Coping with Pregnancy Loss Community

Sorry this is a pretty long entry but I guess I needed to vent:
I started bleeding when I was ten weeks pregnant, the Thursday before memorial weekend. I was scheduled with a new Dr. that I hadn't seen yet for my first OB appointment, and when I called the office to tell them I was bleeding, the medical assistant blew me off and told me that the bleeding was probably just from sex and to call back Tuesday if I was still bleeding. I told her that considering that there was a long holiday weekend coming up and that my husband was supposed to be going out of town for work, I was going to go to the ER if they weren't going to see me. She advised against going to the hospital because she said I'd wait around for 6 hours for them to tell me the same thing that she just did.
So Friday I took it easy all day and the bleeding didn't let up. I started having cramping also and my husband insisted that I go to the emergency room. At the ER I had a pelvic exam, an ultrasound and labwork. The diagnosis the Dr gave us was a probable miscarriage.
Saturday was the worst day. I went through a period of a few hours where I was passing tons of blood and huge (grapefruit-sized) clots. It slowed down, but I still had moderate bleeding and cramping for a few days.
I called my Drs. office tuesday to tell them what happened over the weekend and that the ER advised me to follow up with them. The assistant blew me off again and told me she'd call me the next day, but then didn't because she didn't work that day. I called and complained and was scheduled with a different Dr in the practice who had a different medical assistant. They have been pretty good so far, but I haven't had an exam since the emergency room. Also, I was told that I could bleed up to 2 weeks, but I'm still bleeding and its been almost 5 weeks. They have had me getting labwork every couple of weeks, and say that unfortunately for me it just seems to be taking longer than it takes most women's bodies to complete the miscarriage. The past few days I've been having shooting vaginal pains that make it hard to even stand up.
I feel like this is going to go on forever. I am so broken hearted over this, and it wasn't planned so my husband is on the fence about trying again... we already have two kids and we both are afraid of going through this hell ever again. But I can't even begin to move on with my life or figure out what we should do while I am still miscarrying (I say I because although my husband was sad and ver supportive, he seems to be over it and doesn't seem to feel the loss that I do). My mom thinks that I should have had a D&C a long time ago. I am trying to have faith in my Dr. who says it's best to let it happen naturally. I've tried calling a couple of other Dr.s offices to try and get a second opinion, but no one will help me. I am hoping that someone out there has had a similar experience and can offer some advice:)