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Daughter w/ multiple mental illnesses...
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CORYSGIRL30 posted:
Hello, I'm new to this particular board, and have rejoined one other community that I was a part of for a number of yrs. I have been looking for online support, for help *coping with my daughter, 16.

She has major depression, borderline personality, PTSD, anorexia and panic disorder. She was admitted involuntarily in December, and taken back via Form 4 (Canadian terms) with police escort for reassessment last month.


I,m not sure where to start....
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Qsgirl responded:
Chnaged screen name from CORYSGIRL30 to Qsgirl. It was an old account.
 
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itmatsb responded:
Yes, you do have some major problems with your daughter. You have started by posting above. It would probably be helpful if you explain more about your specific problems or what questions you may have. My husband's daughter had borderline personality, bipolar with schizoaffective order and narcissism.
 
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CORYSGIRL30 replied to itmatsb's response:
Thanks for your reply! My brother was very recently dx'd schizophrenic, so I thought that she may have some adolescent form of that as well. 2 psych doctors told me she is too young for adolescent schizophrenia. I am not so sure. It feels like these doctors are missing something? Or maybe that I don't fully understand these conditions yet and how they interact together. One of the bigger issues is rationalization, what is real and not.

We now have a social worker for 90 days, to help the two of us learn to interact a little better. This is in place until our more permanent family therapy and her personal therapy sessions start late summer.

Is borderline personality something that she'll grow out of?
 
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itmatsb replied to CORYSGIRL30's response:
I hope that your daughter is getting some medication help as well as the therapy. The major depression and panic disorder certainly warrant it. Not sure what you mean by not knowing what is real and what is not. If you would like more help with that, give more info on that. With borderline personality, I've read that that is their personality which a personality is what someone is. However I've also read where there can be some ways for them to learn to modify their behavior.

My step daughter got many years and years of therapy which only taught her how to manipulate later therapists with all the lingo. One of them finally wrote that he had mistakenly believed her and had been manipulated.

We learned from a great psychologist to only express low emotional affect. That means not to emotionally react to anything, which just separates them from you. But it did turn out to be the only way that we could manage with her. A borderline personality can seem evil according to this psychologist who warned his staff about it in a written document, but to not see the person that way. It's just the way that they are. But there are probably many opinions about it.

Feel free to write more about the specifics that you are dealing with. We had a terrible time with my husband's daughter who then had a child of her own who she abused and ruined. We tried at one point to get custody of our grandchild with the help of my husband's ex-wife, her mother. $40,000 later between his ex-wife and us, we failed to get custody. Now her child has had nothing to do with her mother for the past 2 years and is now 18 years old. She is going about legally changing her name because she is so afraid of her mother trying to find her!!!

Perhaps with you getting help with the actual diagnosis this early, it may be a big help with your relationship with your daughter. With all the therapy that my step daughter had from the age of 13, we never knew what the true diagnoses were until she was in her late 20s. But the field of psychology has advanced since those very early days. I do wish you the best.
 
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CORYSGIRL30 replied to itmatsb's response:
I just totally lost my post...hit a wrong button after a few paragraphs. I will try to recap...

Thank you for your kind wishes. I also feel for you having to deal with your granddaughter and the legal battles that ensued. But also grateful she had family to stand by her side!

Yes, my daughter is on five medications for these illnesses. They have been increased since December and her anti-depressant is at the max. She has two anxiety meds, and one that army veterans are treated with for PTSD. The other is for sleep but has an anti-depressant effect as well.

The rationalization...She plays scenarios over and over in her mind to the point that she ends up believing "what ifs", and twists the truth/reality into something completely different.

She also replays previous conversations in her mind when she has an attack. These could be from say yesterday to even a conversation from 6 years ago. These conversations she hears are apparently not of concern to the three psych doctors she has seen, because she is *replaying them and not *creating them.

However my brother was dx'd schizophrenic in the psych ER with me in the room. My brother does the exact same thing by replaying conversations and twisting reality into something different. I was told schizophrenia can be hereditary, so my concern is that my daughters doctors are missing this. All her docs told me she is "too young" to have adolescent schizophrenia. Although they agree she is having conversations with her memories of conversations. She even had voices that didn't like cats...my daughter loves cats...yet when she had these voices appear when she saw my parent's cats, she freaked out, started pulling her hair and the skin on her neck and was curled up in a ball on a kitchen barstool.


Everyday is different. I am afraid to leave her alone at times. I cannot get her into the adolescent psych hospital again because she basically isn't manic. I even had her taken back on a physician signed Form 4 (Canadian terms)- mandatory psych assessment via police escort, and got nowhere.

So much frustration...
 
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CORYSGIRL30 replied to CORYSGIRL30's response:
Oh, I also wanted to mention your words on emotional response definitely got me. I have tried to do this, it is so hard at times. But I will keep at it...Thank you.


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