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dnl_6581 posted:
My wife was just told today she needs one more test but may have colon cancer and I am devestated. We have been married for 28 years and she is my best friend. I am looking for answers to my questions
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MandyL1953 responded:
Hi, I'm so sorry for that diagnosis. There are different stages and depending upon the stage, different treatments exist. Usually surgery is done to remove the primary tumor. Chemotherapy treatments will also be likely. There have been so many advances in the treatment of colerectal cancer. I am a stage IV survivor. - I was dx in 2005 and had surgery and chemo. One recurrence - met. in the liver. I am fine now.

You will find a lot of information on the web. Try and go to sites such as WebMD, American Cancer Society. Colon Cancer Alliance. I am a member of Colon Cancer Alliance... they have a help line where some great people will talk with you and give you some great advice. On Wednesday at 8 pm Eestern there is a chat where you can talk with others.

My prayers are with you both

Mandy
 
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horshu4u responded:
The feeling that your life is spinning out of control is overwhelming. There are a couple things that I have learned over the last year. The first one is that the medical people deal with this disease everyday and take for granted that you know what the hell is going on. They give you brochures to read that do have alot of information, they tell you to ask any questions you may have, the problem is that you don't know what the hell to ask. Make them explain every step of the process from the chemo, radiation, surgery and even prescriptions. Like I say, they take this crap for granted.... BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE.
 
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luci608 responded:
my husband was just diagnosed too. We have our first appointment with an oncologist Monday...please continue on this board so we can compare notes.
 
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cuteepie2 responded:
So sorry to hear about your wife. My mom and my grandpa both have colorectal cancer and are doing well. The treatment has been fairly easy on them as far as chemotherapy went. They were on a chemotherapy called 5FU which is a "cocktail" of drugs that didn't make them get sick or lose any hair. My grandpa finished chemo about a year and a half ago and my mom just finished chemo and radiation on September 4th, her worst side effect is being tired. I'd be happy to answer any questions you have, we are still in the learning process as well so we can all compare notes. Best of luck to you, and you are in our prayers!

~Dawn
 
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dnl_6581 responded:
Sorry I haven't replied to you all but kinda busy as you know and then I forgot the password. But anyway my wife definitely has stage 3 colorectal cancer and have been to the oncoligist and yes she will recieve 5fu with a pouch {fanny pack} and recieve her chemo that way then also radiation for 4 to 7 weeks mon thru fri ...then rest and then have surgery to remove the tumor. And then more stronger chemo
 
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dnl_6581 responded:
I would love to chat with you all and I do use yahoo messenger with dnl_6581 please message me with an introduction of who you are.
 
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dnl_6581 responded:
Hi...this is "the wife".....lol. I've been diagnosed with stage 3 colorectal cancer. I will be given a port, receiving radiation five days a week with a low dose of chemo (5FU) seven days a week 24 hrs. a day. This will go on for 7 weeks, with 7 weeks of rest. Then I'll have surgery followed up with a stronger dose of chemo (oxsalaplatin?). I'm taking all this pretty well. How long do I have? has never been, nor ever will be an option for me. To me, this is just an illness like a cold or sore throat, it's just gonna take a little longer and some stronger meds to get rid of it. I'm going to be just fine....I know this without a doubt because it's the ONLY option I've given myself. Besides, my doctors know I can kick their butts if they don't perform MY way!!! lol Heading to our first Gilda's Club meeting tonite...looking forward to it and the chance to talk with others like myself. Stay positive, I am !!!! Laurie
 
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luci608 responded:
You sound very positive, "wife". My husband is at the same stage as you....3 w/1 suspicious lymph node involved. He is starting radiation and chemo next week, then surgery after rest. The surgeon is a rectal specialist and all the surgical/radiation and oncology staff members have been great. I've found talking to other chemo/radiation patients has helped my husband cope. He has had many medical conditions strike him sice birth and looks at this as just another hurdle that's been thrown his way to over come Best wishes to you and please keep the updates coming.
 
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cuteepie2 responded:
Well hello "Wife"! Nice to meet you!! I love your positive attitude!! My mom is the same way! She tells everyone that cancer got the wrong "Diva" for lack of a better word! hahaha My grandpa was stage 4 and went through 5FU then surgery and is doing very well. My mom is going through the same thing as you are, she did chemo with 5FU and radiation which finished on September 4th and she is having her actual cancer surgery on October 28th and then will have 6 months of chemo-therapy at a higher dose. I don't think the doctor has told us the name yet, if he has, I forgot the name (not a big shocker there LOL) all he's said is it will be a week on and then a week off. I hope your meeting goes well!!!

~Dawn
 
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brittney2112 responded:
This is the "daughter" of the "wife". I am very proud of my mom for dealing with this in such a strong and positive way. She is my rock and will beat this just like thousands of other people have before her.
 
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Marcia1029 responded:
Welcome to the board! This is a great place to visit with questions and to receive support. I've been following the board now for over 5 years. My husband was diagnosed with Stage iii colon cancer in July of '04. Since that time he has had 3 rounds of chemo when the cancer cells rear their ugly head, but he is doing well and is now treating with a relatively new drug that he is responding to. Living with cancer can be quite the roller coaster, but they have made so many advancements in the treatment and continue to do so.

While our life was dramatically changed with the diagnosis, we have settled into a new "normal" and I am thankful that we have maintained a positive attitude throughout. He is 54 years old and other than experiencing flu like symptoms after the chemo, he has looked and felt good throughout the past five years. He has continued to golf, waterski, work, etc...

Good luck with the treatment and surgery! We are here to support you and offer any tips we can.

Marcia
 
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dnl_6581 responded:
I am so happy my daughter has joined this and even more happy my wife has too. I believe not talking about this can be the worse. So for us we will keep up on here and let you know how Laurie is doing and please keep us up on all of you too. We did join Gilda's club last night and I really think it will become part of our lives, going there. And hopefully we can help others as they did us last night.
 
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LinuxLady247 responded:
Hi & Welcome Laurie and family,

Your attitude is great. Stage 3 is 100% curable. My mom (G-d bless her soul) lived 11+ years with Stage 4 colon cancer. At 84, she got fed up with chemotherapy and passed peacefully at home.

From your post, it appears you will be on the folfox ( 5-Fluorouracil (5FU), Leucovorin and Oxaliplatin) cocktail. The main side effect of Oxaliplatin is numbness, tingling, and cramping of the hands or feet often triggered by cold. So, when you go into the fridge or freezer, wearing gloves might lessen this side effect.- HTH Please keep us posted.

You and your family will be in my prayers.

G-d Bless,

DaLy
 
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dnl_6581 responded:
Hello We just got good news and the pet scan showed no other cancer in her body other than the mass on her lower colon. So now tomorrow Laurie starts chemo and radiation and we are so ready to get this all started and also praying for you all and hope all of us in the months following have the words we all want to hear in our ears....YOU ARE CANCER FREE


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