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2nd m/c in 6mths and 1 day!!!!
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tianga posted:
I had tried to post earlier, not sure what happened.

Hi there, just got back from an appt. My baby stopped growing at 6weeks. I am 8 weeks and 3 days. There was no heart beat and I am shattered to say the least . I had my first m/c 6 months and a day ago today and I jut want to die. I am sad, mad and frustrated. I am 37 and is the greatest health. I just had a patient last week that delivered at 43!!!

I have a d/c on Thursday and the placenta and fetus will undergo genetic testing. I hope other people's prayers help coz I know at this moment God is not listening to mine. I am very emotionally defeated.

Good luck to you all and I hope and pray you never have to go through this.
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mjcj responded:
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. And to have it happen a second time must be more than devastating. My prayers go out to you and your family. I want you to know that God is listening! He's listening to everyone and that includes you! I know it's hard to believe right now, when I went through my miscarriage I thought He had turned His back on me. I felt like I had to take care of myself because no one was going to help me. I can tell you (now that I can look behind me), He was there for me. He knew the timing wasn't right, He knew the baby had abnormalities so He took care of everything for me. He was there and He is ALWAYS there for you anytime you need Him. I know it may not seem like it now. One day you will be able to look back and know that He was taking care of you and watching over you. We don't see the big picture that He does and we don't know His plans, but His plans are so much better than we could ever hope for. I pray that you are able to heal quickly (physically, emotionally, and spiritually).
 
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Jen45240 responded:
I want to first extend my deepest sorry and sadness to you. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is not fair.

I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Please do not think that. I have had 3 m/c in the last 6 months. As you can see from my signature, there has been something wrong with each one of the babies. I guess it makes it easier because something was wrong with them, but it doesn't make it any better. We do know that there is nothing "wrong" with us that we can find out medically.

I felt the same way you do when I had my last D&C. It doesn't make any sense that this keeps happening, but I do believe now that it has been 7 weeks since my last D&C, God does have a plan. I am not sure what it is, but I'm sure He has a plan for us.

I would also suggest, to go speak with a counselor or doctor. I started seeing one in February and it has helped. It makes me feel so much better having someone to listen to me when I want to vent, cry or just be angry.

I hope they find out why this has happened. Please accept my sincerest apologies and sorrows for your loss!!!
 
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PGinSJ responded:
I am so sorry for your losses in such a short period of time, it must be nearly unbearable. Good that you are getting testing done, I hope that will give you some answers. I know for me the biggest question I had was why does this keep happening and can I prevent it from happening again. If you don't get answers from the genetic testing though, hopefully your doc can refer you to an RE for additional testing to see if there are any underlying medical conditions that might be contributing. My OB GYN did that for me and it was helpful because it ruled out medical conditions.

A great book that helped me to understand more about m/c is "Miscarriage Why it Happens and how Best to Reduce Your Risks-A Doctors Guide To The Facts". Be warned though it's pretty technical, although you certainly dont have to be a doc to understand it. It realllllllllllllly help me to answer the "whys". Hugs to you.
 
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tianga responded:
Thanks Jen, Michelle and PGinSJ for your comments and thoughts. To be honest I am even scared to think of getting PG again for fear of another m/c. I do not want to live in fear but I know it will always be there. Had any of you been placed on progesterone or aspirin? I have heard women put on that after m/c. After we get the test result back, I want to find out what can be done for me, what tests can be done to check my out, maybe there is something about me that is killing these babies and preventing them from living past 10 weeks!!! It is frustrating!!! Thanks for your prayers as I cannot find the strength to pray for myself. It has been hard and I find my self stuck and unable to move forward. I will be speaking to a counselor at church and attend therapy for healing. may God bless you all.
 
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clh22 responded:
I've also had two miscarriages in 6 months, the first in November and the most recent one last month. All of my tests came back normal; the only one we didn't have done was the karyotyping to check for a balanced translocation because it is very expensive and both my husband and I would need the test and insurance doesn't cover it. Plus, if it turned out that was the problem, it wouldn't mean that we couldn't have a successful pg, and the "treatment" would be the same as what we plan to do: keep trying until one "sticks." My dr. reassured us that we still had a good chance. She said there was something like an 80% chance that someone with two miscarriages would have a successful pregnancy within the next two attempts. Not 100%, but it still made me feel better. At first I was a wreck, thinking I'd never carry a pregnancy and I'd keep going through this.

She did put me on low does (81 mg) aspirin, even though they didn't find any clotting issues. She said sometimes there may be an issue that doesn't show up on those tests, and the aspirin doesn't hurt. She didn't put much stock in the progesterone treatments.

Hang in there, that's what we're trying to do -- to just look at all of this as still part of the "trying" phase, just a little more complicated for us.
 
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MrsTang responded:
I'm sorry for your loss. I too am currently facing my 2nd m/c, but mine were back to back.

Best of luck to you.
 
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tianga responded:
CLH22, BEST of luck to you!!!! I hope you get PG soon!!! Keep me posted!

Baby wishes to you! Do you have any kids at the moment?
 
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tianga responded:
Angel, sorry for your loss, I wish you all the best with the next Pregnancy. Maybe for us, the 3rd time will be the lucky one!!!! here's to wishing us all the LUCK, may the next ones STICK!!!!!
 
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clh22 responded:
No, no children yet, which is the reason for the concern obviously. I haven't had a problem getting pregnant, so we're just waiting until we can try again . . . so waiting for my quant levels to go back to zero (still at 99--they are going down very slowly) and then on my first period after the miscarriage. Trying to be positive about it all!
 
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Jen45240 responded:
Tianga,

I know that I'm a little bit late, but I'm responding anyway. I was put on progesteron suppositories and oral progesterone with the last pregnancy. Each one of my losses were because of chromosonal abnormalities. I am hoping and praying for a healthy pregnancy this next time that we get pregnant. We will have our miracle babies soon.

Please take time to heal yourself.
 
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mrswelchiswaiting responded:
jen, did you and your DH do any genetic counseling to see what the odds are of having another chrom. abnor.? i just lost my baby at 17 weeks. he had trisomy 18. we were told the odds of any chromosonal problems happeing again are less than 1%, but now i'm a little concerned. they said we could do the genetic counseling to determine our risk factors...
 
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newagemother responded:
you are not alone! I know the grief and possible guilt that you may be feeling. My husband and i lost our second child at approx 11 weeks, which is exactly 7 months after our first miscarriage. I had truly put the pain and anguish out of my mind and was quickly reminded 3 days ago. Things have been all but calm this 2 nd time around. We went through the spotting and having the fetal pole, but no heart beat. We were reassured because my HCG had risen to 25k. The physical pain was horrific...I had to sit in a tub of hot water just to ease the cramping from the front to my back while passing the tissue. and much to my dismay i'm still passing some tissue 3 days later. it is something that i want to put out of my mind and i want to move on.

in saying all of this. they have done the testing on my and found nothing wrong so i remain optimistic. instead of this time blaming myself i chose to be proactive. i will concentrate on the things that i can do to make my body conducive for healthy conception and pregnancy. Don't give up...and remain positive. Prayerfully when I return to this site at an TBA you and I will both be telling our stories of hope and tenasity because we will have healthy babies after M/C....love and peace
 
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tianga responded:
Thanks Newagemother, we will have our miracle babies soon enough. What is TBA? I am still learning the acronyms. I had my results from the genetic test on the fetus and she had trisomy 15. We named her Vanessa. I see a genetic counselor on Monday and will see what the odds of this happening again are. Wish us luck!!! When was your m/c? Mine was 6/18. Now like you, I am focusing on MY health, eating well, exercise, vitamins, and emotional prayerful peace and calm. God bless you!!
 
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newagemother responded:
ur welcome !!!! TBA ( To be announced). I'm new to this online lingo as well and some I just make up myself lol. I know that all will go well for you because knowledge is power. so far most of our doubts are a result of not knowing. unfortunate for there was no enough tissue from the first M/C, 11/09/08, to determine defects. However from the ultrasound there was trouble because they said that the baby measured 7 weeks, but the sac measured only 5 weeks and maybe 2 days. and what was crazy is that there was a strong heartbeat ( 149). My most recent loss was 6/23/09. Luckily I was able to pass tissue both times and no D&C required. I opted to suffer in the comfort of home this time and so that tissue was tanted and not sent for testing. however the Dr looked at the sample and said that it looked normal....I opted to call both My Angels : ) With much encouragement we will be mother's and I can't wait until that day!!! My prayers are with you daily.....


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