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slsshari posted:
thank you all for your warm felt responses.. i will be having a double masectomy a week from today. the tips i got from this exchange i.e. backbacks,heavy gauge pads, remembering to breath, are all so important. i don't plan to rebuild rebuild these knockers. i enjoyed them while i had them. put stuffing my bras as i did as a youngster is no big deal. i am taking some anti-anxiety pills now as they help the shaking and help me function. my sister is coming to stay for a week. i am married, but she and i are very close. what is so wierd is that we are trying to get my step-mom through pancreatic cancer. she had breast-cancer 4 years ago, had a lumpectomy, clean for 4 years, and now a reacurrence in her pancreas, she is 85 and we are praying for the best. all my energy has been focused on her. i feel as though i don't have time for this, i can only concentrate on one of us at a time. again thank all of you. regards, shari
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rachael67 responded:
Shari,
I am so glad that you found good things here to help make this journey a little easier. You will always find caring folks here!

I am glad, too, that your sister will be standing beside you. And your DH as well! Sounds like you've a good support system in place!

Good for you that you appreciate that sometimes we need some medicinal help to ease the stress of a situation...It needen't be permanent, but why not take advantage of it when necessary?

Having to worry about your step-Mom at the same time as this is overloading your plate! Please...DO NOT FEEL BAD IF YOU FOCUS ON YOU FOR A BIT!! Let yourself off the hook, okay? There are times when you must put yourself first. Even on the airplanes, they tell you if the O2 mask comes down, you are to make use of it first because if you are incapicated, you won't be able to help anyone!!

Please know that we will all be aboard the Pink Bus to escort you on Tuesday supporting you and offering hands to hold! Let us know how you are doing when you are able. Our thoughts are with you.

blessings.
Rachael
 
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bc090109 responded:
Shari,

I'm glad to hear you were able to come to a decision. I'm sorry you are having to deal with so much right now with your stepmom besides dealing with your own issues.

Having your sister with you to help after the surgery will be wonderful. One of my sisters gave me a "babywipe bath" while I was still in the hospital. Another sister brought me home from the hospital and kept a log for me of the times I took my pain meds and antibiotics so that I could refer to it to see when my next dose was due. Since I was foggy from the pain meds, this kept me from taking meds too soon or often.

I hope during your recovery you think of us while you use the tips mentioned by all the girls. We'll be thinking of you!
 
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slsshari replied to rachael67's response:
hi rachael, found this little card in my stash of can't throw away things. two little love birds on the outside, inside HOPE, "of all the forces that make for a better world, none is so powerful as hope. with hope, one can think, one can work, one can dream. if you have hope, you have everything." on the back of the card. memorial sloan-kettering cancer center. i have had this card at least 5 years. you have a wonderful sense of humor i laughed out loud about the the O2 mask, take care regards, shari


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