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    Do you have Borderline Personality Disorder? This new Exchange has been developed so we can encourage each other, share tips to get through those down days, and/or just vent.
    A piece of a puzzle
    nopoin posted:
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    How can a person's mental evaluation be borderline personality disorder and they not show all the signs? If so how many do they have to display? I thought you could only be all or nothing when it came to mental illnesses. Please I need to know if i'm being miss diagnosed.
    marysings responded:
    Look on the internet. There are specific symptoms and you must meet a certain number (of which I can't remember). Self diagnosis is not good. And a counselor should never diagnose or label a patient until they have been in therapy for close to a year.

    Good luck.

    When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. Helen Keller
    bod27 responded:
    Hi nopoint

    I think the reason that you don't have to have all the criteria is that it presents differently in different people and it is the combinations of various symptoms that define the disorder.

    My understanding is that the self harm criteria is a must, along with 5 more of the others, over a given period of a time.

    Everyone is effected by mental illness differently - there is never just black and white but numerous shades of grey as well.

    Not sure if this helps. It can take a time to get the right diagnosis.

    If you don't mind - what is your diagnosis? If you are not happy do some research, talk to your dr/t about your concerns and seek a second opinion.
    nopoin replied to bod27's response:
    bod27 ----------------------------------------------Possible Trigger----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Boarder
    line Personality Disorder a year ago. As I go threw therapy and changes in meds my therapist often tells me that I don't show some of the symptoms, Oh and yes I have a habit of Self injuring. a long standing one. and just recently don't keep food down. Honestly I don't know whats happening with me, I have victories in one area of my life and it's going down hill in the next.
    nopoin replied to marysings's response:
    Marysings _________________________TRIGGER__________________

    My therapist diagnosed me over a year ago however I don't show all the symptoms of being border line Personalty and I was just wondering How the diagnosis can be that if i don't show all signs? I have been living with bouts of Self Injury for the past 14 years just in the last 2 months I can't eat all the time and when I do it makes me sick. THANKS FOR YOUR HELP.
    marysings replied to nopoin's response:
    I think this is just something you and your therapist are going to have to figure out. None of us on this board are professionals. We can write about our opinion and hope that helps someone, but that is all.

    I'm sorry I can't be more helpful.

    All the best,
    When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. Helen Keller
    bod27 replied to nopoin's response:
    Hi nopoint

    It is possible for symptoms to fluctuate and I would have thought your t would know this.

    Life is all about the ups and the downs. You don't have to beat yourself up if one area slides just because the another aspect has got better. THe problem with BPD is that the way we deal with the ups and downs are far more extreme but it is something everyone has to deal with.

    Are you doing BDT with your t? The skills you learn in it helps by providing coping methods so we don't get so caught up in the extremes. This means we can deal with situations better, which can appear like the symptoms are going. They don't, it's just that we get better at dealing with them.

    Hope you are ok today
    nopoin replied to bod27's response:
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    Thanks I'm sure my therapist does know this if I would have talked to him about it at our last meeting. I don't see him again untill April 1st. I haven't dealt much with my BPD so it's all still new to me, and as for the BDT don't know what that is. I have spent the last year getting diagnosed and dealing with my cutting. so that is why I was seeking some advise.
    bod27 replied to nopoin's response:
    Hi nopoint

    I got my letters mixed up, doh! - I meant to ask if you are doing DBT (not BDT) It is a type of therapy developed for BPD. It's very useful so see if you can spk to your t about it.

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