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itsashayduh posted:
This is going to be kind of a long story, but here it goes.
The is the guy that my husband and i used to know. We stopped hanging out with him about 2 years ago because he is very creepy.
Now i have received an e-mail from him and it sounds like he is blackmailing me. He states that he has a picture of me with someone that is not my husband.
The thing is, i have NO idea what he is talking about or what this picture has in it.
My husband and i have been together since i was 14. I am now 22. The last time i was with any one other then my husband was when we were split up when i was 17. And even then, there was no sex, just kissing and having fun being a teenager. But i never told my husband about any of that. It was just kinda swept under the rug when we got back together months later.
And for this guy having a picture, like i said, i have no idea what he is talking about. And i know that the only time i have not been with my husband is when we were not together. But i am afraid that if he knows, it might break his heart. And i am in love with my husband and i dont want to hurt him at all.
Now the question is as follows.
Should i talk to my husband and tell him what is going on? Or should i call this others guy bluff?
Because as of right now i am physically ill over this situation. I cannot eat, i am shaking and i am feeling very depressed.
I dont want to hurt my husband, but i also would not want him to find out because of some sick creppy person. HELP
tlkittycat1968 responded:
I would tell your husband. You didn't have sex with the other person, you were 17, and you technically weren't with your now-husband at the time.
queston replied to tlkittycat1968's response:
I agree with tlkittycat .

I can't imagine your husband would be too shocked to find out that you kissed some other guys when you were 17 and weren't dating him.

Also, if the creepy guy has actually asked for money or made any kind of threat, you should notify the police.
itsashayduh replied to queston's response:
See, and he is not made a threat other than the fact that he is going to give these pictures to my family. I dont think that is illegal. Or i would have already done that.
fcl replied to itsashayduh's response:
Tell him to do so. Your family will laugh in his face.
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.

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