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The Past The Future

Anon_231408 posted:

I don't think I should put my whole life story up here. Who would want to read a book on here? Anyway I struggle a lot with how my family treated me and how my Mother still acts. I have tried fixing it and just putting it all behind me and having a relationship with them but it never works. She see's too much of my father in me i guess? People who also know her and what has happened say she is jealous? I think maybe she just blames me or hates me. To this day for lil over a year I have just gone by saying I don't have a mother. People say I need to just get over it and look into the future. I try to keep a positive mind but I guess I have triggers that just cause everything to come crashing down. My mind wont let the thoughts and experiences go. I was hoping to find some sort of help to maybe let it go or find away to stop the thoughts from coming. I just want to be happy and enjoy my life, instead of letting them continue to ruin it.

6 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:The Past The FutureI don't think I should put my whole life story up here. Who would want to read a book on here? Anyway I struggle a lot with how my family treated me and how my Mother still acts. I have tried fixing it and just putting it all behind me and having a relationship with them but it never works. She see's too much of my father in me i guess? People who also know her and what has happened say she is jealous? I think maybe she just blames me or hates me. To this day for lil over a year I have just gone by saying I don't have a mother. People say I need to just get over it and look into the future. I try to keep a positive mind but I guess I have triggers that just cause everything to come crashing down. My mind wont let the thoughts and experiences go. I was hoping to find some sort of help to maybe let it go or find away to stop the thoughts from coming. I just want to be happy and enjoy my life, instead of letting them continue to ruin it.

reina41 responded:

I too had Mother issues, but I found a way to deal with them. Maybe I can help. If it's not too much, what has your Mother done exactly?

Report This| Share this:The Past The FutureI too had Mother issues, but I found a way to deal with them. Maybe I can help. If it's not too much, what has your Mother done exactly?

Zalindara replied to reina41's response:

well recently all she can do is talk about me in all the wrong was. Tries to get people to think I am this horrible person. We live in a small town so it's not hard to spread stuff. I had a couple people come up to me and tell me that the had heard her saying really bad stuff but it was so bad I couldn't get them to repeat it. Last year my half-sister wrote really mean things on my car and they told my Grandmother I deserved it. When I was in highschool she constantly picked on me just seemed like everything I did was horrible and that I was a horrible person. She even told high school kids crap and I am sure they spread. My high school experience was crap because of her and it's been that way since I can remember. My grandparents raised me though. Her and my step-dad and the 2 half-sisters I have went and took family photos. I didn't get to go. There are many other things. She wasn't never really abusive physically but some of the things she would say or do was bad enough.

Report This| Share this:The Past The Futurewell recently all she can do is talk about me in all the wrong was. Tries to get people to think I am this horrible person. We live in a small town so it's not hard to spread stuff. I had a couple people come up to me and tell me that the had heard her saying really bad stuff but it was so bad I couldn't get them to repeat it. Last year my half-sister wrote really mean things on my car and they told my Grandmother I deserved it. When I was in highschool she constantly picked on me just seemed like everything I did was horrible and that I was a horrible person. She even told high school kids crap and I am sure they spread. My high school experience was crap because of her and it's been that way since I can remember. My grandparents raised me though. Her and my step-dad and the 2 half-sisters I have went and took family photos. I didn't get to go. There are many other things. She wasn't never really abusive physically but some of the things she would say or do was bad enough.

reina41 replied to Zalindara's response:

That sounds terrible. I know it's hard when even your family doesn't seem to care. Not to sound all psychological, but what kind of childhood did your Mother have? That's how I was able to come to terms with my Mom. I realized that her abusive upbringing didn't prepare her how to properly treat a child of her own. I'm not making excuses, but we all get how we are for a reason. So, you did have grandparents raise you that loved you and took care of you though?

Report This| Share this:The Past The FutureThat sounds terrible. I know it's hard when even your family doesn't seem to care. Not to sound all psychological, but what kind of childhood did your Mother have? That's how I was able to come to terms with my Mom. I realized that her abusive upbringing didn't prepare her how to properly treat a child of her own. I'm not making excuses, but we all get how we are for a reason. So, you did have grandparents raise you that loved you and took care of you though?

ladybird81 replied to Zalindara's response:

I can understand how you feel. My family could give a crap about me. I am the youngest of 6 children and I definately got the short end of the stick. My mom took alot of her anger out on me. She shut me down emotionally. I was never allowed to express how I feel. Crying was bad and I was always the bad person and everything was my fault. The more I try to distance myself from them. The more guilt I get. Its a twisted web. I am sorry your mom and half-sisters are so mean to you. I am in therapy trying to figure it all out. I find that writing helps me get out my thoughts.

Report This| Share this:The Past The FutureI can understand how you feel. My family could give a crap about me. I am the youngest of 6 children and I definately got the short end of the stick. My mom took alot of her anger out on me. She shut me down emotionally. I was never allowed to express how I feel. Crying was bad and I was always the bad person and everything was my fault. The more I try to distance myself from them. The more guilt I get. Its a twisted web. I am sorry your mom and half-sisters are so mean to you. I am in therapy trying to figure it all out. I find that writing helps me get out my thoughts.

Zalindara replied to reina41's response:

have no idea how she got raised. No they werent the greatest either. The problem was they would believe her. They stopped me from going to my friends house(who was mexican. They are white) because my mother told my grandparents that I was making out with some guy in my friends front yard. One time she told them that I my friend had helped me sneak out my room even though I dont think there was anyway I could. Then they thought I was having sex with every guy I talked to and was on drugs...

Report This| Share this:The Past The Future<i>have no idea how she got raised. No they werent the greatest either. The problem was they would believe her. They stopped me from going to my friends house(who was mexican. They are white) because my mother told my grandparents that I was making out with some guy in my friends front yard. One time she told them that I my friend had helped me sneak out my room even though I dont think there was anyway I could. Then they thought I was having sex with every guy I talked to and was on drugs...</i>

Zalindara replied to ladybird81's response:

I have tried this blog thing to just be able to get things out as well. Yeah everything was my fault too and still is...
I'm bad with emotions and I have a hard time caring

Report This| Share this:The Past The FutureI have tried this blog thing to just be able to get things out as well. Yeah everything was my fault too and still is...<br />I'm bad with emotions and I have a hard time caring

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