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Lost my Son at 31weeks, so heartbroken...
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4EVRNMYHEART posted:
I'm sorry for everyone's loss. I also am going through a very hard time in my life. I gave birth to my baby boy who was stillborn at 31wks and 1day for no fetal response. I felt no movement from him when I got up early am to use bathroom. I thought probably baby was sleeping and decided to then drink juice and soda and still no response. It then dawned on me, could this really be happening or is baby still sleeping? I then rushed to Labor and Delivery with my husband where I thought to myself, the baby is fine, just sleeping and I will leave here in a hr or two. When the nurse came in and did a ultrasound and looked puzzled. She kept trying to find heart beat but only saw baby motionless on the screen. She then called a doctor in who tried the same but looked at me and told me the worst news of my life. I could'nt help but start crying and screaming together with my husband. It was the worst day of my life.I then decided Instead of natural birth I opted for c-section instead, I could'nt deal with the pain of seeing my son born dead. We were able to hold and see baby after delivery, which is the most heartbreaking thing I ever dealt with. To give birth to a baby,meet him for the 1st time, hold his lifeless body,and then for nurses to take him away to morgue,it's a traumatic thing. I wish this on no one.Its been 6 wks already for my Post partum follow up with OB.I finally went to doctor yesterday who told me she recieved autopsy report. It stated baby died of Placenta Chorangiosis and MTHFR Gene came back slightly abnormal. I know this means blood vessels in placenta were clotted and bby was not recieving enough oxygen. My doctor is now telling me now I have to go for Thromophilia bloodwork for a possible clotting disorder and may have to take aspirin and anti-couglants for next pregnancy. I remember complaining to her throughout pregnancy I was having lots of pain and cramping in both legs with veins poping out. Which she stated was "normal". Also all my Gene tests and Quad Screen tests came back negative.

My question is could all of this been prevented and my baby been alive? Why now after baby died am I having all this bloodwork done? I keep thinking in my head what I could've done differently and baby would of been alive. I cant seem to get it out of my head that if I would've gone to hospital earlier, maybe my little angel would be alive today

I'm so confused and shattered by this
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babyj1017 responded:
I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing a child is such an awful thing. My heart goes out to you.

I can't really speak to your question if your loss could have been prevented. I'm not familiar with abnormal genes or clotting disorders. I do know it's not something doctors typically test for if you haven't had any previous losses. I would speak with your doctor or maybe consult a different OB to discuss the situation.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this horrible time. I hope you are able to find peace soon. Hugs to you momma.
 
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4EVRNMYHEART replied to babyj1017's response:
Thank you hunny I appreciate. I just keep thinking how probably the outcome could of been different. I really don't know if have some type of clotting disorder or Gene disorder, she just said it looks like it until I get bloodwork to find out. For some reason I believe all this could've been prevented from the begining. I had a 20week sonogram showing baby was small for gestational age and had a problem in one of the chambers of baby's heart and then told me to do another sonogram at 24wks. I then went again in 4weeks and they said baby's heart problem is okay but baby is still small for age but it's within "normal limits". I was never sent to any specialist or heart doctor for this matter,which I thought to myself was strange but thought doctor knows what there doing. Everything looked okay at my next ultrasound at 28wks with baby still being a little small but them saying it was okay. It's then that I wonder If everything going on in my pregnancy was really being paid attention to. I am going to change doctor obviously after all this. I'm going for second opinion to see if anything could've been done differently. I am going to see if I can go to some type of couseling hopefully. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers love
 
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RoseLynn02 replied to 4EVRNMYHEART's response:
If you really believe this maybe you should consider consulting with another doctor and perhaps a lawyer. That's the best advise I could give. If that doctor really could have done something to prevent this then what happens when the next patient of theirs goes in with the same problems? Will they have to go through the same trauma due to carelessness? Have others already had to cope with the trauma of this doctors carelessness? I'm glad you're considering counseling. I hope it helps if you go through with it. If you can't shake these feelings about that doctor please don't ignore them. Years down the road you still may be questing them if you don't find answers, and your questions sound like they should have answers. Some of us never get answers and always have to wonder because there are no answers to give us. My thoughts are with you. I'm so sorry for your loss.
 
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livelaughmoe responded:
Oh my I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no words, and cannot imagine your emotional pain. Peace be with you in your time of grieving.


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