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I don't know where we stand.
An_251983 posted:
My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago, shortly after, I found out I was pregnant. He came to me two weeks ago and said he wants to work things out, but wants to take it slow. Now we are "talking" but I don't know if we are trying to work things out because of the baby, or because he actually wants to be with me. What should I do?
fcl responded:
Take it all at face value. Right now it doesn't really matter whether it's for you or for the baby - he wants to give it a try. You'll realize soon enough whether it's for you or the baby. For the time being, it's not a bad idea to have a bit of extra stability, someone to be there for you, someone who cares (whatever his motives are). You'll have time enough to make the right decisions when the time comes (if, indeed, it does).
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
An_250877 responded:
Dito what PP said.
itsashayduh responded:
Now, i have seen this same situation go both ways to many people that i have loved.

Just one thing to alway remember is NEVER STAY TOGETHER FOR A CHILD. If in the long run, you are not happy, you need to leave.

To many people stay together for the kids and it ends up being worse because of what you are doing in front of a child.

And on the other hand, i have seen it make couples happier than before and it completely changed the way they worked on the relationship.

So just remember, if it turns out not to be a great idea. Just be friends so the child has two parents that get along and love a child together

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