Dad Shoots Daughter's Laptop: Good Parenting?
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Olivia_WebMD_Staff posted:
It's been all over the news for the past several days: A dad posted a video on Facebook of him shooting his daughter's laptop in order to teach her a lesson in respect.

In your opinion was this a good way for a parent to make a point?

Why or why not?
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rachael67 responded:
Hmmmm....Hadn't heard of this.

Teaching a lesson? Unless it is in sharp-shooting, I think it might be counter-productive!

Rachael
 
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jis4judy responded:
I went and looked at the video
and I think the dad was angry and everything he did was in anger .
He failed to look at what his daughter said on facebook was comeing from a 15 year old the age when children breaks away from parents a little . My daughter was so rebelous at 15 I wasn;t sure she was my daughter at one time . I am sure I did weird things when I was 15 too ..
I do believe since he mentioned a mother and step mother this child has a lot more to deal with than some kids

I think he damaged the lap top thats his responcabilty to replace it
He didn;t make any point at all except that he was angry to find out his daughter was feeling overworked ..even if she wasn;t
Hugs Judy:)
 
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An_241873 responded:
THAT WAS AWESOME! ha...serves that brat right. I'm so glad there are parents out there that stand up for what's right and get their kids to realize who's boss and that disrespect is not going to fly. I can't stand disrespectful kids/ teens so good for him!!
 
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arbob5 responded:
Is he trying to teach his daughter violence or what? No, this was not a good idea. How about taking the laptop away for an extended period of time, then gradually letting her use it, with, of course, his supervision. This will teach her more than his violence ever could as far as I'm concerned.
 
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bobby75703 responded:
Funny this subject should just come up, just as I was writing a comedy country song called, "I wish I were my wife's laptop."

Computers are so captivating. They can draw our attention away from others. Instead of paying attention to loved ones, we are social networking or surfing with our immediate surroundings tuned out.

This can, and does irritate others when they can't get the attention they deserve from the person on the computer. Especially if the computer is an addiction.
 
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JenPBDBP2 responded:
I think it was a waste. If he was really upset that she was so ungrateful, the lapstop should have been reformatted and donated to someone who would appreciate it.
 
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naggingwife74 responded:
This was interesting to watch, even more interesting that he would put his family issues on the Web for the world to see. I don't know that I would consider that good parenting.

The thing that stood out to me the most wasn't the gun, it was the fact that he said she needed to find a job and that he brought her an application to turn in. She is 15 years old! Why would she be expected to get a job at 15? Also, when he was listing everything he was doing at her age (15) like being a volunteer fireman, he lost a great deal of credability with me. Where does he live that you can legally be a volunteer firefighter at 15?

I agree with getting rid of the laptop and if he chose to destroy it instead of doing something constructive with it, that is his choice. She was extremely disrespectful in what she wrote. But, I just wonder if there wasn't some truth to some of her writing. Watching that dad, I think there was.

Also, I wonder, if he had read this letter in her diary would he have reacted the same way? She obviously needed to vent some things that she was unhappy about. (at 15, most girls are mad at the world and just want to scream out their problems) Facebook today is what writting notes in class was when I was a teen.

I don't know, I don't think he should be rewarded for this "parenting" but I don't think he was completely wrong either.
 
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DoOvers replied to naggingwife74's response:
I wouldn't doubt that this whole video could be some "social experiment" that catalogues responses.

The only thing I will comment on is the fact that this individual didn't know how many rounds he had in his clip & chamber. And unfortunately there's a whole lot of people down there who have trouble counting past six (it's a big number).
 
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Lindyinda responded:
I watched it. I say good for the Dad. This child needs to aprecieate what has been given her. She was acting like it was due her. Home is a training ground for the future of children. Nothing wrong with children learning to earn spending money. To bad regulations prevent a lot of jobs opening to teens. It is not healthy to just hand everything a child wants over to them even for those who have the money to do it. Personal responsability seems to be lacking any more even in some adults.
 
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Rod_Moser_PA_PhD responded:
I thought about throwing my own laptop out the window at times, but for different reasons....

At first, when I saw the 45, I worried that Dad was over-reacting a bit, but when I say the entire video, I changed my mind. While I don't necessarily approve of the method (shooting the laptop), I do approve of the message. I would have sanitized that laptop and donated it to someone who not only appreciates it, but someone more deserving.

Teenagers are challenging and to trash your parents and everyone else on Facebook is not the way to resolve parenting differences. It was a childish thing to do, but of course, 15 year olds are children (even though they don't think so).

It is HIS laptop and HIS right to do with it what he wants. A little Tough Love can go a long way in making a point, so I vote for the Dad.
 
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turkey89 responded:
Now that's parental control! No, facebook is outrageous. Parents can't control what their kids are putting on their pages. Parents get calls from other parents because of this. I've seen poeple fist fight... grown adults... over their kid's stupid pages. I say congrats to 'Dad'. Sometimes it takes drastic measures to make a point, unfortunately... but at least there was no physical abuse involved.
 
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ctbeth replied to Rod_Moser_PA_PhD's response:
The father lacks control of the English language. It took him far-too long to make his point.

He was redundant and boring.

His cigarette smoking also exhibits his poor self control and makes him a questionable role model.

Other than that: The video was hilarious.

It would have been more effective had the father calmed down and expressed his thoughts and feelings in a logical and less-unintelligent manner.

Bang, Bang, Bang!
 
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An_243412 replied to ctbeth's response:
EXCUSE ME HE HAS A STUTTERING DISORDER I HAVE IT SO GET OFF HIS BACK HE BROUGHT THE LAPTOP ITS HIS PROPERTY AND SHE DESERVED IT ...
 
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jpinmiss responded:
chances are dad paid for computer, so he has the right to do it in however he chooses,
personally I think he is inmature as his daughter