Burned out
77elizabeth posted:
Ever feel like something is missing in your life? That is how I am feeling right now. I have a career. I am able to work part time. I take care of my 2 grandkids the rest of the time. i have a great husband.
For once in my life I have friends.
Sometimes my grandkids do get a little overwelmimg. My daughter and son in law both work odd hours. We have the kids quite abit during the week and then usually on the weekends, I would do anything for my grandkids. I want to always be there for my daughter. I know that raising kids is not a easy chore anymore with the way the world is.
I have a son that live about 3 hours away. Calls everydate. Its always something that he is having a crises about. I love that kid so much but he drives me nuts. He is 27 and needs to mature somemore or maybe I should say alot more.
We never know from one day to the next what is going to happen with my husbands job the way the economy is.
I just feel like something is missing but what could it be with everything ggoing on in my life. I am really starting to feel numb to everything.
I have delt with depression for a least the past 20 years. In April of last year I was DX as bipolar II. I am on meds for that along with Prozac.
I decided to try going off of my blood pressure meds a few weeks ago. I am so tired of taking so many pills. Went and had my blood pressure checked and it was 140 over 98, so I guess I will start taking the stupid pills again.
I am really in a dark place right now. I should not be, but I am. I have to figure out somehow, how to get my life back on track.
I want to take a vacation. I need to get away. Someplace to clear my mind and do want I want to do. I want to be with my husbad where we can sit down for a romatic meal and not be intrupted by someone needing something. I hate to spend the money but I am getting desperate so I think that this trip may just have to go on Mastercard.
I feel as if I am being selfesh. I just need to get back to being me.
For once in my life I have friends.
Sometimes my grandkids do get a little overwelmimg. My daughter and son in law both work odd hours. We have the kids quite abit during the week and then usually on the weekends, I would do anything for my grandkids. I want to always be there for my daughter. I know that raising kids is not a easy chore anymore with the way the world is.
I have a son that live about 3 hours away. Calls everydate. Its always something that he is having a crises about. I love that kid so much but he drives me nuts. He is 27 and needs to mature somemore or maybe I should say alot more.
We never know from one day to the next what is going to happen with my husbands job the way the economy is.
I just feel like something is missing but what could it be with everything ggoing on in my life. I am really starting to feel numb to everything.
I have delt with depression for a least the past 20 years. In April of last year I was DX as bipolar II. I am on meds for that along with Prozac.
I decided to try going off of my blood pressure meds a few weeks ago. I am so tired of taking so many pills. Went and had my blood pressure checked and it was 140 over 98, so I guess I will start taking the stupid pills again.
I am really in a dark place right now. I should not be, but I am. I have to figure out somehow, how to get my life back on track.
I want to take a vacation. I need to get away. Someplace to clear my mind and do want I want to do. I want to be with my husbad where we can sit down for a romatic meal and not be intrupted by someone needing something. I hate to spend the money but I am getting desperate so I think that this trip may just have to go on Mastercard.
I feel as if I am being selfesh. I just need to get back to being me.
11 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Burned out<i>Ever feel like something is missing in your life? That is how I am feeling right now. I have a career. I am able to work part time. I take care of my 2 grandkids the rest of the time. i have a great husband.</i><br /><i>For once in my life I have friends.</i><br /><i></i> <br /><i>Sometimes my grandkids do get a little overwelmimg. My daughter and son in law both work odd hours. We have the kids quite abit during the week and then usually on the weekends, I would do anything for my grandkids. I want to always be there for my daughter. I know that raising kids is not a easy chore anymore with the way the world is. </i><br /><i></i> <br /><i>I have a son that live about 3 hours away. Calls everydate. Its always something that he is having a crises about. I love that kid so much but he drives me nuts. He is 27 and needs to mature somemore or maybe I should say alot more.</i><br /><i></i> <br /><i>We never know from one day to the next what is going to happen with my husbands job the way the economy is.</i><br /><i></i> <br /><i>I just feel like something is missing but what could it be with everything ggoing on in my life. I am really starting to feel numb to everything.</i><br /><i>I have delt with depression for a least the past 20 years. In April of last year I was DX as bipolar II. I am on meds for that along with Prozac.</i><br /><i></i> <br /><i>I decided to try going off of my blood pressure meds a few weeks ago. I am so tired of taking so many pills. Went and had my blood pressure checked and it was 140 over 98, so I guess I will start taking the stupid pills again.</i><br /><i></i> <br /><i>I am really in a dark place right now. I should not be, but I am. I have to figure out somehow, how to get my life back on track.</i><br /> <br />I want to take a vacation. I need to get away. Someplace to clear my mind and do want I want to do. I want to be with my husbad where we can sit down for a romatic meal and not be intrupted by someone needing something. I hate to spend the money but I am getting desperate so I think that this trip may just have to go on Mastercard.<br /> <br />I feel as if I am being selfesh. I just need to get back to being me.
lissmeanstrouble responded:
Your not selfish at all, I think its a great idea to make a trip with your hubby, but maybe take the time to save up and plan it well, so that you dont regret it, when you feel the financial issues arise from it.... I know I cant pay off my credit card! and its got a really small limit on it. I am a 20 yr old kid though, and your a grandmother, probably better at using credit cards then me ;D
Report This| Share this:Burned outYour not selfish at all, I think its a great idea to make a trip with your hubby, but maybe take the time to save up and plan it well, so that you dont regret it, when you feel the financial issues arise from it.... I know I cant pay off my credit card! and its got a really small limit on it. I am a 20 yr old kid though, and your a grandmother, probably better at using credit cards then me ;D
77elizabeth replied to lissmeanstrouble's response:
Thanks for your reply. Believe me I am not good about the credit cards! I wish I was.
Report This| Share this:Burned outThanks for your reply. Believe me I am not good about the credit cards! I wish I was.
Chris_WebMD_Staff replied to 77elizabeth's response:
Elizabeth I really do understand what you are going through. Truth is honey you won't be any good to anyone unless you take care of yourself first. And if that means taking a break and going on vacation, then you need to make time for that. Or even if you can get your nails done, a pedicure, your hair done or highlighted, something just for you!! Do it without the guilt. You raised a family and continue to help. You deserve to take care of yourself and they deserve someone that does just that!
Taking care of yourself is setting a wonderful example.
Get to the doc too, share all you are going though, it's a lot to handle. Feel better hon.
Taking care of yourself is setting a wonderful example.
Get to the doc too, share all you are going though, it's a lot to handle. Feel better hon.
Chrissy~
When the world says, Give up,
Hope whispers, Try it one more time.
~Author Unknown
When the world says, Give up,
Hope whispers, Try it one more time.
~Author Unknown
Report This| Share this:Burned outElizabeth I really do understand what you are going through. Truth is honey you won't be any good to anyone unless you take care of yourself first. And if that means taking a break and going on vacation, then you need to make time for that. Or even if you can get your nails done, a pedicure, your hair done or highlighted, something just for you!! Do it without the guilt. You raised a family and continue to help. You deserve to take care of yourself and they deserve someone that does just that! <br /> <br />Taking care of yourself is setting a wonderful example. <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0"> <br /> <br />Get to the doc too, share all you are going though, it's a lot to handle. Feel better hon.
pammie141 replied to Chris_WebMD_Staff's response:
I agree with everyone.. and I should do the same things as everyone is advising... I am in the same predicament Elizabeth, only I have one grandchild and take care of her from Tuesday to Friday for only a couple of hours a day, but I get so drained, I feel sleepy and even get grumpy once she is gone. I have 2 daughters still in school and I can't even help with homework once she is gone, my girls feel like I ignore them. I feel so drained I have to take a nap and have a headache most of the rest of the evening.. I want to be a grandma..not a babysitter.. and I work from home, and it makes it so hard to get anything done.. which I don't.. so I know what you are going through.. I just know this.. if they decide to have another child.. they will have to get daycare, I won't be able to handle it.. I feel badly for feeling this way.. but I finally have the AT HOME job I've always wanted.. my own business.. and if another child comes along I have to say no or stop working.. I hope everything works out for you Elizabeth.. take time off, I think I will take a 2 week vacation from sitting soon, or I may go crazy..
Report This| Share this:Burned outI agree with everyone.. and I should do the same things as everyone is advising... I am in the same predicament Elizabeth, only I have one grandchild and take care of her from Tuesday to Friday for only a couple of hours a day, but I get so drained, I feel sleepy and even get grumpy once she is gone. I have 2 daughters still in school and I can't even help with homework once she is gone, my girls feel like I ignore them. I feel so drained I have to take a nap and have a headache most of the rest of the evening.. I want to be a grandma..not a babysitter.. and I work from home, and it makes it so hard to get anything done.. which I don't.. so I know what you are going through.. I just know this.. if they decide to have another child.. they will have to get daycare, I won't be able to handle it.. I feel badly for feeling this way.. but I finally have the AT HOME job I've always wanted.. my own business.. and if another child comes along I have to say no or stop working.. I hope everything works out for you Elizabeth.. take time off, I think I will take a 2 week vacation from sitting soon, or I may go crazy..
I do feel like something is missing in my life too.. Me time! I have 3 grown daughters 2 have children. Ive watched 1 gc since birth, mon-fri. for 5 yrs. Its taken its toll on me. (Im very close to this one.) She often askes to spend the night. Ive had several back surgeries, & other health issues. Im currently what I call 'down'. Sick-no energy, not feeling well at all. The stress has sucked the life out of me. I dont even see my other grand-daughter, due to jealously between my daughters~ that i spend too much time w one, that i have no energy or I'm hurting too bad to spend time with the younger gc.. I love her very much and do want more time w her. My husband is getting ready to leave on 2 wk business trip, does it yearly!!! Theres his get away, wheres mine? Ill be stuck here in cold snowy weather depressed....
Report This| Share this:Burned outI do feel like something is missing in my life too.. Me time! I have 3 grown daughters 2 have children. Ive watched 1 gc since birth, mon-fri. for 5 yrs. Its taken its toll on me. (Im very close to this one.) She often askes to spend the night. Ive had several back surgeries, & other health issues. Im currently what I call 'down'. Sick-no energy, not feeling well at all. The stress has sucked the life out of me. I dont even see my other grand-daughter, due to jealously between my daughters~ that i spend too much time w one, that i have no energy or I'm hurting too bad to spend time with the younger gc.. I love her very much and do want more time w her. My husband is getting ready to leave on 2 wk business trip, does it yearly!!! Theres his get away, wheres mine? Ill be stuck here in cold snowy weather depressed....
didnt mean to reply anon... my name is Barb...
1717171717 responded:
YOU NEED TO STEP BACK AND PLAN SOME TIME WITH YOUR HUSBAND AS YOU KNOW IT IS VERY IMPORTANT.
THE GRANDCHILDREN WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU.I WAS IN A SIMULAR SITUATION AND MY WIFE AND I
WENT AWAY FOR A SHORT BREAK.IT WAS THE BEST THING WE EVER DONE.
HOPING THIS WILL HELP YOU.
THE GRANDCHILDREN WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU.I WAS IN A SIMULAR SITUATION AND MY WIFE AND I
WENT AWAY FOR A SHORT BREAK.IT WAS THE BEST THING WE EVER DONE.
HOPING THIS WILL HELP YOU.
Report This| Share this:Burned outYOU NEED TO STEP BACK AND PLAN SOME TIME WITH YOUR HUSBAND AS YOU KNOW IT IS VERY IMPORTANT.<br />THE GRANDCHILDREN WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU.I WAS IN A SIMULAR SITUATION AND MY WIFE AND I<br />WENT AWAY FOR A SHORT BREAK.IT WAS THE BEST THING WE EVER DONE.<br /> HOPING THIS WILL HELP YOU.
margieheart responded:
We all deserve peace and happiness. Sadly, people don't change especially if they don't have to. Like you, my family is a bunch of energy vampires. They suck the very life out of me. Kids are needy. My problem is a control freak husband, mentally ill 40 years old son, and whinny dog. I can't escape reality so I daydream about it. I go into the utility room, turn on the washer to drown out the noise of the TV and barking dog, and dream about how things could be. I dream about running away. I dream about sleeping til noon or getting the haircut that I like. Yes, I'm depressed, but daydreaming has allowed me to smile and go on one more day. Right now, I'm dreaming of where I'll go when I have the financial resources to run away...the books I'll read, the people I'll call, the letters I'll write. Daydream and fake it til you make it.
Report This| Share this:Burned outWe all deserve peace and happiness. Sadly, people don't change especially if they don't have to. Like you, my family is a bunch of energy vampires. They suck the very life out of me. Kids are needy. My problem is a control freak husband, mentally ill 40 years old son, and whinny dog. I can't escape reality so I daydream about it. I go into the utility room, turn on the washer to drown out the noise of the TV and barking dog, and dream about how things could be. I dream about running away. I dream about sleeping til noon or getting the haircut that I like. Yes, I'm depressed, but daydreaming has allowed me to smile and go on one more day. Right now, I'm dreaming of where I'll go when I have the financial resources to run away...the books I'll read, the people I'll call, the letters I'll write. Daydream and fake it til you make it.
mizsantos replied to margieheart's response:
jesus i thought i was the only one that thought that way. i needed somewhere to go this morning also, i also thought about running away once and for all. i feel like im being pushed out of my comfort zone. same as you i dont have the financial resources to run away and be on my own. unemployed and depressed, i feel trapped.
Report This| Share this:Burned outjesus i thought i was the only one that thought that way. i needed somewhere to go this morning also, i also thought about running away once and for all. i feel like im being pushed out of my comfort zone. same as you i dont have the financial resources to run away and be on my own. unemployed and depressed, i feel trapped.
margieheart replied to mizsantos's response:
Trapped is the perfect word. Sometimes I go to Walmart and just sit in the car. I read the newspaper, balance my checkbook, lay my seat back and close my eyes. I never have to worry that I will be too long. I know my husband or son will call any moment with a long list of things I need to do for them. I say I'm at Walmart and it's packed so I will just come on home. They don't feel guilty for bossing me around and I don't feel guilty for living in my dream world. One day I will have a few extra dollars, a change of clothes and the courage is keep driving...in my daydream.
Report This| Share this:Burned outTrapped is the perfect word. Sometimes I go to Walmart and just sit in the car. I read the newspaper, balance my checkbook, lay my seat back and close my eyes. I never have to worry that I will be too long. I know my husband or son will call any moment with a long list of things I need to do for them. I say I'm at Walmart and it's packed so I will just come on home. They don't feel guilty for bossing me around and I don't feel guilty for living in my dream world. One day I will have a few extra dollars, a change of clothes and the courage is keep driving...in my daydream.
afiliado responded:
Many medications that treat depression and BP d/o, may affect the libido.Might want to explore that possibility/opportunity?
Report This| Share this:Burned outMany medications that treat depression and BP d/o, may affect the libido.Might want to explore that possibility/opportunity?
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