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Anon_15713 posted:
I have been dating my bf for about a year, and intimate since April. Our sex life has been wonderful especially lately, as we have gotten very close. I won't get into the whole conversation that we had, but in the middle of it we got on the subject of "freshness" of the genitals. I jokingly asked him if I wasn't always fresh and he said "sometimes not as fresh as I would think." Well, now I'm totally taken aback because I've never been told that. I was married for a long time and my husband never complained...in fact, was always eager to be around the region..lol
I'm afraid I will always be self conscious going forward and won't be able to relax. He feels like an idiot for saying something and is very upset that I'm upset. He says that it was "maybe like one time" and that he loves having sex with me. That its not a big deal. I am aware that its normal to have not so fresh days but if it was "no big deal" than why would he have said something?
I love our relationship but I'm now very embarrassed. How do I get past this? I know that it's normal to not always be your freshest but I'm very clean and take care of the area, so it's not like I can do anything on my end to make me feel better. He's trying to reassure me now but its already in my head.
Thanks guys.
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darlyn05 responded:
As embarrassing as this may be, unless a person of 'either' gender just gets out of the shower or washing/scrubbing any and all orifices, this is unavoidable from time to time. So just accept it, forget about it, and enjoy eachother.


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