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An_245569 posted:
I was just wondering if people were so insensitive about this whole thing? I miscarried last week...none of my family members have so much called to ask how I am feeling and only one of my friends has. My workplace doesn't have sick time, just vacation time, and they made me use my vacation time for the time I missed after I miscarried, but didn't make me use any time when I had strep throat a few months ago. The baby's father doesn't want to talk about it. I feel all alone and no one seems to care, i don't know if I am overexaggerating or what? But everyone seems to have this attitude that its not that big of a deal, but I feel as though it is a HUGE deal.
RoseLynn02 responded:
Well hun people grieve in their own ways & I'm sure your baby's daddy isn't talking about it because it hurts. As far as the rest of your family & friends, well these things are hard on everyone & a lot of times no one knows what to say or what to do or what the right thing is. They probably don't want to upset you more & some people seem to feel like if they choose not to talk about it or if they down play the situation then maybe it wont hurt as bad or everyone will heal quicker or if they ignore it they can move on faster & so can you. I know it sounds ridiculous, but people think different. Try expressing how this effecting you to the people you love & letting them know you need them & their support & understanding right now. They should come around with a little bit of direction. I'm sorry about your recent loss. It is a huge deal & you may feel alone & like no one cares because you're stressed & going through a difficult time. It gets easier day by day...never easy, but easier.

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