Self control
rohvannyn posted:
Has anyone here actually managed to stop their subconscious mind from affecting their actions? Is this something that cognitive behavioral therapy is supposed to correct? It seems that many times my instincts are inappropriate to the situation.

As an example, I am in a certain way predisposed to behave in a fearful way whenever I am uncertain, even if I'm not really afraid. According to others, my face looks fearful and I have fearful body language, even though I don't really feel afraid. I also tend to be resistant when challenged in my behaviors, at first, and it takes some arguing before I can bring myself to listen. Then there's the automatic self-devaluing I tend to do when I'm not being vigilant.

Does anyone know any good ways to start deprogramming myself? I think of it that way because at times my subconsious mind feels like an enemy, trying to undermine me and my relationships. I know that isn't true but that's how it feels. The answer I've been given is "just take control, it's not a complicated answer, just do it." Maybe it's simple but I just can't see how. In this matter, I feel lost and hopeless because I don't see a way out.

I'm going to repost this a couple of places, I need all the help I can get.
sittingbull594 responded:
Hello upside down kitty

I want to say that first pick the easiest one that you think could be able to change??!!

I personally would pick the challenging of behaviors because you can be talked down and listen to reason ... this might set the footwork for the rest of the behaviors you'd like to get rid of. Just my guess I'm no doc.

Let us know how you do once you decide what you're going to do with your gathered data from these forums here.