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    rachael67 posted:
    Sometimes when a friend is having troubles, we are left not knowing what to say, so we say nothing. Or not knowing what to do, we do nothing. Not realizing our "just being there" can make all the difference.

    I just came across something that had been sent to me long ago, which in re-reading I am reminded of why I kept it! It is more than worthy of sharing here:

    Roommates and the Window[br>[br>Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. [br>[br>One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.[br>[br>His bed was next to the room's only window. [br>[br>The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. [br>[br>[br>The men talked for hours on end. [br>[br>They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, [br>[br>where they had been on vacation..[br>[br>Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing [br>[br>to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.[br>[br>The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be [br>[br>broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.[br>[br>[br>The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. [br>[br>Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. [br>[br>Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline [br>[br>could be seen in the distance.[br>[br>[br>As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room [br>[br>would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene. [br>[br>[br>One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.[br>[br>Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye [br>[br>as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.[br>[br>[br>Days, weeks and months passed. [br>[br>[br>One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body [br>[br>of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. [br>[br>She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. [br>[br>[br>As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. [br>[br>The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. [br>[br>[br>Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. [br>[br>He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. [br>[br>It faced a blank wall.[br>[br>[br>The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate [br>[br>who had described such wonderful things outside this window.[br>[br>The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. [br>[br>She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.' [br>[br>[br>[br>Epilogue: [br>[br>There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.[br>[br>Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. [br>[br>
    Blessings all.Rachael
    Just when the caterpillar thought her world was over, she became a butterfly! Don't give up five minutes before the miracle!!
    judyfams responded:
    Wonderful story - and sometimes just sharing a look, a smile, a pat on the back, a hug, a kind word and even sharing silence can make all the difference!
    GGrandmaJan responded:
    Thanks Rachael,
    Very thought provocating story. Yes, we can all help others by just a kind word here and there.

    Thanks so much for sharing.
    He who laughs at himself--never runs out of things to laugh at!! by Me.
    brcansur responded:
    That was a great story thank you so much for sharing it with us. It shows just how much the little things in life can mean to someone and help that person feel so much better.
    That is why when passing some one I always make a point to say hello and smile. One smile passed on to someone else can cause a world of smiles did you know that!? So when you are out please smile and pass it on ... It is hard not to smile back when smiled at so make the world smile with you !!!
    Have a great weekend angel hugs Roberta,
    jenna291 replied to brcansur's response:
    Rachael, that truly is a lovely story and makes you pause and think. A kind word or action can mean a lot to someone else.

    I always make a point to make conversation with the clerks in the market or shops I go to. Why not be friendly and kind? Many people complain but don't take time to give credit to someone who does something good.

    Thanks for making me smile tonight!

    Enjoy the rest of the weekend ~
    goodlook121 responded:

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