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jaws82 posted:
My wife found a lump in her breast and had a diagnostic mammagram today and has scheduled with her doctor a needle biopsy next week. I AM TERRIFIED!! Her doctor doesnt think its cancer but we never know. Her mom was treated for breast cancer several years back so I know her chances of having it are high. I dont know what to do. We are still in marriage counseling and I guess we have another topic to discuss. We have been married almost 20 years and this is by far the worst thing to go through.Can anyone help?
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joymom responded:
Jaws I just went through this recently with my husband. He did very well but I imagined he was feeling a lot like you. Keep in mind we are feeling it too being the potential cancer patients. If doc doesn't think its cancer then trust him. You will get your answers pretty quick from the biopsy. Wait it out. Be positive. Discuss your fears with your friends or family members. If the results are positive they have cancer support groups at virtually any hospital and through the American Cancer Society that are very helpful and supportive. I know , my mother passed of brain cancer and my best friend is terminally ill with breast cancer for the second time. Its hard, not gonna lie, but helpful when you talk about it.
 
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chez1 responded:
Hi Jaws82
Remember both you and your wife have the knowledge, skills and ability to get through whatever the diagnosis is.
We all know that facing something personally is much harder than helping others in a professional manner but I hope you know, deep down you are strong and will be able to help your wife through whatever the next wee while has to throw at your both
People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily...........Zig Ziglar
 
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jaws82 replied to chez1's response:
This has been a hard day. My wife and I went to church this am and after that my wife has been crying a lot and she is scared she is going to die and that me and her dogs are going to be alone if she dies. She has the breast biopsy on Thursday after finding something from her mammogram that needs to be looked at. Her mother is a breast cancer survivor so it doesnt look promising. Its going to be a long night. What do I do, what do I say? I am very scared too because I cant picture my life without her. Maybe its nothing. Any sugggestions please?
 
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lissmeanstrouble replied to jaws82's response:
Jaws I am not sure what to say to console you and your wifes fears of her biopsy. I just want to say its more important than ever to be thankful for eachother after everything you have been through in your marriage, just be thankful for eachother, and treat eachother well.

But like you said, it could be nothing!

2 friends of mine have had breast cancer scares, and they were biopsied, turned out they were a cyst or an over sized lymph node (lymph nodes naturally occus all over our bodies and can some times harmlessly become larger, which is why you feel the bump.)

Try to look to the brighter side of things if she is positive for cancer, and be supportive that she can get through this, and is not doomed for death. My grandmother had a double masectomy when she was 68 and she is now 85.
Another friend of mine was much younger, she had a single masectomy as age 28. She has reconstructive surgery of her breasts, and is not 32, her doctors have cleared her after 5 years as a lesser relapse risk.

It can be really hard for a woman to lose her breast(s) so if that happens, you have to again, be very supposrtive. Just be thankful you still have eachother now, and thank god everyday jaws, and I believe everything will work out....
 
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niteflier responded:
Hey Jaws, hang in there and be as supportive to your wife as you can. it is a scarey time for her as well. Also, try not to put the cart before the horse.....wait until your wife has the results...
I hope this helps. I am very familiar with breast cancer, my mom had her breast removed in her 20s (still jumping on her trampoline at 75}, my grandmothers on both sides - whom also recovered. i'll say again, be as supportive to you and your wife as you can.
(((Hugs)))
nightflier
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jaws82 replied to niteflier's response:
Thanks niteflier, my wife had her biopsy this morning so now all we have to do is wait for the results and good or bad thoughts of what will happen next. What if she does have cancer? She is afraid she is going to have to write her own obituarary.I am very afraid, I dont want to lose her. I am so SCARED!!!!!!!!
 
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jaws82 replied to jaws82's response:
Everyone my wife has NO BREAST CANCER. Thanks everyone, I am still shaking.


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