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HUSBAND STROKEANDMOM CANCER
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MSFISCLE posted:
Hi begining a year ago november my mom was diagnosted with breast cancer with lymphnode envolvement. Last aug she had a her breast removed and several lymph nodes. Come this past november she had trouble breathing we took her to the hosp and she was misdiagnosed being told it was caused by med side effects

Come Jan all hell broke loose my husband had a stroke while eating soup at dinner he suffered a brain clot in his corotted artery on the left side of his brain, my moms cancer came back this time in her back and I was admitted to the hosp for severe pink eye my eyes were actually bleeding.

My poor kids ages 19 and 22 went crazy especially my son they both stepped up to the plate but my daughter seemed to run away from it alot.

Since then my moms cancer spread to her lungs and liver leg and a spot on her skull.

My husband ended up inpatient since his personality changed for the worse. he became so nasty he threw my mom out of our house. My mom was so good too. She never did anything to him but try to help.

Since then Ive been running and my son too back and forth to my moms and trying to take care of my husband. He was inpatient for behavorial problems from the stroke. Noone told me about what to expect.

At first when he came home after the stroke he was actually funny and carefree then it all turned to rage even against me so bad If it werent for my kids and animals I would have left. It sounds cruel but I did tell him on a few occasions that I should have let him die. I am not like that but the emotional abuse was so bad hed even call me at work and tell me to get my mom out of there by that fri.

My son told him that he had to stop that he was getting out of here to. He didnt seem to care. Well he is now started outpatient therapy and the dr told him at the first visit that he either has to change or loose us.

I am worried about my son and daughter seems like she went into a downward spiral lost her job is very disrespectful and only comes home late at night and is drinking heavily. My son is a nervious wreck he is worried about his dad and my mom. He gos over to see her alot and was always very close to her since he was born.

My stomach is in knots all the time I cant sleep anymore without sleeping pills and I cant pay for my house anymore the doctor bills are adding up sent out payments on 15 the other day. My husband always protected me and took care of things and now Im not sure I can and do it rite. I am scared of loosing my mom and my husband since hes started smoking 2 packs a day again. What do you do when you could loose the most closest people in your life at the same time. I guess I feel like I already did, How do you handle it all.

my brothers started helping thank god with moms dr visits and her lawn at least I dont have to worry about that so much.

Seems like everything fell apart all at once when he had the stroke. Funny everyone I talk to says I am a strong person that god doesnt give you anymore than you can handle so god whats next>
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Louise_WebMD_Staff responded:
Are the kids seeing anyone to deal with their feelings and how to cope after all of this? What about you?

I am very worried about all of you. Hang in there and keep us updated.


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