Coping with Pregnancy Loss Community

Kolby first of all how are you?

I too went through 3 miscarriages. 1 was a D&C
1 came without me knowing i was pregnant and the last was
because I had only a sac and no baby. This was my hardest. My doctor wanted me to have the miscarriage pass naturally and it was by far very hard. I had a fever, and lasted about 3 days for me. I have two daughters now older and i hope to eb expecting soon.

Hi,

Thanks for asking!!!

I'm sorry you have gone through this 3 times. That would be incredibly difficult, I'm sure!

I hope and pray this is my one and only miscarriage since I do not plan to try over and over.

I hope your next one is successful as well. And, I hope it happens soon for you!

I bled for about one week; with 3 days having LOTS of clots. That was hard because I could not be away from the toilet for more than a few minutes at a time. No serious cramping or fever. As bad as it was, I was still expecting MUCH worse.

We started trying last night (more like "practicing" since it's early still). We will try for a few months and then see where we stand. Since we have two healthy boys at home, I'm not sure how long we will try since it may just not be in God's plans for us.

Thanks again

Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kelli

Hi...

My name is Heather and I am 24. I just found out Wednesday that our baby no longer had a heart beat and the growth was 10 weeks instead of 13. I passed the baby that evening. I do not how to cope with this. It took 3 years to even get pregnant and then this happened.
Seeing the baby it self was hard. I just do not understand any of this i guess. My doctor said there was nothing wrong with the baby and that was just something that had happened. But I catch myself asking, What did I do that hurt my baby?
What is the best way to come over this..?

Hi Heather,

I'm so sorry for the pain you're feeling right now. No one knows exactly how you feel, but I think I have a pretty good idea. My hubby and I had been trying for 4 1/2 years to get pregnant. We finally did in July, but then my baby passed and I had to have a d&c end of sept. It hurts, and I'm sorry you have to go through this! It seems especially cruel after trying for so long, to be blessed, and then all the sudden have the experience ripped from you... Whatever anyone says, do NOT blame yourself. That is possibly the most harmful thing you can do, and it will sabotage your healing. We always will wonder if there was anything we could have done wifferently that would have lead to a different future... Don't go down that road! You did nothing to hurt your baby. You were the best mother your baby could have for the time you were together. You loved your baby, and cared deeply for them. I know I cried after reading this poem, but I think it helped me in my healing journey. I say journey, because it won't be a sudden destination...

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Getting past the grief is hard, but doable. You'll have better days and bad days (sometimes only seconds apart). Find something that you love to do and delve into it. Mine is card-making. Something I would suggest is something involving others. Serve others. Make cookies for the single mom and 3 kids that live 3 doors down, rake the leaves for the elderly couple across the street