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Surgery and Sex
Lisa2heal posted:
I'm going to ask a touchy subject here. I'm scheduled for a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction in two weeks. Will I ever have sex again? I don't know what I will look like while I'm being reconstructed over the next 9 or 10 months. And to make matters worse, my hair is taking way too long to grow back and I'm really self conscious about it. Any thoughts?
rachael67 responded:
Aren't we ladies a real puzzlement??? We go into battle with one of the most vicious villains, tackle foes that men would use every wile in their box of tricks to avoid, face obstacles we never dreamed we could or would face...and all the while we are worried about our appearance as much as anything else that comes along! (Guess men just aren't as talented as we are! )

I don't mean to make light of something that is so difficult and painful and worrisome, honest. I just am amazed at how much we want to be everything to everyone..especially those we love!

Sex again? You bet! Will there be an adjustment for both of you. Yep. Will you overcome it with love and gentleness? Most certainly. Will it all take time...sorta like your hair growing in? Sadly, yes. No instant pills here. It, like your relationship, happens best when it is gradual ,,,When your hair begins to grow in, it will not resemble your old hair...In texture and in color, it may offer a few surprises. But as time passes, it will eventually "feel like home" once again. And, so too, my Friend, will your love making! Give it time and be most patient with YOU!

I might guide you also to a new board WebMD has established in Relationships. WebMD? Relationships and Coping Community You might well find others who share your concerns. Misery and being lost is much more comfortable when shared with another person in the same circumstance, right?

Meanwhile, know you will be in our thoughts. And do let us know how you are doing from time to time. Okay?

Just when the caterpillar thought her world was over, she became a butterfly! Don't give up five minutes before the miracle!!

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