I Need Help Badly
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SoulNHealing posted:
Is there anybody out there with good advice&did you are have you overcame fear without warning&no reason why should have it. It just comes out of no where and mess up,what has been a good day&turns into worse.
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rohvannyn responded:
The best thing to do in those situations is gently tell yourself that you are in control of your own mind and that fear doesn't have to rule you. It can be hard to do that at first, so start by forcing yourself to breathe slowly and deeply. It is much more difficult for the body to give you panic signals if you are breathing like that.

Improve your self talk. Constantly remind yourself that you can do this, that you can handle any situation that comes up. Say it over and over untill you start to internalize it.

Give yourself time. Nothing worth doing is easy. Forgive yourself when you fail, pick yourself up and start over, as many times as it takes.

Be gentle with yourself. Freaking out about fear is worse than the fear itself... I should know because I have quite a few phobias myself. Treat yourself like you would a very good friend.

In all things, remind yourself "I can handle this."

Good luck!
 
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sittingbull594 replied to rohvannyn's response:
ROH

You have given excellent advice for this will work for many things that are a problem. I really appreciate your gentle simple solution tho hard to do.... reality.

Saying I can handle this IS HUGE! Time is a hard thing to conceptualize when situations seem timeless. I'm only answering this post not as the original poster but just thinking on here.

thanks again.
 
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rohvannyn replied to sittingbull594's response:
Thanks, Sittingbull. I appreciate your thoughts. And I'm trying to take my own advice!