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    How to prevent pre marriage sex?
    An_244358 posted:
    every time my girl friend come to my house, i hard to control to make love with she.. how can we prevent this as we don't want un planned pregnancy.
    fcl responded:
    Only see each other in public places. Avoid being alone together.
    There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
    ajohnson08099 replied to fcl's response:
    Are you looking to purely abstain from sex or just avoid unplanned pregnancies? If its to wait until you are married then I really do commend you. Its a hard feat to take on. If you are just looking for birth control options there are condoms, birth control pills, the bith control shot, spermicides, the list goes on and on.

    Otherwise, I take it from this type of discussion that you are pretty young. I agree with FCL, go do things. Go bowling, see a movie, find a quiet little coffee house and just talk. If you are going to be home invite friends over. Its a very very hard thing to put aside your wants and needs, especially once the cat is out of the bag so to speak.

    . Have you talked to your girlfriend about this? How does she feel about the sex or unwanted pregnancy? This needs to be a two-way conversation and agreement. You don't necessarily have to avoid being alone together.. Just make sure that alone time isn't where you could make love. No parking, no empty bed, no empty house.

    Good luck!! I commend you for making good choices!

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