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    Continued Depression
    coffeedude13 posted:
    I have had depression for years and continue to have into now in my early 50's. Been on anti-depressants fro some time and don't seem to work. This has not helped especially with a lot of death in my family (i.e.: brother/father 3 months apart) and recently, my mom. I don't know what to do and feel very alone in this world. Feedback would be appreciated for folks with similar feelings or experiences.
    Thank you
    richartjp responded:
    Consider consulting with your doctor on switching to different medication and/or dosage. I've been on 6 different medications since the late 90's. After awhile the meds and/or the dosage didn't work for me. When switching it does take a bit to identify the right med and the correct dosage so give it time. Also, depression due to your loss is normal ... it does need to run its course. I've recently lost my best friend. I think he knew me better than my wife. He was a tremendous support over the years. Fortunately I have a couple other men I can talk with regularly. Do you have any close friends you can confide in? Do things with?
    frank57 responded:
    I am sorry coffeedude for your family deaths. And your long term depression. I too have been depressed for a very long time, and often feel very alone,(like right now) but at other times have done really well too. When my mother died a few years ago, the depression deepened of course . The only thing I found useful was to write a list of which was depression and which was grief. Then I started a journal of letters to my Mom telling her how much I missed her, how much I needed her, and even how mad I was that she left me. Of course every page was stained with tears. I also started doing some things that I knew she would be proud of me for. I volunteer some time every week as a respite care worker. I have 2 older clients and I brighten their days. That puts a smile on my face most of the time. I don't know if any of this helps, but it did for me. Thanks for reading.
    coffeedude13 replied to richartjp's response:
    Hi richartjp,

    Thank you so much for the reply.

    I have a few friends that I can confide in. I am a workaholic by nature and a safety inspector which I enjoy very much but this should not be my entire life. I have a wife and 11 year old daughter however, it is hard for them to understand. I am going to peak with my MD a little more and see what course that can do.

    I look forward to communicating with you and again, thank you for your reply.
    coffeedude13 replied to frank57's response:
    Hi frank57,

    I am sorry for the loss of your mom too. I know that feeling as your mom is really someone who is always close to your heart. Lord knows that I miss my mom very much which made it even more difficult as she passed away last year on my daughter's 10th birthday. That hit real hard and still does.

    Its interesting that I wanted a paramedic career and did go through the training. I had to leave it because it was too emotional for me. Now I am a safety inspector which still has its moments but better.

    That is great that you volunteer and sounds wonderful that you brighten their days. I think you get a lot of joy in helping others and sounds like that is great for you.

    Thank you again for your reply.

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