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Ryansgirl1982 posted:
I have had 3 miscarriages the last 3 years. I am just completely lost and don't know what to do. I have gone to a specialist and all they tell me is that they can't find anything wrong. First miscarriage was at 8 weeks and the second one was at 6 weeks and this last one was at 10 weeks. Can anybody please help me with any of this? I am just so depressed cause I cant carry and that I have no answers to why this is happening? Anyone please can you help me in any way?
9 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Please Help?I have had 3 miscarriages the last 3 years. I am just completely lost and don't know what to do. I have gone to a specialist and all they tell me is that they can't find anything wrong. First miscarriage was at 8 weeks and the second one was at 6 weeks and this last one was at 10 weeks. Can anybody please help me with any of this? I am just so depressed cause I cant carry and that I have no answers to why this is happening? Anyone please can you help me in any way?
Starla_94 responded:
First of all i'm soo very sorry for your loss...
Its hard to say why you lost all 3.. did your doc do any geneic testing on the fetus's or sacs to f ind out if there is a genetic reason for your losses?
Most insurances will cover it too especially after multiple losses.
Has your DH or SO been tested?
Something similiar happened to a lady that was friends with my best friend.. turned out her and her hubby weren't geneiticly compatible.. however in their case they couldn't get PG at all..
make sure you cry about it don't hold it in. its ok to be Mad, Sad, Angry and everything else your feeling.. and i bet there is someone on here thats been through something similar as well
I've only had one m/c and that was more then enough of a loss for me and just pray that it doesn't happen again i can't imagine having 3..
Hugs to you! and i hope that you can find some comfort and maybe some closure for all this here on the boards with everyone else..
Take care of you ok!
Its hard to say why you lost all 3.. did your doc do any geneic testing on the fetus's or sacs to f ind out if there is a genetic reason for your losses?
Most insurances will cover it too especially after multiple losses.
Has your DH or SO been tested?
Something similiar happened to a lady that was friends with my best friend.. turned out her and her hubby weren't geneiticly compatible.. however in their case they couldn't get PG at all..
make sure you cry about it don't hold it in. its ok to be Mad, Sad, Angry and everything else your feeling.. and i bet there is someone on here thats been through something similar as well
I've only had one m/c and that was more then enough of a loss for me and just pray that it doesn't happen again i can't imagine having 3..
Hugs to you! and i hope that you can find some comfort and maybe some closure for all this here on the boards with everyone else..
Take care of you ok!
Report This| Share this:Please Help?First of all i'm soo very sorry for your loss...<br /><br />Its hard to say why you lost all 3.. did your doc do any geneic testing on the fetus's or sacs to f ind out if there is a genetic reason for your losses?<br />Most insurances will cover it too especially after multiple losses.<br /><br />Has your DH or SO been tested?<br /><br />Something similiar happened to a lady that was friends with my best friend.. turned out her and her hubby weren't geneiticly compatible.. however in their case they couldn't get PG at all.. <br /><br />make sure you cry about it don't hold it in. its ok to be Mad, Sad, Angry and everything else your feeling.. and i bet there is someone on here thats been through something similar as well<br />I've only had one m/c and that was more then enough of a loss for me and just pray that it doesn't happen again i can't imagine having 3..<br /><br />Hugs to you! and i hope that you can find some comfort and maybe some closure for all this here on the boards with everyone else..<br /><br />Take care of you ok!
lydiakerns responded:
i'm so sorry for your loss. i hope you are able to find comfort and closure with your losses without loosing hope. My aunt had 3 m/c before having her two beautiful children. i believe one of them she was even like 3 months or more along. take time to grieve. take time for yourself. but try not to loose hope. hugs ans prayers
Report This| Share this:Please Help?i'm so sorry for your loss. i hope you are able to find comfort and closure with your losses without loosing hope. My aunt had 3 m/c before having her two beautiful children. i believe one of them she was even like 3 months or more along. take time to grieve. take time for yourself. but try not to loose hope. hugs ans prayers
brandib01 responded:
agree with Starla. and i understand. i have had 2 m/c's in the last 3-1/2 years and am TTC again and am soooo paranoid to have another because they found a general chromosomal issue on my second that is not out of the ordinary.
i would like to know if you had any testing done also? not to pry just wondering. i lost mine at 5w and 9w4d and it is very hard the first time your convinced it's a fluke the second time its a pattern forming(well in our eyes) but you should go see a specialist to see what all of your options are. i will pray for you and please do give yourself time to grieve.
i would like to know if you had any testing done also? not to pry just wondering. i lost mine at 5w and 9w4d and it is very hard the first time your convinced it's a fluke the second time its a pattern forming(well in our eyes) but you should go see a specialist to see what all of your options are. i will pray for you and please do give yourself time to grieve.
Report This| Share this:Please Help?<i>agree with Starla. and i understand. i have had 2 m/c's in the last 3-1/2 years and am TTC again and am soooo paranoid to have another because they found a general chromosomal issue on my second that is not out of the ordinary.<br /> <br />i would like to know if you had any testing done also? not to pry just wondering. i lost mine at 5w and 9w4d and it is very hard the first time your convinced it's a fluke the second time its a pattern forming(well in our eyes) but you should go see a specialist to see what all of your options are. i will pray for you and please do give yourself time to grieve.</i>
no1phillygirl responded:
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. The girls on these boards are great. Unfortunately I can relate. I have had 3 in last 16 mths. I had a m/c at 6 wks after natural preg, then did ivf#1 and found at 8 1/2 wks that there was no longer a heartbeat, now after ivf#2 we found out at 12 wks that the baby had a trisomy and there was not alot of fluid in sac.it was not going to make it. we just had dnc 2 wks ago. This has been the worst thing that i have ever gone through. I'm 41 and time is running out. i'm going back to fertility dr tomorrow to discuss ivf#3. Have you seen a fertility dr and have had all the testing? how old are you?
my thoughts are with you.
Marla
my thoughts are with you.
Marla
Report This| Share this:Please Help?I'm so sorry for what you are going through. The girls on these boards are great. Unfortunately I can relate. I have had 3 in last 16 mths. I had a m/c at 6 wks after natural preg, then did ivf#1 and found at 8 1/2 wks that there was no longer a heartbeat, now after ivf#2 we found out at 12 wks that the baby had a trisomy and there was not alot of fluid in sac.it was not going to make it. we just had dnc 2 wks ago. This has been the worst thing that i have ever gone through. I'm 41 and time is running out. i'm going back to fertility dr tomorrow to discuss ivf#3. Have you seen a fertility dr and have had all the testing? how old are you?<br /> <br />my thoughts are with you.<br /> <br />Marla
Jennybop89 responded:
I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I can totally relate - I still get told that they can't find anything wrong, after 4 late miscarriages. What kind of testing have they done on you and your babies? Perhaps if you can let us know, we can suggest further tests that you can ask for. I have found with all of this, you have to really be your own advocate - there is too much info out there, so we need to take control and make sure that everything is being done. {{HUGS}}
Report This| Share this:Please Help?I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I can totally relate - I still get told that they can't find anything wrong, after 4 late miscarriages. What kind of testing have they done on you and your babies? Perhaps if you can let us know, we can suggest further tests that you can ask for. I have found with all of this, you have to really be your own advocate - there is too much info out there, so we need to take control and make sure that everything is being done. {{HUGS}}
4cats1dog responded:
I am so sorry for your losses.
I have been told that I am having my 2nd m/c (no real physical signs of m/c yet, just dropping #'s, I am 5weeks, waiting for it to happen naturally).
1st m/c was end of Feb I was 12weeks.
I know it hurts, emotionally, physically, our hearts hurt. We can't sleep, we are frustrated because of all this preg hormone with no happy end result. If you are like me, you have gained some unwanted weight. Everyone just keeps saying, try again. My husband thinks I am alright because I'm not crying all the time & am not yet in physical pain, so it hurts when I say I don't feel well & he says 'why?'.
I don't have any answers for you, but I know how you are feeling. I worry so much about trying again, but I want a family.
I agree with everyone else, when they ask what types of things did specialist look for? Maybe we can help with other thoughts for things that specialist could have missed?
My thoughts & prayers are with you. Keep us updated, being on here has helped me a lot.
I have been told that I am having my 2nd m/c (no real physical signs of m/c yet, just dropping #'s, I am 5weeks, waiting for it to happen naturally).
1st m/c was end of Feb I was 12weeks.
I know it hurts, emotionally, physically, our hearts hurt. We can't sleep, we are frustrated because of all this preg hormone with no happy end result. If you are like me, you have gained some unwanted weight. Everyone just keeps saying, try again. My husband thinks I am alright because I'm not crying all the time & am not yet in physical pain, so it hurts when I say I don't feel well & he says 'why?'.
I don't have any answers for you, but I know how you are feeling. I worry so much about trying again, but I want a family.
I agree with everyone else, when they ask what types of things did specialist look for? Maybe we can help with other thoughts for things that specialist could have missed?
My thoughts & prayers are with you. Keep us updated, being on here has helped me a lot.
Report This| Share this:Please Help?I am so sorry for your losses. <br />I have been told that I am having my 2nd m/c (no real physical signs of m/c yet, just dropping #'s, I am 5weeks, waiting for it to happen naturally). <br />1st m/c was end of Feb I was 12weeks.<br /><br />I know it hurts, emotionally, physically, our hearts hurt. We can't sleep, we are frustrated because of all this preg hormone with no happy end result. If you are like me, you have gained some unwanted weight. Everyone just keeps saying, try again. My husband thinks I am alright because I'm not crying all the time & am not yet in physical pain, so it hurts when I say I don't feel well & he says 'why?'.<br />I don't have any answers for you, but I know how you are feeling. I worry so much about trying again, but I want a family.<br />I agree with everyone else, when they ask what types of things did specialist look for? Maybe we can help with other thoughts for things that specialist could have missed?<br /><br />My thoughts & prayers are with you. Keep us updated, being on here has helped me a lot.
Ryansgirl1982 replied to 4cats1dog's response:
Thank you everyone for the advice! They have done over 50 blood test and they all came back as ok and normal. They still have no idea what is causeing me to keep having miscarriages. I just wish that I could get answers. We took every precaution this last time I was pregnant but yet I still had a miscarriage. So still not sure what to think or do. Thank you everybody it has helped me tremendous to get advice from people who are in the same position I am in.
Report This| Share this:Please Help?Thank you everyone for the advice! They have done over 50 blood test and they all came back as ok and normal. They still have no idea what is causeing me to keep having miscarriages. I just wish that I could get answers. We took every precaution this last time I was pregnant but yet I still had a miscarriage. So still not sure what to think or do. Thank you everybody it has helped me tremendous to get advice from people who are in the same position I am in.
wildchile responded:
Ove the last 5 yrs, I have had 3 m/c at 7 wks, and a stillbirth at 25wks 5 days. Not having answers and having history keep repeating itself hurts so much, and the nutters with healthy babys telling you "I know how you feel" is enough to drive you bonkers. My OB tested for a clotting disorder and sent me to a hemotoligst (sp), a genetic disorder was found that carried to my from my father, they now have me on 2 mg of folic acid in addition to the 800mcg in my multivitamin and are planning to add low dose asprin when I concieve again. At this point, I'm scared to try and concieve again. The pain seems to get worse with each one and the only thing that helps me keep moving forward is that my husband loves and supports me--and thinks no less of me because of my losses and keeping buzy. I am currently working on several major Holiday projects for a friend that is having some financal difficulties and working on a letter to my sisters and my cousin compiling our family history of child loss--found out after the most recent one that not only did our grandmother lose one, our aunt never had any as a result of repeated losses, hopefully by sharing the information with the other girls it will help keep them from suffering the same repeated losses. I don't have words to console your grief, wish I did, I all can reccomend is staying busy and taking on day at a time.
Report This| Share this:Please Help?Ove the last 5 yrs, I have had 3 m/c at 7 wks, and a stillbirth at 25wks 5 days. Not having answers and having history keep repeating itself hurts so much, and the nutters with healthy babys telling you "I know how you feel" is enough to drive you bonkers. My OB tested for a clotting disorder and sent me to a hemotoligst (sp), a genetic disorder was found that carried to my from my father, they now have me on 2 mg of folic acid in addition to the 800mcg in my multivitamin and are planning to add low dose asprin when I concieve again. At this point, I'm scared to try and concieve again. The pain seems to get worse with each one and the only thing that helps me keep moving forward is that my husband loves and supports me--and thinks no less of me because of my losses and keeping buzy. I am currently working on several major Holiday projects for a friend that is having some financal difficulties and working on a letter to my sisters and my cousin compiling our family history of child loss--found out after the most recent one that not only did our grandmother lose one, our aunt never had any as a result of repeated losses, hopefully by sharing the information with the other girls it will help keep them from suffering the same repeated losses. I don't have words to console your grief, wish I did, I all can reccomend is staying busy and taking on day at a time.
babyhopes28 replied to wildchile's response:
Wildchile is right, many women have undiagnosed clotting disorders. Ask your fertility specialist what he/she thinks about baby asprin. Many women take it with their pregnancy if they have a history of multiple losses. Also, I would consider seeing another specialist. A second opinion could be helpful. Also consider seeing someone from maternal-fetal medicine. They may have some different advice than a fertility specialist. Best of luck to you!
Report This| Share this:Please Help?Wildchile is right, many women have undiagnosed clotting disorders. Ask your fertility specialist what he/she thinks about baby asprin. Many women take it with their pregnancy if they have a history of multiple losses. Also, I would consider seeing another specialist. A second opinion could be helpful. Also consider seeing someone from maternal-fetal medicine. They may have some different advice than a fertility specialist. Best of luck to you!
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