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An_248509 posted:
Hi there. I am new to this community and just wanted to post a little bit about my situation. My husband and I are American and recently moved to Asia for work in August. I have been battling depression since about January, but since we have been here, it has increased quite a bit. He has a full time job and I recently found a job as well, but I work from home and don't get out much during the day while he is gone. I also don't have any friends here, don't speak the language, and generally feel very isolated and lonely. It's hard to keep in touch with family and friends because the time difference is 13 hours, so when I'm awake they're asleep, and vice versa. I guess I'm just hoping to get a little advice or learn some coping mechanisms to keep myself afloat here. I don't want to bring my husband down, even though he is very caring and sympathetic - I tend to prefer to keep my problems to myself, which is why I'm posting this anonymously. Thanks for "listening".
Jeune1 responded:
Hi. That is a huge move and it sounds like you came from my side of the U.S. Travel is stressful. Moving anywhere is stressful. Setting up household in a completely different country adds culture shock to the mix and that's applies even if you don't have a language barrier. Even a person who isn't depressed would feel extremely stressed out and likely suffer from an episode of depression.

These are just some suggestions:

See if there is a community of English speakers (even an informal one) where you are. Just getting out and mingling with people will help. Does your husband work with people whose spouses are in a similar situation?

I know it must be daunting, but don't let the language barrier keep you indoors.

Finally, think about taking language lessons will quickly increase your comfort level and give you something to do.

Again, your husband's job may offer something, there are lessons on line (check YouTube) or best of all, you might find a local tutor, perhaps someone who wants help improving his/her English. I think being able to communicate will make you feel less isolated and uneasy.

Hope this helps.

(And by the way, you can pick a user name. My name isn't really Jeune.)

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