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Identifying Borderline Personality Disorder
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marysings posted:
Thoughts that may indicate BPD
Alternate between seeing people as either flawless or evil?

Have difficulty remembering the good things about a person they're casting in the role of villain?

Find it impossible to recall anything negative about this person when they become the hero?

Alternate between seeing others as completely for them or against them.

Alternate between seeing situations as either disastrous or ideal?

Alternate between seeing themselves as either worthless or flawless?

Have a hard time recalling someone's love for them when they're not around?

Believe that others are either completely right or totally wrong?

Change their opinions depending upon who they're with?

Alternate between idealizing people and devaluing them?

Remember situations very differently than other people, or find themselves unable to recall them at all?

Believe that others are responsible for their actions or take too much responsibility for the actions of others?

Seem unwilling to admit to a mistake-or feel that everything that they do is a mistake?

Base their beliefs on feelings rather than facts?

Not realize the effects of their behavior on others?

Feel abandoned at the slightest provocation?

Have extreme moodiness that cycles very quickly (in minutes or hours)?

Have difficulty managing their emotions?


Feelings that may indicate BPD
Feeling emotions so intensely that it's difficult to put others' needs-even those of their own children-ahead of their own?

Feel distrustful and suspicious a great deal of the time?

Feel anxious or irritable a great deal of the time?

Feel empty or like they have no self a great deal of the time?

Feel ignored when they are not the focus of attention?

Express anger inappropriately or have difficulty expressing anger at all?
Feel that they never can get enough love, affection, or attention?

Frequently feel spacey, unreal, or out of it?


Behaviors that may indicate BPD
Have trouble observing others' personal limits?

Have trouble defining their own personal limits?

Act impulsively in ways that are potentially self-damaging, such as spending too much, engaging in dangerous sex, fighting, gambling, abusing drugs or alcohol, reckless driving, shoplifting, or disordered eating?

Mutilate themselves for example, purposely cutting or burning their skin?

Threaten to kill themselves or make actual suicide attempts?

Rush into relationships based on idealized fantasies of what they would like the other person or the relationship to be?

Change their expectations in such a way that the other person feels they can never do anything right?

Have frightening, unpredictable rages that make no logical sense or have trouble expressing anger at all?

Physically abuse others, such as slapping, kicking, and scratching them?

Needlessly create crises or live a chaotic lifestyle?

Act inconsistently or unpredictably?

Alternately want to be close to others, then distance themselves?
(Examples include picking fights when things are going well or alternately ending relationships and then trying to get back together.)

Cut people out of their life over issues that seem trivial or overblown?

Act competent and controlled in some situations but extremely out of control in others?

Verbally abuse others, criticizing and blaming them to the point where it feels brutal?

Act verbally abusive toward people they know very well, while putting on a charming front for others?

Can they switch from one mode to the other in seconds?

Act in what seems like extreme or controlling ways to get their own needs met?

Do or say something inappropriate to focus the attention on them when they feel ignored?

Accuse others of doing things they did not do, having feelings they do not feel, or believing things they do not believe?
I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is.I make mistakes,I'm sometimes out of control but I love and give with all my heart.If you can't accept me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best.
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casandy94 responded:
im new here and while i was scanning this site i came upon this and new i belonged,this completely discribed me!im experiencing all of this.THANK YOU! what im experiencing has a name and now i feel a little hope..now what,where do i go from here?any suggestions????
 
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joynevercomes2me responded:
yeah this definitely describes me. i printed this out so i could take it to my therapist. good to know what this is called, but still frustrating that this is what i exist with daily and wonder why.
 
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cleopatra1305 responded:
My goodness. This whole thing describes my soon to be ex-husband. I've gotten therapy, and my therapist told me that he may have this disorder after she read my journals. It's been a constant 7 year roller coaster, and I had to get off. The physical and mental abuse stuck out like a thorn
 
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An_242170 responded:
sat here and read everything about this and it sounds exactly like what i go thru , i have been on anti depressants for years and when i am not able to get them i go thru this , i was wondering if maybe its this disorder i have ... i just feel like i am losing my mind .....
 
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jankearney123 responded:
had about all but 4 or 5 answers yes. i asked my husband the questions and he answered them the same way and i really feel sad that i'm this way. i've been being treated for schizoaffective disorder and ptsd. does anyone know because my t said since pdoc at hospital in oct. put personality disorder on chart nos (non specified) that i have some borderline but i'm trying to get that off my chart. i DON'T WANT A PERSONALITY DISORDER ON MYCHART! from what i've read once you have a persoanlity disorder it never goes away. and borderline is really bad and pardon the expression but we're wacko. Mary sings whats your experience with this? i feel like i'm crazy half the time! and have for years! as i get older for some reason the sh gets worse. i wish someone would put an arm around me and say girl can you just stop it. just stop it for yourself no one else butyourself. can you just try to care enough to stop for yourself. i dunno. i'm very sad ................
 
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marysings replied to jankearney123's response:
"we're wacko" I love that!

I don't care about having a personality disorder. It explains to care-givers what I am like. I make apologies for my behavior and I do my best to stay on an even keel. If borderline issues get involved, then I try to use the DBT skills to help myself.

My self-harm urges seem to never go away. I dream of ways of hurting myself. Not good dreams at all. I struggle with those negative thoughts all day, every day.

Find a therapist who has had the training in DBT and EMDR. Both are necessary to get your borderline traits and emotions in check.

Try not to be sad about being Borderline. It's not something that will go away, but it is something you can learn to live with.

All the best,
Mary - MarySings - Wacko Mary!
I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.
 
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jankearney123 replied to marysings's response:
Mary~

You are so geniune and so caring. thank you! My t has taught dbt and she is one of the more popular emdr t's in my clinic. so i do have a very good t.
I just think for a pdoc to put personality disorder nos on my chart stinks! its ridiculous for someone who doesn't even know me and i've asked her if she's read my chart and she said just a bit.................who is she to judge when my reg t exisitng and past can't make that statement.

they all have said in the past i have some borderline tendencies but per the dmvr? you know the docs book I don't meet all the criteria. So we'll see.
I do very much appreciate your support Mary. I already know I'm wacko (lol) (I can't believe i actually wrote that sorry) because i have been all my life. Happy new year and may it be better than 2011. fran
 
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marysings replied to jankearney123's response:
Fran, I didn't realize that you were diagnosed on-the-spot. That's not fair! Dr.B waited nearly 9 months to give me a diagnosis.

I do hope 2012 is better. My inner sadness is back. I want to escape.

Mary
I'm strong willed and I tell it like it is. I make mistakes, I'm sometimes out of control, but I love and give with all my heart. Have patience with me as I heal.
 
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jankearney123 replied to marysings's response:
I'm sad too because we (my husband and I were going to go to a show and eat at it...we never do anything!) I guess we'll just have to look forward to what the rest of the day brings. Can you do something nice for yourself! i'm listening to barbra streisand
Happy new year Mary,. I will pray and send you good thoughts. fran
 
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froggy197041 responded:
OMG, I was just di with this and I wasn't even sure what it meant. Everything you just wrote, is like you wrote it just for me. I do all those things. Thank you for posting that, its nice to know that I am not alone...
 
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jankearney123 replied to froggy197041's response:
HEY MARY
I WANNA ESCAPE TOO! WANNA GO TOGETHER?
 
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Anon_61744 replied to jankearney123's response:
Yes, let's go to the land of the Borderlines and all live together
 
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Star95 responded:
OMG! This sounds just like me! Now I know I have been misdiagnosed! HELP! My doctors not much help!
 
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diluted responded:
Hello, I have read through your post, and thank you for sharing. I suspect that my husband has BPD, He has run our marriage to ruins, and we are in divorce procedures. Recently I spoke with him about the possibility of him having this illness, but now, as with everything, he is saying it is my fault, and that I have BPD, which I do not. May I ask you to, at your convenience, please read my post under WebMD Depression Community. Title of my post is: Can it possibly get worse? Maybe you have some advice for me, to in some way help my husband...it would be greatly appreciated. Bless you.


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