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Painful sex... help please
An_241873 posted:
ok so this is awkward to talk about for me but I need to know I am not the only one. My husband and I were married virgins due to religious belief and have no experience besides each other. we got married OCT 2010. since then we rarely have sex because he is too big. if he tries to enter even rock hard it bends him. it is excruciatingly painful for me when he enters past the tip of his penis. we have tried EVERYTHING.'I have used lidocaine to numb me and it still hurts. ky or lube burns and no position works. it has causes me depression and him to feel bad and anxious about sex. I'm tired of giving handjobs! I also can't wait for my period so I don't have to try to have sex.. not that he pushes the issue he is very patient. I couldn't ask for a better man. now I just want to feel sexy and I want to enjoy sex. heck I want to HAVE sex. the closest we have gotten is him going in under half his penis after lots of foreplay and using a vibrator on me to stimulate pleasure so the pain isn't as bad. I want him to fit! will I ever "stretch out" or will I always be like this? oh and to add to that I have no sex drive since it is not enjoyable. this makes me guilt myself into sex for him.. and I want to want it. any advice? please... we're quite inexperienced at this.
darlyn05 responded:
You may want to post this on the WebMd Sexual Health Community Exchange. Here is the link:

Good Luck!

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