited an extreme unevenness in fulfilling normal social functions and responsibilities. Rarely do they persevere to attain mature goals. Their histories show repeated setbacks, a lack of judgment and foresight, tendencies to digress from earlier aspirations, and failures to utilize their natural aptitudes and talents. It is often easy to trace the consequences of their adaptive inflexibility and their involvement in self-defeating vicious circles. Many have shown flashes of promise, stability, and achievement but these periods usually are either short-lived or are dependent on the presence of a highly tolerant and supportive social system. Most fail to learn from their experiences and involve themselves in the same imbroglios, quandaries, and disappointments as they have before. Life is like a merry-go-round of getting into predicaments and discord and then spending time extricating oneself from them. Few things are ever accomplished and much in life is undone. The borderline patient goes round in circles, covering the same ground as before, getting nowhere, and then starting all over again."

    "Individuals with Borderline Personality Disorders often have other mental disorders, sometimes multiple ones. In addition to antisocial personality disorders noted above are mood disorders that are common, substance related disorders, eating disorders, particularly bulimia, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, and brief psychotic episodes.

    "The underlying poor sense of identity in the individual who has a Borderline Personality Disorder creates vulnerabilities in many spheres which include: A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, instability of self-image, instability of mood and affect, marked impulsivity, frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, unstable and intense interpersonal relationships, impulsivity which may involve excessive spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, or binge eating to name several, recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-mutilation behavior, affective instability coupled with irritability and anxiety, chronic feelings of emptiness, inappropriate or intense anger or difficulty controlling anger, and transient stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms including brief psychotic episodes."

    Mary
    ... but we rejoice in our afflictions because we know that affliction produces endurance, endurance produces proven character, and proven character produces hope. Romans 5:3b
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    mandybutterflykiss responded:
    Mary,

    Could you post this in the helpful resources section? I found it intriguing.

    Thank you.
     
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    mandybutterflykiss replied to den51's response:
    I never had a chance to be young and so now, I don't want to grow up and you can't make me... na,na,na,na,na.... (sticking my tongue out... lol... this is meant as a joke... you know I love you.) Now if only someone could teach me how to hula-hoop...
     
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    marysings replied to mandybutterflykiss's response:
    The article is under Tips. Select "more" and you'll have the article.

    Good luck on finding a hula-hoop instructor. I've tried and have pitifully failed.

    "I never had a chance to be young and so now, I don't want to grow up and you can't make me". I said that to DrB recently and he did not think it was funny. ah well ...

    Have a good day,
    Mary
    ... but we rejoice in our afflictions because we know that affliction produces endurance, endurance produces proven character, and proven character produces hope. Romans 5:3b


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