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Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?

Olivia_WebMD_Staff posted:

In 2009, singer Chris Brown was charged with beating his then girlfriend, pop star Rihanna. Brown has since gone through counseling.

Lately, rumors are flying around the Internet that the two songsters have reconciled. The word is Brown even attended Rihanna's birthday party last week. After two remixes were released this week, it is true that they are once again collaborating musically.

So, could you/would you be able to forgive an ex who abused you either physically or mentally and be friends? Is it healthy or just asking for trouble?

48 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?In 2009, singer Chris Brown was charged with beating his then girlfriend, pop star Rihanna. Brown has since gone through counseling. Lately, rumors are flying around the Internet that the two songsters have reconciled. The word is Brown even attended Rihanna's birthday party last week. After two remixes were released this week, it is true that they are once again collaborating musically. So, could you/would you be able to forgive an ex who abused you either physically or mentally and be friends? Is it healthy or just asking for trouble?

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Anon_34374 responded:

it is simply supply and demand. every punching bag requires a puncher.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?it is simply supply and demand. every punching bag requires a puncher.

chancedanger responded:

Yes, I could. Sometimes people have breakdowns. It sucks to be the recipient, and I have only been so once, however if it was constantly occurring, I would part ways. I don't think I should have to compromise my well being for someone who obviously will not work on his issues.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?Yes, I could. Sometimes people have breakdowns. It sucks to be the recipient, and I have only been so once, however if it was constantly occurring, I would part ways. I don't think I should have to compromise my well being for someone who obviously will not work on his issues.

butterflygarden responded:

I hope she's not setting herself up for more bruises, even though I'd like to think therapy helps people with abuse tendencies.

If it were me, I could forgive, but I don't think I could forget. And, I certainly don't think I could bring myself to be a friend to that person and be around them all the time. Maybe I'm just not that evolved.

Butterfly

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?I hope she's not setting herself up for more bruises, even though I'd like to think therapy helps people with abuse tendencies. If it were me, I could forgive, but I don't think I could forget. And, I certainly don't think I could bring myself to be a friend to that person and be around them all the time. Maybe I'm just not that evolved. Butterfly

ilOveYouu123 responded:

- i feel like all of yall blame chris brown for the situation , what about the whole story. He wasnt the only one that hit , she had a part in the situation tooo! i am not saying hitting a woman is right , but everyone has a breaking point, or something like that. Chris Brown was wrong but he has paid for his mistakes, and i think yall should give him another chance . SORRY to say, but Chris Brown is DUMB if he gets back with rhinna because his carrer was almost runined, i LOVE chris brown so much, but i dont think he should get back with rhinna, that would be a really dumb thing !

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?- i feel like all of yall blame chris brown for the situation , what about the whole story. He wasnt the only one that hit , she had a part in the situation tooo! i am not saying hitting a woman is right , but everyone has a breaking point, or something like that. Chris Brown was wrong but he has paid for his mistakes, and i think yall should give him another chance . SORRY to say, but Chris Brown is DUMB if he gets back with rhinna because his carrer was almost runined, i LOVE chris brown so much, but i dont think he should get back with rhinna, that would be a really dumb thing !

msimfamous responded:

feel that society has handed himh is punishment. and he has paid his debt . i know history will follow him fo the rest of his life. but as a female of the same type of abuse, i got over the abuse. and the person who did the abusing. i have for given him but i will never forget. u can not move on if you keep dweling on negative past. i left that for God to handle i am more wise now. and is happily in a new relationship.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?feel that society has handed himh is punishment. and he has paid his debt . i know history will follow him fo the rest of his life. but as a female of the same type of abuse, i got over the abuse. and the person who did the abusing. i have for given him but i will never forget. u can not move on if you keep dweling on negative past. i left that for God to handle i am more wise now. and is happily in a new relationship.

Anon_160335 responded:

No, I would move on.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?No, I would move on.

An_243658 responded:

Rihanna is clearly into s&m. She even made a song about it after. Let her do what she wants, its her life.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?Rihanna is clearly into s&m. She even made a song about it after. Let her do what she wants, its her life.

ELPatton responded:

I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years.no it isnt healty for you or your kids I should have gotten out of it much sooner.its been 11 years since the relationship ended and I suffer from post tramatic stress syndrom along with both of my kids who are now in their 30's

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years.no it isnt healty for you or your kids I should have gotten out of it much sooner.its been 11 years since the relationship ended and I suffer from post tramatic stress syndrom along with both of my kids who are now in their 30's

brunosbud responded:

Are we talking Chris Brown or Bobby Brown? I'm confused...

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?Are we talking Chris Brown or Bobby Brown? I'm confused...

RaineeLuv responded:

I DON'T USUALLY REPLY TO SUCH THINGS, BUT IT WAS REALLY TURNING MY STOMACH AS I READ EACH WORD ABOUT THIS BEYOND WORSE RELATIONSHIP....I DON'T USUALLY CONDONE THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR, BUT I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO SPEAK TO RIHANNA ABOUT THE PHYSICAL ABUSE THAT WILL, I MUST REPEAT WILL GET EVEN WORSE ... THE MENTAL ABUSE ALWAYS SEEM MORE HARMFUL THAN THE PHYSICAL BUT IN ANY CASE I JUST WANNA SAY AS A BATTERED WOMAN MYSELF THAT " A REAL MAN DOES NOT PUT HIS HANDS ON A WOMAN TO HURT HER " A REAL MAN WOULD'VE PULLED THE CAR OVER AND EITHER ASK YOU TO LEAVE THE CAR OR HE WOULD'VE LEFT THE CAR HIMSELF ... NO ONE SHOULD'VE RAISED THEIR HANDS TOWARDS ONE ANOTHER IN A FORM OF - PUNCHING, HITTING, SLAPPING, BEING SPIT ON, AND THE MOST HURTFUL IS BEING MENTALLY DISRESPECTED ....

TRUST AND BELEIVE ME THE ABUSE WILL GET WORSE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?I DON'T USUALLY REPLY TO SUCH THINGS, BUT IT WAS REALLY TURNING MY STOMACH AS I READ EACH WORD ABOUT THIS BEYOND WORSE RELATIONSHIP....I DON'T USUALLY CONDONE THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR, BUT I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO SPEAK TO RIHANNA ABOUT THE PHYSICAL ABUSE THAT WILL, I MUST REPEAT WILL GET EVEN WORSE ... THE MENTAL ABUSE ALWAYS SEEM MORE HARMFUL THAN THE PHYSICAL BUT IN ANY CASE I JUST WANNA SAY AS A BATTERED WOMAN MYSELF THAT " A REAL MAN DOES NOT PUT HIS HANDS ON A WOMAN TO HURT HER " A REAL MAN WOULD'VE PULLED THE CAR OVER AND EITHER ASK YOU TO LEAVE THE CAR OR HE WOULD'VE LEFT THE CAR HIMSELF ... NO ONE SHOULD'VE RAISED THEIR HANDS TOWARDS ONE ANOTHER IN A FORM OF - PUNCHING, HITTING, SLAPPING, BEING SPIT ON, AND THE MOST HURTFUL IS BEING MENTALLY DISRESPECTED .... TRUST AND BELEIVE ME THE ABUSE WILL GET WORSE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

gomilas responded:

I wouldn't forgive him, because once a beater always a beater. You have to show yourself sef respect.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?I wouldn't forgive him, because once a beater always a beater. You have to show yourself sef respect.

3point14 replied to An_243658's response:

S&M is consentual rough sex with two willing partners.

Getting the s*** beat out of you by someone out-of-control is not the same thing.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?S&M is consentual rough sex with two willing partners. Getting the s*** beat out of you by someone out-of-control is not the same thing.

Anon_999 replied to brunosbud's response:

brunosbud - they are talking chris brown - bobby brown was married to whitney houston.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?brunosbud - they are talking chris brown - bobby brown was married to whitney houston.

Anon_999 responded:

I was abused as a wife - by my husband. I did not stay in the relationship long after we got married - I got a divorce. Once an abuser always abuser.

I never forgot what my husband did - I did forgive him, but there was no way I'd go back to him - for what - to have it repeat itself no thank you.

I believe Rihanna is asking for trouble even though Brown got therapy or counseling. Not me no way would I'd take him back.

Report This| Share this:Rihanna and Chris Brown: Forgive Abuse?I was abused as a wife - by my husband. I did not stay in the relationship long after we got married - I got a divorce. Once an abuser always abuser. I never forgot what my husband did - I did forgive him, but there was no way I'd go back to him - for what - to have it repeat itself no thank you. I believe Rihanna is asking for trouble even though Brown got therapy or counseling. Not me no way would I'd take him back.

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