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Ectopic Pregnancy-Just trying to cope
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trina4d posted:
I am 20 years old and on Valentines day night I almost died due an ectopic pregnancy. The next day I went to my ob-gyn and found out I was pregnant, I was rushed to the hospital for an emergency surgery to save my life. Before I knew it, it was all over. I didn't have time to get attached but for weeks I kind of felt in the back of my mind that I was pregnant. This is very hard to deal with because I had no control over the situation. It was either remove the baby or death at this point because I had gone on too long without knowing which caused my fallopian tube to rupture which caused a lot of pain and internal bleeding. I'm thankful to be alive, but when I get moments alone I get really sad thinking about it. Sometimes I feel like less of a woman because now I only have one tube.
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Caprice_WebMD_Staff responded:
Dear Trina,

This can be a quiet board but I know others will eventually look in and respond. Until then, I wanted to welcome you here and tell you how sorry I am for your loss. (((hugs)))

Be gentle with yourself.
 
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trina4d replied to Caprice_WebMD_Staff's response:
Thank you Caprice for taking the time out to share you kindness..i haven't really talked about my loss with anyone, like how it made me feel. I only spoke of what happened at the hospital. But after that it was just back to regular life. I don't know if this, not being able to express my emotions, is causing the rift between my boyfriend and I. I just broke up with him without really having a valid reason. I know he's going through it, because he wanted that baby more than I did but we just don't talk anymore since valentines day.
 
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LindzRenee replied to trina4d's response:
((((((HUGS)))))) I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I've never had an ectopic but had 3 consecutive MC's last year and it was heartbreaking...darn near devistating. I'm not really sure what to tell you other than, there are a lot of emotions that go along with a loss and it will be hard to cope but it does get better. Men deal with MC's so differently than women do, we (no matter what stage of pregnancy we are in) are attached to the LO, the thought of holding that LO in our arms. (For me) My DH just didn't really want to talk about it anymore afterwards, he wanted to just 'move on' and that was so hard for me, I couldn't just put it out of my mind...In fact I don't think I really even wanted to just put it out of my mind. Anyway, sorry for the really late response, just wanted to say hi and I'm very sorry for what you are going thru. (((((HUGS))))
 
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HeatherB2007 responded:
I am so glad to have found this! It seems as if none of the message boards deal with an ectopic. I, too, discovered over Valentine's Day weekend that something was wrong. I was 7 1/2 weeks. My doctor had to remove my right tube and ovary due to the tube rupturing and the scar tissue around the ovary. It has been 8 weeks and 5 days since my surgery, and I still have not had a period. I worry all the time now that I will not be able to conceive again because I only have one side left.
 
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brandib01 replied to HeatherB2007's response:
don't worry too much. i have endo and my doc is urging me to remove my right ovary because it continues to grow cysts and tumors and says that you have just as good of a chance of being pregnant with one ovary as you do with two. i am TTc and have been for going on 4 years. you only release so many eggs regardless and without the right there the left will function in its place. you can also go and see a reproductive specialist for help and guidance. things will work out for you i have faith.
 
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jjsmom1305 replied to LindzRenee's response:
LindzRenee,

I know to well what you mean when you say that your DH just wanted to basically forget about it and move on. While men do deal with the MC I don't think that it effects them to the point that it does the woman. My husband kept telling me that God does everything for a reason. While I know that is true it just gets annoying to hear it all the time. I think that a lot of the problem that I am having right now is the fact that I did just try to forget about it. While that might work for a little bet it is eventually going all catch up to you.That is where I am at right now. I tried to forget that it ever happened but lately I have seen different shows where women are miscarrying and it is starting to effect me. I think about what happened and while I might tell everyone that everything is okay, deep down it really isn't.
 
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Marleebean responded:
Trina,
I had an ectopic pregnancy about a year ago... I knew I was pregnant... and I got very attached. I felt like my world was being torn apart. So I know how you feel. I lost that tube, and so now my husband and I are trying to get pregnant again... but it isn't easy. Just try to keep positive. And remember its okay to feel sad. I wish you the best of luck.


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