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An_250627 posted:
have seen therapist in the past when i was younger. once i became of age my parent insurence dropped on me so i had stoped seeing a thereapist and stoped taking meds. i thought i was doing ok for a while then started having kids and it like i dont have the energy for anything anymore. my spouse notice the change in me im not in to anything it hard to keep me happy, im not sociable, lack of energy, just want to be by myself. im always looking sad or angry. i know i need help but i dont have anyway of seeing a therapist or to get any meds. im always fighting with my spouse and im afraid if i dont do anything i will lose my family. i dont know how to make him understand me and my past of why i am the way i am.
itmatsb responded:
You definitely need medical help. If you can't afford a doctor appointment, then look into Medicaid. Also check with you Social Services Dept. And there are low rates for meds for those in need. Talk to your pharmacy about options. If you don't get help, you may lose your family. And your quality of life needs help for YOU. Wish you the best.
Ajaradom responded:
Dear An,

My heart goes out to you. I have clinical depression --- have had it most of my adult life.

Here are some questions to help you: Have you looked into free or income based medical clinics in your area? Have you tried calling psychiatrists in your area to ask them if they will see you on a sliding scale (income based)? Do you know if you are eligible for medicare? Is there a church in your area that you would feel comfortable asking for help?

I know how difficult it is to do the smallest task when you are depressed --- even dialing a phone number or just looking in the phone book requires super human effort --- but try, try, try --- I know it's hard but try, try, try.

Do simple, little things like sit in the sunshine --- let the sun shine on your face. Laugh --- find someone or something that makes you laugh Something that helped me once --- coloring in a color book you can do that with your kids

I do not have the answers An, but asking the questions helps me, and I hope it helps you!

Sit down with your husband, take his hand in yours, and look into his eyes and tell him you need his help, you need his love and his friendship --- you need his understanding and compassion --- ask him to be patient with you because you know you need help --- tell him you want to get better so you can be there for him and your children --- ask him to help you find help.

Keep me posted --- I'd like to know how you are doing! I'll try to think of some more questions to ask you Smile, smile, smile --- set a goal for yourself to give a smile to every person you look at every day ---- make a conscious effort ---- SMILE GIRL SMILE

Peace my friend,


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