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mrskaleboswald posted:
Hi, I'm new to this and really unsure where to start. My husband and I lost our baby about 7 weeks ago and I don't know how to feel anymore. Below is our story.

We had been TTC for almost 13 months when we finally got pg, we were so excited. I had taken meds that my OB/GYN has prescribed to me, they did not work so she referred me out to a reproductive specialist. The specialist had started me on another med and it had worked after the 4th month, I had finally started ovulating on my own and one month later, I was pg. The specialist referred me back out to my regular OB once she was happy with the growth of baby and the heart beat. Saw my regular OB at beginning of June and she couldn't find a heart beat but said it was still one week too early so no need to worry. I decided to change OBs after she was rude and couldn't get into my new OB until the third week of July. During the wait between doc visits I felt great, my belly was growing and we had started picking names, crib sets and all that stuff.

When the appt for my new doc came, my husband and I were excited because we were almost positive that we would walk out that day with an appt for the sonogram since I was 16 weeks at that point. The nurse had tried to find a heart beat and after several mins, she left and came back to tell me that they got me into have an emergency sonogram. After a few mins with the sonogram techs, we knew something was terribly wrong because there was no movement on the screen. The doc gave us the option of either waiting to see if I m/c myself or to have a D&C, I chose the D&C. Five days later, baby was taken and we felt as though a weight had been lifted off our shoulders and I felt cheated all at the same time.

My emotions have gone from non-stop crying to anger to being perfectly fine, when will things get back to normal? My husband has been so supportive and amazing through all this, he has definitely been my rock through all this but sometimes I don't want to open up to him. I really appreciate any encouraging words or help anyone can give me, I am just really lost.
1 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Emotionally DrainedHi, I'm new to this and really unsure where to start. My husband and I lost our baby about 7 weeks ago and I don't know how to feel anymore. Below is our story.<br /><br />We had been TTC for almost 13 months when we finally got pg, we were so excited. I had taken meds that my OB/GYN has prescribed to me, they did not work so she referred me out to a reproductive specialist. The specialist had started me on another med and it had worked after the 4th month, I had finally started ovulating on my own and one month later, I was pg. The specialist referred me back out to my regular OB once she was happy with the growth of baby and the heart beat. Saw my regular OB at beginning of June and she couldn't find a heart beat but said it was still one week too early so no need to worry. I decided to change OBs after she was rude and couldn't get into my new OB until the third week of July. During the wait between doc visits I felt great, my belly was growing and we had started picking names, crib sets and all that stuff. <br /><br />When the appt for my new doc came, my husband and I were excited because we were almost positive that we would walk out that day with an appt for the sonogram since I was 16 weeks at that point. The nurse had tried to find a heart beat and after several mins, she left and came back to tell me that they got me into have an emergency sonogram. After a few mins with the sonogram techs, we knew something was terribly wrong because there was no movement on the screen. The doc gave us the option of either waiting to see if I m/c myself or to have a D&amp;C, I chose the D&amp;C. Five days later, baby was taken and we felt as though a weight had been lifted off our shoulders and I felt cheated all at the same time. <br /><br />My emotions have gone from non-stop crying to anger to being perfectly fine, when will things get back to normal? My husband has been so supportive and amazing through all this, he has definitely been my rock through all this but sometimes I don't want to open up to him. I really appreciate any encouraging words or help anyone can give me, I am just really lost.
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scarolinarn responded:
I'm so sorry for all that you have gone through. I have had 2 m/c, but both of mine were before 8 weeks. I had a D&C with my 2nd m/c. I can not answer your question as to how long it will take you to emotionally recover- I don't know that you will ever fully recover, but it does become easier. I personally felt that it made it a bit easier by trying to get back into my normal routine. You also need to have a least one person that you don't have to be strong around- it helps to let those emotions flow. I understand that you don't always want to talk to your husband b/c they seem to reocver so much easier than we do, but just being able to open up does help. hope this helps.
Report This| Share this:Emotionally DrainedI'm so sorry for all that you have gone through. I have had 2 m/c, but both of mine were before 8 weeks. I had a D&amp;C with my 2nd m/c. I can not answer your question as to how long it will take you to emotionally recover- I don't know that you will ever fully recover, but it does become easier. I personally felt that it made it a bit easier by trying to get back into my normal routine. You also need to have a least one person that you don't have to be strong around- it helps to let those emotions flow. I understand that you don't always want to talk to your husband b/c they seem to reocver so much easier than we do, but just being able to open up does help. hope this helps.
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