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321974 posted:
He loves to look at pictures,books, movies (porn) of other women and as of late he has made friends with women on FB to look at their pictures and comment.( I walk around the house naked, with t-shirts no panties) He has exchanged numbers with "past female friends" from high school (he has been out over 20years) and females from work and he texts them late at night when Im sleeping. (found out by my snooping around) Am I over reacting?? It makes me think Im not who or what he wants. What do you think?

Married 8 yrs together for 22. Please give me your point of view
cjh1203 responded:
You're not over-reacting. This most likely has nothing to do with any shortcomings on your part. He's obviously enjoying the attention of all those other women and he's not respecting you or your relationship. I believe it's very possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but none of this sounds platonic.

Have you talked to him about it?

Why did you start snooping? Or is is something you've always done?
longduckdong46 responded:
In no way are you overreacting. Just ask him a simple question. How would you like it if I was exchanging messages and numbers with male friends ?
The answer he gives should tell you alot about where you stand in your marriage.
Spankyrae responded:
I agree with cjh, it doesn't sound platonic. I think a non-harmful, platonic friendship would mean he doesn't have to sneak around. That's a big red flag.
cto312 responded:
Depends on what kind of comments he is making to these women... and is he spending time away from you or doing anything suspicious?
It sounds a little questionable...

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