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    Incompetent Cervix ending in delivery at 20 weeks..
    susaj posted:
    I posted my story on the high risk board a few weeks ago, but have since lost our baby girl. In a nutshell, the pregnancy was going great, until 19 weeks. We had our first ultrasound around 12 weeks, heard the heartbeat for the first time at 16 weeks, and were getting ready to find out the gender at our 20 week appointment. I started feeling strange, then started bleeding during my 19th week. I went into the ER, and was told that I had an incompetent cervix, that I was already dilated between 2.5 and 3cm. I was admitted to the hospital, started on antibiotics, and was prepped for an attempted cerclage the next morning. When the dr got in there, he said I had an hourglass membrane, meaning that the amniotic sac was protruding, already trying to come out, and was in fact partially past my cervix. With the cerclage attempt, he had to push it back in, which seemed to be okay, but when he was placing the stitches, he got the first two in successfully, and the third ruptured the membrane (broke my water). I was told that I would lose the baby within a few hours. Three days later, after being on bedrest and continuously leaking amniotic fluid, the baby still had a strong heartbeat, and I was sent home. The doctor told me to go about my normal life, doing housework as I normally would, but I couldn't bring myself to do much. I basically kept myself on bedrest. One week later, I was getting dressed when I started feeling sick. While throwing up my breakfast (not uncommon in my experience, throughout the pregnancy), I felt the baby coming out. We rushed to the hospital, where I delivered within probably 30 minutes of arriving. Hayleigh was 10inches long, and weighed 10.6 ounces. Luckily, the doctor was able to get the placenta out without having to perform a D&C. We lost Hayleigh on April 2, so it's only been a little over a week. I still am pretty much an emotional wreck, and am glad that I am able to take off work for awhile. I'm just hoping that my doctor will allow me to continue my leave for a few more weeks, until I can gather myself a little bit. My fiancee and I will be married on May 21, and we will be trying to conceive again, although we will probably wait a little while, to give ourselves time to grieve. I wonder how many women out there have been diagnosed with an incompetent cervix, and how many go on to have normal (or relatively normal-I know a cerclage is necessary from this point on) pregnancies and healthy babies... My mom was diagnosed as having an incompetent cervix after 1 miscarriage and a delivery at 20 weeks. Her diagnosis was when she delivered what would have been my older brother in 1982. She went on to have 5 relatively healthy children, with 5 cerclages between 1984 and 1998. Of those out there with this diagnosis, I also wonder whether or not this is hereditary. My doctors say that there's no proof that it is, but after my experience, I wonder, for no other reason than I have 2 younger sisters, and don't want them to have to experience what I did in order to get this diagnosis...
    myRaymond responded:
    I would first like to say I am very sorry for the loss of your angel (baby). I know the feeling you are gowing through and you need to totally lean on a support system. I lost my Raymond 8 weeks ago and I am still going through ALOT of UPS and DOWNS. I have good minutes and bad minutes. I lost him at 23 weeks due to pre mature rupture of the membranes. I do not know anything about an incompetent cervix but I can relate to your hurt, disappointment, anger and sadness. And I am sorry you are going through this.(((HUGS))) But I do beleive you and your husband can go on and conceive a healthy child after this because I have a friend that had a healthy child and she has a incompetent cervix. Ask your doctor for your 6 weeks, I did and she had no problems granting that. It is as if you had a baby and he or she is not here. Take all the time you need and lean on your family even get counseling if you need too. I pray much peace and love and understanding your way.
    BabyAngelSonia responded:
    I saw your post while browsing. I went through the same thing Aug of 2010. I went to my u/s appt at 19 weeks to find out the gender of our baby. While there they saw a problem with my cervix and I was taken by ambulance to the hospital. From our local hospital I was sent to a specialist about 1 hr away. The sac was protruding too much to try and put it back in and attempt a cerclage. My only options were to go home and wait for my water to break (they said it would be about a day or two), stay at that hospital and deliver or go back to my local hospital. I chose to go back to my local hospital. For the 19 weeks I was pregnant I felt really good. I was pregnant earlier that year that ended with a m/c of twins at about 13 wks. With the first pregnancy I had alot of bleeding and couldn't find their heartbeats. I didn't expect to be in the hospital having to deliver my baby girl at only 19 weeks. I was given antibiotics & meds to induce contractions/labor. In early hours of the morning I went into labor and delivered. The placenta was underdeveloped and they had to do a D & C. It'll be a year this Aug and I still have bad days. I had two friends that were due around the same time as I was, all of us having girls. When they had their babies I had a hard time. I was happy for them but was reminded of my sadness. When I see them I can't help to think that my Sonia should be here too. I think having an incompetent cervix is more common than what they say. Out of my 3 friends, 2 sisters and myself, 3 have been diagnosed as having an incompetent cervix. My friend had one preterm labor, couple m/c and 2 full term babies (with the help of a cerclage & bed rest). My sister had two early deliveries and one full term baby (with a cerclage & bed rest). The cerclage doesn't guarantee you'll make it full term, but it helps. There are also progesterone suppositories and injections that are available when you're ready to try again. They're not always offered, you have to ask for them. I think anything that may help is worth trying. We haven't decided if we're ready to try again, 2010 was a rough year. When we are we know we'll need a "plan" and help from family & friends. Bed rest isn't easy or fun. I've helped my sister and friend through it, so I've seen what they dealt with. It's going to take time for you to feel emotionally better. Not just days or weeks either. Take your time, cry when you need to, and you'll know when you're ready to try again. Good luck.....
    Jaeniki responded:
    I am currently in a hospital, sitting by my fianc?es side, and we are struggling with the same issue. To make matters worse, I am in Japan. The doctor just explained everything to me, in Japanese, and gave us two options: We either have the cerclage performed or let the baby come out. The ladder of which he is strongly suggesting.

    We had been trying to conceive for a few months when my fianc?e complained of pain in her lower abdominal area. We came to find that she had several large fibroids around her uterus. At the same time, we found out she was pregnant...isn't that how it goes?

    The doctor said that, under normal circumstances, a cerclage would be a viable option, but considering the amount and size of the fibroids, there is a very slim chance it would work. He also said, even if it did...there is a risk of infection.

    With that, we are waiting out the night to see what happens. They took her off the IV which was stabilizing the contractions. The doctor left us with one clinging hope that the amniotic sac could somehow push itself back up into the cervix...but what he said roughly translates to 1:100000 odds.

    Any words of advice or encouragement are certainly welcome and appreciated. It has been very trying these last several hours. Still we are hoping for the best and determined to give the baby every fighting chance.
    vybe77 replied to Jaeniki's response:
    Prayers sent to all of us women who have such a hard time getting pregnant or baking until finish...
    With that being said I am here to leave my words of encouragement and express my condolences to those who have lost...
    To Jaeniki, I hope this new day brings you new hope for the baby..keep us updated if you can and know that you are def. in our prayers xo
    SLA0619 replied to vybe77's response:
    I'm just surfing the Internet, wondering how other woman felt. Two weeks today the same thing happened to me. It's devastating and I can't get passed it. My babygirl left this earth on 6/19. I did not deliver, because I couldn't bare to see her suffer. Her foot was in my cervix everytime she kicked. Right before I went to surgery she kicked me one last time. As if she was saying goodbye. I've experienced a miscarriage before and now this. It's heartbreaking. I want to try again however my boyfriend doesn't so I hate to be in a predicament where it's no longer love. I need a serious prayer.

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