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    Spankyrae posted:
    I'm glad to see you came back. Your wisdom is great to witness and/or receive.

    I'm also glad you decided to go to that wedding. That was a big step! You took a chance on something and put yourself out there. Good for you!
    3point14 responded:
    You're so sweet, honey. It's good to be back. I like filling up my down time at work with something that can hopefully help people, not just online Scrabble.

    I'm glad I went too. The whole morning getting ready was really fun with his parents, the ceremony was gorgeous, and the people I met were mostly really nice. The people at my table were especially cool, except for the girl who's obsessed with M. But otherwise it was his parents, his friends parents, and two other random guys. One of the other guys loved whiskey and The Bruins, so we got along famously. Especially as we had more whiskey.

    His ex came up to us at one point, and "fortunately" (because I am a mean, insecure person) she looked like poop, bad spray tan, bleached out hair, the whole stereotype. M's mother was pretty much like "Why are you here right now?" to her because I'd mentioned I felt insecure, which while unnecessary was very endearing.

    It meant a lot to M that I go, and I never want my selfish fear to hold me back on anything. I got to meet his second family, the people with whom he works on the ambulance, and they all really liked me and I really liked them. M was really thrilled about that, and I was so proud to do right by him. My Gram took me out beforehand to get a new dress, and I got a new septum ring that matched it, so I felt really good. When his Dad saw me all dressed up, he got misty- eyed. It was great.

    Thanks for the support, as always. I'd missed everyone on here so much!

    How're things in your (and collectively you guys') neck of the woods?
    Spankyrae replied to 3point14's response:
    That's cool you enjoyed it all and the getting dressed up part. I hope you felt as beautiful as you are inside & out! Things are going great for me! Mostly the same ol', same ol' from day to day, but I'm very thankful for the life I have.

    My BF came with me to a family function & got to meet some of my extended but close-knit family for the first time. Of all the family, he's met both sets of my parents before, but he's really just a reserved kind of guy and private. Except he's had no problems communicating with my sister for a while now. I've observed that though: he's way more sociable with kids and younger folks than other adults. She doesn't talk to many of us really, because of the abusive guys she's been with, but my BF will text her here & there to say hi. That's always meant a lot to me.

    He's just not as sociable as I, even though I have anti-social moments. But I'm very glad he came out to meet everyone even though he didn't want to. And I'm sure your BF was very happy for you to do so, also.
    3point14 replied to Spankyrae's response:
    Ahh, don't be so kind so close to my ladytime! You got me all teary-eyed at work!

    I'm so glad he did that for you, Spanky. It's really cool that he's comfortable with kids, too. I've noticed that about reserved people, and including myself I suppose, it's easier to hunker down and talk with a kid because even though they can be more cruel, they're also less apt to judge or be intentionally mean.

    It's awesome that your sister and fella have a good relationship. That's very kind of him to reach out to her, and I'm so sorry she hasn't gotten away from that guy yet. Ugh! Why are the a-hole always so good at being manipulative? How frustrating.
    Spankyrae replied to 3point14's response:
    Lol! Hey, happy tears are the best kind of tears!

    That makes sense. Kids can have very pure minds and hearts.

    Yeah... it is what it is with her. I think I've mastered letting go enough not to get all worked up over him/her. I just hope it doesn't end badly & continue to pray.
    3point14 replied to Spankyrae's response:

    You're wise to not make it your burden, and she'll be in my prayers too. And I guess really he will be, too. As much as experience has taught me it doesn't happen, I always wish the abusers will wake up one morning and think "Who the f__ did I think I was?" and feel bad and try to live the rest of their lives purposefully.
    tmlmtlrl replied to Spankyrae's response:
    Ha, I went on a field trip with first graders yesterday!! Talk about comical! This sweet little girl in my group looks up at me and sweet as pie tells me "you have gray hairs, I see them growing out of your head" LOL, too precious
    Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.
    3point14 replied to tmlmtlrl's response:

    Sounds precious.
    Spankyrae replied to tmlmtlrl's response:
    Ah yes, the missing inside voice of kids. What did you do? Grin and bear it while thinking, "You stinkin lil brat, you!"
    tmlmtlrl replied to Spankyrae's response:
    Oh I laughed - out loud - and we were supposed to be paying attention!! Then I thought to myself 'I didn't think it was that bad' and 'how the heck did she see it from down there' LOL. She was so sweet though. She was giving me surprise hugs all day long!
    Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.
    BalconyBelle replied to tmlmtlrl's response:
    Welcome back Pi! I missed 'seeing' you around the boards--thanks for sharing the news that you went to the wedding after all and had a blast It sounds absolutely wonderful, I'm glad you like the extended family and short, I'm just plain thrilled for you!

    The latest news on my end is that I moved--at least I'm now in the same state as my fiance. He'll be driving to see me during winter break & spend a few days before making the rounds to other friends & family. Also--I got published!!! It's still enough to make me giddy. My debut historical romance novel is out on Amazon, B&N, Smashwords, and AllRomanceEbooks, but it still feels like a dream over here...

    Anyway, I'm very happy you've returned. You have been missed, Pi; it's great to have you back!
    FCL replied to 3point14's response:
    (Waving to Pi) YOO-HOO! Good to see you back
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
    3point14 replied to BalconyBelle's response:
    thanks guys. wow, congrats bb
    darlyn05 replied to 3point14's response:
    Hey Pi! Just popped in for a second and saw you. Are you still working on week-ends?

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