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    semed posted:
    Does anyone even appreciate this holiday anymore? I'm really beginning to wonder. Banks won't let you use your money, family treat you like crap, all it is is me me me, mine mine mine. When adults have no manners and treat children like dirt or vice versa you begin to understand how our government got out of control. commercialism is on the rise. There are no family values cuz schools teach your kids to yell abuse when being disciplined. I'm 53, I say please thankyou excuse me and I'm sorry alot cuz I need to ride electric carts and I don't want to be in anyone's way. But other adults my age can chew out children just for being around.

    There is a lot in my life I feel guilty for, even thankful for. My depression That I've suffered with for most of my life actually is getting better. Yet I can't help but feel sad that there are so many people out there who truly have no clue about common decency. It's enough to depress you if you weren't already there. I'm so sad for the people in our civilized world. No wonder some don't want to be around for this time of year. This time of year is too cut throat for the people who need and cannot find someone to be with. I've contemplated it and I still am.

    Is it truly worth it anymore?
    rohvannyn responded:
    I completely hear you! Those are many of the reasons why I don't do much at all to celebrate the holidays, other than return holiday greetings when offered, get my nearest and dearest (a total of four poeple) something to let them know I'm thinking of them, and that's about it. Other than that, I just try to be a little nicer and more polite than usual because everyone else gets so stressed out.

    The holidays seem to put so much pressure on everyone, pressure that wouldn't be there if folks forgot about the commercialism and remembered the real reason for the season. No, this is isn't where I get all religious... the real reason for any winter holiday is simply to make the lives of people enduring the dark of winter a little brighter. It's a time to celebrate family (if present) and good cheer at a dark time. For some, it's also religious. It drives me bananas that this innocent intent gets turned into greed and black friday mobs and stress and jostling at the store!

    When I'm feeling better, I try to lead by example. Please, Thank you, You're welcome, Excuse me, and holding the door never goes out of style, even though it seems like it does. You have an ally out there. I'm a little younger but I see the same things as you do. I appreciate what you do and what you see.

    Don't be defeated by the holidays... find some way to make them special for you. If that means hiding from the bell ringers and reading a book you've been wanting to read for a long time, so be it! I wish you the best.
    semed replied to rohvannyn's response:
    Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot. I have a very dear friend I haven't seen in 19 yrs. 12/24/93 he and my husband got into an accident and my husband passed 2 monyhs later from pneumonia complications. I read a couple thongs he wrote on FB and realized I can't stay BAH HUMBUG. Not with him. He is hurting worse than I am for same reason. I reached out and emailed.

    This season scares me. It makes me more depressed. I try to hide it from my grandkids (I live with them and my daughter.) I'm not going to do anything stupid, yet I feel so disheartened when the pettiness of civilization rears its head. I want to lash out. I want to scream til everyone realizes this is a celebration of life, love, family. The only problem is that they won't hear it. They're oblivious to the actual feelings. Money all wise and wonderful blinds and deafens even the youngest. My heart is sad for them. Maybe they'll wake up one day and realize that love is is so much more rich.

    Merry Christmas to all that read this. Hug and kiss one another you just don't know how long you have. Make it worthwhile.
    rohvannyn replied to semed's response:
    I will do that, I promise you. One day they will realize you are right. Till then, simple expressions of how much others mean to you will eventually become more valuable than the most expensive gift. I completely hear and understand your frustration. And it's awesome that you reached out to your friend. That kind of thing is what this season is all about.

    You know what would be a nice tradition for this day, for those of us who are far from loved ones? Letter writing. A nice, heartfelt letter on real paper and sent through the mail to let them know we are thinking of them. It's a thought I just had, and I'm going to do it this year.

    This year, my 92 year old grandmother embroidered me two kitchen towels. She has embroidered all her life and though the design was simple and not really thing kind of thing I would normally have, I treasure them. She was taking her time to gift me with her creativity, in return for the letters I've been sending to her all year with little drawings in them. We live thousands of miles apart but I have never felt closer to her. I honor her for her gift of love! So I will spend part of today writing her a heartfelt thank you note. I will give her part of my day even though I won't be able to talk to her.

    I wish you a happy day filled with kindness and love.
    diytestkitsdotcom responded:
    Hi semed,

    It's so nice that even through your depression you are still able to think that common courtesy should come before any material thing this holiday season. Many forget the true essence to be celebrated at this time.

    This season should be celebrating love, kindness, equality, forgiveness, repentance, and sacrifice, which are the values that this season should embody. Everyday has to be lived in the guidance of these same values, but at this time each year, they must shine brighter in each of us.

    Over the years these values have become lost as people get more caught up in materialism - believing that love and kindness are equated by a price tag. Most think that gifts are tangible things to be held and admired by the eyes. Superficiality has become the skin by which we live in, especially the youth who grew up in the lap innovation and advancement.

    But if a few lead by example, as rohvannyn has said, it will be a good way to change over others and make them see the real meaning of this holiday season. There is always hope, all there is to do is believe.

    Thank you for reminding us what is more important and what must be held more dear. Kudos to you!

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